1. 2 SAM. 18:33 [By Ron Halbrook]

2. Introduction 1. 2 Sam. 18:33 David buried 3 sons: he would have died in their place if possible 33 And the king was much moved, and went up to the chamber over the gate, and wept: and as he went, thus he said, O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! would God I had died for thee, O Absalom, my son, my son! 2

3. Introduction 2. We learn great lessons from David’s grief: David’s grief for his innocent son David’s grief for his immoral son David’s grief for his insolent son 3

4. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son A. He Knew His Child Faced Death 2 Sam. 12:14-15 Announced by Nathan 14 Howbeit, because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme, the child also that is born unto thee shall surely die. 15 And Nathan departed unto his house. And the LORD struck the child that Uriah's wife bare unto David, and it was very sick. 4

5. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son A. He Knew His Child Faced Death How do we react if a loved one faces death? 5

6. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son B. David Turns to God in Prayer 2 Sam. 12:16-17 Seven days fervent prayer 16 David therefore besought God for the child; and David fasted, and went in, and lay all night upon the earth. 17 And the elders of his house arose, and went to him, to raise him up from the earth: but he would not, neither did he eat bread with them. 6

7. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son B. David Turns to God in Prayer 2 Sam. 12:16-17 Seven days fervent prayer  Penitent prayer: his sin caused danger  Loving prayer: parental affection  Hopeful prayer: God hears (Isa. 38:1-5)  Trusting prayer: God knows what is best 7

8. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son C. David Reacts to His Son’s Death 2 Sam. 12:18-23 Accepts death by faith  Vs. 20 Worships God 20 Then David arose from the earth, and washed, and anointed himself, and changed his apparel, and came into the house of the LORD, and worshipped: then he came to his own house; and when he required, they set bread before him, and he did eat. 8

9. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son C. David Reacts to His Son’s Death 2 Sam. 12:18-23 Accepts death by faith  Vs. 21 Prepares for life’s duties by faith 21 Then said his servants unto him, What thing is this that thou hast done? thou didst fast and weep for the child, while it was alive; but when the child was dead, thou didst rise and eat bread. 9

10. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son C. David Reacts to His Son’s Death 2 Sam. 12:18-23 Accepts death by faith  Vv. 22-23 Prays, then accepts death 10

11. 22 And he said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether GOD will be gracious to me, that the child may live? 23 But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.  Vv. 22-23 Pray, then accept death 11

12. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son D. “I Shall Go To Him” The dead maintain personal identity The dead are in hades till the resurrection The innocent child is safe: hope of heaven The forgiven sinner is saved: hope of heaven The safe & the saved will be in heaven! 12

13. I. David’s Grief for His Innocent Son E. When Our Loved Ones Face Death: Let us turn to God in prayer Let us accept death—prepare for life’s duties Let us prepare to join the safe & the saved  Mk. 16:15-16 Submit to the gospel of Christ  2 Pet. 1:10-11 Grow & be faithful 13

14. 15 And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature. 16 He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned.  Mk. 16:15-16 Submit to the gospel of Christ  2 Pet. 1:10-11 Grow & be faithful 14 10 Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall: 11 For so an entrance shall be ministered unto you abundantly into the everlasting kingdom of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

15. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son A. The Family Reacts to Amnon’s Rape of Tamar 2 Sam. 13:19-22 Tamar, David, & Absalom 15

16. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son A. The Family Reacts to Amnon’s Rape of Tamar 2 Sam. 13:19-22 Tamar, David, & Absalom  Vv. 19-20 Tamar devastated 16

17.  Vv. 19-20 Tamar devastated 17 19 And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colours that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying. 20 And Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this thing. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house.

18. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son A. The Family Reacts to Amnon’s Rape of Tamar 2 Sam. 13:19-22 Tamar, David, & Absalom  Vs. 21 David furious but indecisive 18 21 But when king David heard of all these things, he was very wroth.

19. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son A. The Family Reacts to Amnon’s Rape of Tamar 2 Sam. 13:19-22 Tamar, David, & Absalom  V V s. 21 David furious but indecisive o Duty to God, Tamar, Amnon, & Israel o Hindered by misguided fatherly affection indered by offender’s rank: heir to throne indered by his own past sins 19

20. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son A. The Family Reacts to Amnon’s Rape of Tamar 2 Sam. 13:19-22 Tamar, David, & Absalom  Vs. 22 Absalom has patient growing hatred 20 22 And Absalom spake unto his brother Amnon neither good nor bad: for Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar.

21. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son A. The Family Reacted to Amnon’s Rape of Tamar 2 Sam. 13:19-22 Tamar, David, & Absalom  V V s. 22 Absalom has patient growing hatred o Wait for David to react ait for right time to take revenge 21

22. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son B. Report Devastating News of Unexpected Death 2 Sam. 13:30-31 Report confusing, devastating 22

23. 2 Sam. 13:30-31 Report confusing, devastating 23 30 And it came to pass, while they were in the way, that tidings came to David, saying, Absalom hath slain all the king's sons, and there is not one of them left. 31 Then the king arose, and tare his garments, and lay on the earth; and all his servants stood by with their clothes rent.

24. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son B. Report Devastating News of Unexpected Death 2 Sam. 13:32-36 Sad, startling clarification: Absalom murdered Amnon 24 36 And it came to pass, as soon as he had made an end of speaking, that, behold, the king's sons came, and lifted up their voice and wept: and the king also and all his servants wept very sore.

25. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son C. David Reacts to His Son’s Death 2 Sam. 13:37 David mourns every day 25 37 But Absalom fled, and went to Talmai, the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur. And David mourned for his son every day.

26. C. David Reacts to His Son’s Death 2 Sam. 13:37 David mourns every day  He mourns with a father’s love  He mourns the loss of an heir  He mourns to see his sins in his sons: Amnon’s immorality, Absalom’s murder  Focus on his loss destroys the joys of life— for himself & all his family 26

27. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son D. Time Helps to Heal His Wound 2 Sam. 13:38-39 Three years pass 27 38 So Absalom fled, and went to Geshur, and was there three years. 39 And the soul of king David longed to go forth unto Absalom: for he was comforted concerning Amnon, seeing he was dead.

28. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son D. Time Helps to Heal His Wound 2 Sam. 13:38-39 Three years pass  The psalms show he turns to God for help 28

29. II. David’s Grief for His Immoral Son E. Devastating News May Come to Us We have no time to prepare, but God is there If we lose a wayward child, we should review ourselves & correct faults (if any) Leave the departed soul to a perfect God Let God help us lest we deny joy to the living Let God’s providence over time aid healing 29

30. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son A. David Was Lenient & Indecisive with Absalom 2 Sam. 14:24, 28 He let him return as an exile 24 And the king said, Let him turn to his own house, and let him not see my face. So Absalom returned to his own house, and saw not the king's face. ------------------------ 28 So Absalom dwelt two full years in Jerusalem, and saw not the king's face. 30

31. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son A. David Was Lenient & Indecisive with Absalom 2 Sam. 14:33 David fully receives Absalom 33 So Joab came to the king, and told him: and when he had called for Absalom, he came to the king, and bowed himself on his face to the ground before the king: and the king kissed Absalom. 31

32. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son B. Absalom Rebels Against His Father 2 Sam. 15:1-6 He politics behind David’s back 32

33. 2 Sam. 15:1-6 He politics behind David’s back 33 1 And it came to pass after this, that Absalom prepared him chariots and horses, and fifty men to run before him. 2 And Absalom rose up early, and stood beside the way of the gate: and it was so, that when any man that had a controversy came to the king for judgment, then Absalom called unto him, and said, Of what city art thou? And he said, Thy servant is of one of the tribes of Israel. 3 And Absalom said unto him, See, thy matters are good and right; but there is no man deputed of the king to hear thee.

34. 2 Sam. 15:1-6 He politics behind David’s back 34 4 Absalom said moreover, Oh that I were made judge in the land, that every man which hath any suit or cause might come unto me, and I would do him justice! 5 And it was so, that when any man came nigh to him to do him obeisance, he put forth his hand, and took him, and kissed him. 6 And on this manner did Absalom to all Israel that came to the king for judgment: so Absalom stole the hearts of the men of Israel.

35. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son B. Absalom Rebels Against His Father 2 Sam. 15:13-14 David flees 35

36. 2 Sam. 15:13-14 David fled 36 13 And there came a messenger to David, saying, The hearts of the men of Israel are after Absalom. 14 And David said unto all his servants that were with him at Jerusalem, Arise, and let us flee; for we shall not else escape from Absalom: make speed to depart, lest he overtake us suddenly, and bring evil upon us, and smite the city with the edge of the sword.

37. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son B. Absalom Rebelled Against His Father “Chastisement without love is an outrage; no father is at liberty to plague or torture his child; but a love that cannot chastise is no love, and reaps a poor reward. A child that does not at the proper time feel the father’s rod becomes at last a rod for his father.” (Schlier, quoted in Pulpit Commentary, 2 nd Samuel, pp. 339) 37

38. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son C. David Feared & Tried to Prevent His Son’s Death 2 Sam. 18:5 David warned Joab to spare him 38 5 And the king commanded Joab and Abishai and Ittai, saying, Deal gently for my sake with the young man, even with Absalom. And all the people heard when the king gave all the captains charge concerning Absalom.

39. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son C. David Feared & Tried to Prevent His Son’s Death 2 Sam. 18:14 Joab kills Absalom 39 14 Then said Joab, I may not tarry thus with thee. And he took three darts in his hand, and thrust them through the heart of Absalom, while he was yet alive in the midst of the oak.

40. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son D. David Reacts to Absalom’s Death 2 Sam. 18:33 He expresses deep anguish 40 33 And the king was much moved, and went up to the chamber over the gate, and wept: and as he went, thus he said, O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! would God I had died for thee, O Absalom, my son, my son!

41. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son D. David Reacts to Absalom’s Death 2 Sam. 18:33 He expressed deep anguish  A father’s love intensified by his failings: o He failed to lead by proper example e failed to love by proper discipline o “Be sure your sins will find you out” (Num. 32:23) 41

42. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son D. David Reacts to Absalom’s Death 2 Sam. 19:1-8 Depressed, unable to function  Vv. 2, 7 Extreme sorrow may bring defeat 42

43.  Vv. 2, 7 Extreme sorrow may bring defeat 43 2 And the victory that day was turned into mourning unto all the people: for the people heard say that day how the king was grieved for his son. --------- --------------- 7 Now therefore arise, go forth, and speak comfortably unto thy servants: for I swear by the LORD, if thou go not forth, there will not tarry one with thee this night: and that will be worse unto thee than all the evil that befell thee from thy youth until now.

44. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son D. David Reacts to Absalom’s Death 2 Sam. 19:1-8 Depressed, unable to function  Joab was a true friend by challenging David’s surrender to depression 44

45. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son D. David Reacts to Absalom’s Death 2 Sam. 19:1-8 Depressed, unable to function  Vs. 8 David defeated depression by faith in God & resumed his duties! 45 8 Then the king arose, and sat in the gate. And they told unto all the people, saying, Behold, the king doth sit in the gate. And all the people came before the king:

46. III. David Grieves for His Insolent Son E. We May Lose a Rebellious Child Examine ourselves to correct faults (if any) Learn how God feels with many rebelling against Him! Leave the rebellious departed soul to God Depression defeats us so we cannot function: seek God’s help, & friends, go forward by faith 46

47. Invitation 1. 2 Sam. 18:33 David buried 3 sons: he would have died in their place if possible 33 And the king was much moved, and went up to the chamber over the gate, and wept: and as he went, thus he said, O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! would God I had died for thee, O Absalom, my son, my son! 47

48. Invitation 2. We learn great lessons from David’s grief: David’s grief for his innocent son David’s grief for his immoral son David’s grief for his insolent son 48

49. Invitation 3. Let us prepare to join the safe & the saved  Mk. 16:15-16 Submit to the gospel of Christ  2 Pet. 1:10-11 Grow & be faithful 49

50. 15 And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature. 16 He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned.  Mk. 16:15-16 Submit to the gospel of Christ  2 Pet. 1:10-11 Grow & be faithful 50 10 Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall: 11 For so an entrance shall be ministered unto you abundantly into the everlasting kingdom of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.