1. Healthy Relationships

2. Today… Planned Parenthood has over 750 health centers Serves nearly 3 million patients annually 1 in 5 women have received services from Planned Parenthood in their lifetime Nation’s largest sex educator Reaches over 3 million people online

3. PLANNED PARENTHOOD MISSION To ensure broad public access to reproductive healthcare through direct services, education, and advocacy

4. Clinical Services Offered Birth Control STI Testing and Treatment Emergency Contraception Reproductive Health Exams Pregnancy Testing Pre-natal Referrals Adoption Referrals Abortion Services Sterilization Services

5. Planned Parenthood Services are: Confidential - Including teens Little to no cost Accessible in the community

6. Where is the Closest Health Center? Carlsbad Chula vista City Heights Express Coachella College Avenue El Cajon Escondido Euclid Avenue First Avenue Kearny Mesa Mira Mesa Mission Bay Mission Valley Express Moreno Valley Pacific Beach Express Rancho Mirage Riverside

7. The California Safely Surrendered Baby Law Within 3 days of a birth, a person can anonymously turn over a baby to an official safe place- like a hospital or fire department- without being arrested Surrendered babies are given medical treatment and placed in a foster home. A parent or guardian has up to 14 days from the time the baby is dropped off to reclaim the baby More information can be found at www.babysafe.ca.gov

8. Where can I find a health center? Visit www.planned.orgwww.planned.org Or call toll free 1.888.743.7526 (PLAN)

9. Healthy Relationships Healthy vs. Unhealthy

10. Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship We treat each other with respect We treat each other as equals We trust each other We communicate directly and honestly with clear intentions We support and encourage each other We have shared and separate interests

11. Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship Lack of respect Frequent arguments or fights Lying or cheating Only doing things together Overly jealous Boundaries are not respected Trying to control the other person Disregarding partner’s feelings or not taking them into consideration Any type of abuse

12. Power and Control

13. Communication Styles Passive Communication Aggressive Communication Assertive Communication

14. Passive Communication Based on compliance and fear on confrontation Belief that you can’t ask for what you want or need Feeling that others’ needs come before your needs Example: I wish the house were cleaner.

15. Aggressive Communication Always involves manipulation Uses guilt or intimidation to get one’s way Expresses that one’s needs are most important Example: If you really loved me you would…

16. Assertive Communication Expressing feelings, thoughts, and beliefs in an open and honest way Creates mutually satisfying/ win-win solutions Respects our rights and the rights of others Example: I need some help…will you help me?

17. Let’s Practice

18. Things to consider Communication Styles Method of Communication Communication Components: The 3 “V”s o Verbal 7% o Visual 55 % o Voice 38 % Mindful Messaging and Sharing Consent

19. Both partners agreeing to the same thing No one is under the influence of drugs or alcohol Can be withdrawn TWO enthusiastic YES’s

20. Healthy Relationships Activity

21. Communication Tips Use “I” message (I feel…) Match your messages Be mindful of your voice Silence is a tool Show R-E-S-P-E-C-T Be honest Keep an open mind Look for a compromise Think before speaking Be a “reflective” listener Deep breaths are calming Avoid ambiguity

22. Questions?