1. LEARNING TARGETS: TODAY WE WILL: REFLECT ON OUR PERSONALITIES, INFLUENCES, I-STATEMENTS, AND HOW TO SAY NO. SO THAT WE CAN: MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION WHEN FACED WITH PEER PRESSURE OR A DIFFICULT DECISION. WE WILL KNOW WE HAVE IT WHEN: WE CAN SOLVE A COUPLE OF REAL-LIFE PROBLEMS. Lesson #23: How to Say No Effectively

2. Bellwork: Now that we’ve explored a little bit more about our personalities, let’s look at how we handle things… Part #1: Describe a time when someone tried to get you to do something that you didn’t want to do. Part #2: Share this experience with a partner and see how he/she would’ve solved it…  Don’t tell them the outcome until after they tried to solve what you could’ve done.  Did your “True Color” play a role in how you handled it or how your partner would’ve handled it?

3. So, what about influences too… In that situation where someone tried to get you to do something you didn’t want to do, what influences helped you make your decision? Influences: Goals Friends & family Interests Where we live Religion Media Laws/rules Role models Values Curiosity

4. Let’s go back… Remember way, way back in lesson #2, we talked about what an “I- statement” was? Well… I-statement: a statement that helps you honestly state your feelings, thoughts, or opinions without being disrespectful to others by blaming or putting them down. A great way to communicate your feelings with a friend.

5. I-Statement Continued… I-Statement: How you feel about what he/she did or what happened. What you would like the person to do instead and why. The impact on you because of what the person did/what happened. Simply put… I feel ____________ Please ____________ Because ___________

6. How to say No S.T.O.P. S. AY NO T. ELL WHY NOT (GIVE YOUR REASONS…)  OUR INFLUENCES GOALS LAWS VALUES FAMILY ETC O.FFER ANOTHER IDEA P. ROMPTLY LEAVE

7. Situation #1 In groups of 2-3 students Solve the following scenario keeping in mind the following Our personality traits I-Statements S.T.O.P. Write out your response to turn in for credit… Be prepared to possibly present it (skit style) Thoroughly answer each question Babysitting at a Friend of Your Family’s House: This Friday night, you are baby-sitting at a friend of the Family’s house The parents are out at dinner and you have a great time watching the kids The kids go to bed around 9:30 and you watch T.V./text with your friends until around midnight/ 1am when the parents finally get home. The Mom and Dad express their deep thanks to you and how they feel so comfortable and happy knowing that their little babies are safe and happy with you! The Dad hands you $40 cash and tells you to grab your coat and that he’ll give you a ride home (say you live about 1-2 miles away). As the Dad hands you the money, you smell alcohol on his breath… What do you do? Really…Be honest Keep in mind everything that we have talked about in class Whose life/lives are you putting at risk if you decide to accept the ride home?

8. Situation #2 In groups of 2-3 students Solve the following scenario keeping in mind the following Our personality traits I-Statements S.T.O.P. Write out your response to turn in for credit… Be prepared to possibly present it (skit style) Thoroughly answer each question Just a Sleep-over at a Friend’s House… A friend invites you and a few of your friends over for a sleep-over Everyone is having a great time and it seems like you haven’t had this much fun or laughed this much ever in your life! One of your friends at the sleep-over pulls out a pill bottle and dumps the pills out on the coffee table. The pills are all different. He/she wants everyone to try one or two and see how different each person feels. He/she says it’s like a science experiment. What do you do? Really…Be honest Keep in mind everything that we have talked about in class Whose life/lives are at risk if you just say no and walk away? Is that the best choice?