2. The lies about marital conflict 1.Real marital conflict only takes place in bad marriages 2.If you ignore the conflict, it will eventually go away 3.It is always good to sleep on it 4.Talking to others and gaining their counsel ahead of time is helpful 5.If you really loved that person, you would not disagree so intensely

3. Ephesians 4:25-32 NCV So you must stop telling lies. Tell each other the truth, because we all belong to each other in the same body. When you are angry, do not sin, and be sure to stop being angry before the end of the day. Do not give the devil a way to defeat you. Those who are stealing must stop stealing and start working. They should earn an honest living for themselves. Then they will have something to share with those who are poor. When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need

4. Ephesians 4:25-32 NCV -words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you. And do not make the Holy Spirit sad. The Spirit is God's proof that you belong to him. God gave you the Spirit to show that God will make you free when the final day comes. Do not be bitter or angry or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others. Never do anything evil. Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ. Ephesians 4:25-32 NCV

5. The rules of a good fight truth 1.You must tell the truth So you must stop telling lies. Tell each other the truth, because we all belong to each other in the same body. (4:25 NCV) angry 2. Allow one another to be angry When you are angry, do not sin, (4:26 NCV) Control 3. Control your anger When you are angry, do not sin, (4:26 NCV)

6. today’s 4.Take care of today’s problems today and be sure to stop being angry before the end of the day. (4:26) specific 5.Be specific about solutions Those who are stealing must stop stealing and start working. They should earn an honest living for themselves. Then they will have something to share with those who are poor. (4:28) tactful 6.Be tactful with your words When you talk, do not say harmful things, (4:29)

7. Build 7. Build up your spouse when you can but say what people need--words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you. (4:29) God 8.Acknowledge that God is present And do not make the Holy Spirit sad. The Spirit is God's proof that you belong to him. God gave you the Spirit to show that God will make you free when the final day comes. (4:30)

8. trash 9. Throw out the trash Do not be bitter or angry or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others. Never do anything evil. (4:31) Forgive 10. Forgive unconditionally Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ. (4:32)