1. A Community of Two: Celebrating Mentoring Relationships Angel Flowers, Frostburg State University Joe Gutowski, Utica College

2. Introductions Who you are Where you’re from Do you have an identified mentor? What do you want out of this session?

3. Homer’s “The Odyssey” Mentor – served as a teacher and overseer of Odysseus’ son, Telemachus Athena – Goddess of War & Patroness of Arts & Industry – later takes the form of Mentor

4. Mentoring, Not a Unique Concept The word mentor evolved to mean trusted advisor, friend, teacher, and wise person Fundamental form of human development involving the investment of time, energy, and personal know-how in assisting the growth and ability of another person – Socrates & Plato, Hayden & Beethoven, Freud & Jung, Batman & Alfred, Luke Skywalker & Yoda & Obi-Wan, Angel & Joe

5. Our Story

6. Theory Into Practice Attachment Theory (Bowlby, 1969) – Styles: Secure, Avoidant, Anxious/Ambivalent – Search for compatible traits Secure Mentor/Secure Mentee Avoidant Mentor/Avoidant Mentee Anxious/Ambivalent Mentor/Secure Mentee

7. Theory Into Practice Traditional Mentoring Informal Mentoring Formal Mentoring Network Mentoring Team Mentoring – Sequential – Multiple

8. Goals of a Mentoring Relationship Strive for Mutual Benefits Agree on Confidentiality Commit to Honesty Listen and Learn Build a Working Partnership Lead by Example Be Flexible

9. Phases of a Mentoring Relationship 1. IDENTIFY

10. Phases of a Mentoring Relationship 2. NEGOTIATE

11. Phases of a Mentoring Relationship 3. FACILITATE

12. Phases of a Mentoring Relationship 4. GRADUATE

13. Mentoring as “Relationship Constellation”

14. Benefits to a Mentoring Relationship Mentees experience greater success/performance Receive more promotions/higher salaries More satisfied with jobs and career Why?

15. Cautions to a Mentoring Relationship Workplace politics Perceptions of equity Failure to meet goals/expectations Assuming that a mentor is a friend “Don’t turn your mentee into a ventee” Don’t turn your mentee into you

16. Mentoring Exercise (courtesy of @annmarieklotz & @mbloomingdale) How did your relationship form? How was the relationship formalized? What does your relationship look like on a DTD basis? What do you consider to be your role/responsibilities in this relationship?

17. Mentoring Exercise (cont.) (courtesy of @annmarieklotz & @mbloomingdale) What do you ask of each other? What does a good mentorship relationship require? How do you give each other feedback? How do you prioritize your relationship?

18. Contact Us! Angel Flowers ahflowers@frostburg.edu @Angel_Flowers88 Joe Gutowski jogutows@utica.edu @j_gutowski