1. T HE S EVEN H ABITS OF H IGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENS Sean Covey

2. B E P ROACTIVE Habit 1

3. B E PROACTIVE You choose to be Proactive or Reactive, you are in complete control of how you act to a situation What type of language are you using? I’ll try vs. I’ll do it Reactive people are “victims” Remember you can only control how you react. You cant control the situation or act that happens to you, just what you do. See the solution, not the problem. Turn your setback into triumph Don’t be afraid to “push pause”

4. R EACTIVE V S. P ROACTIVE LANGUAGE That’s just the way I am There’s nothing I can do I have to I can’t You ruined my day I can do better than that Let’s look at all the options I choose to … There’s got to be a better way I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me ReactiveProactive

5. B EGIN WITH THE END IN M IND Habit 2

6. B EGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Stop and think, where do you see yourself a year from now? Develop a personal mission statement Create some goals (even a bucket list!) Develop steps to achieve those goals… sounds a lot like CAS doesn’t it? Get other like minded people involved Make your life extraordinary!

7. G HANDI ’ S G OAL WAS TO LIBERATE 300 I NDIANS … W HAT IS YOUR GOAL ? W HO WILL YOU IMPACT ?

8. P UT FIRST THINGS FIRST Habit 3

9. T IME QUADRANTS The procrastinatorThe Prioritizer The Yes- ManThe Slacker Who are you?

10. ARE YOU LETTING YOUR FEARS MAKE YOUR DECISIONS ? Decide if you are in the Courage zone or the comfort zone What makes success? Sometimes you have to suck it up and do the things you don’t like to do Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it Not everything is fun, but it is almost always worthwhile Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear." - Ambrose RedmoonAmbrose Redmoon “It always seems impossible until its done.” Nelson Mandela quotes

11. T HE RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNT Are you making more withdrawls than deposits? How often are you making deposits? Ways to make deposits: keep promises do small acts of kindness be loyal listen say you’re sorry set clear expectations what is your expectation? What is their expectation?

12. T HINK W IN - WIN Habit 4

13. W HO ARE YOU ? Lose/Win – the doormat Lose/Lose – the downward spiral Win/Win- the all you can eat buffet You get to decide which of the previous scenarios you use… You are in control Who is your win/win role model? What are comparing with other people? Is it really helping you to compare yourself to them?

14. S EEK F IRST TO U NDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD Habit 5

15. B EFORE I CAN WALK IN ANOTHERS SHOES, I MUST REMOVE MY OWN Are you a talker? Spend the day just listening. Try expressing your feelings in a responsible way, rather than burying them. How do you listen? Do you make eye contact? Do your watch body language? 5 poor listening styles: Spacing out Pretend listening Selective listening Word listening Self-centered listening (judging, probing, advising?)

16. S YNERGIZE, “ THE H IGH - WAY ” Habit 6

17. W HAT IS SYNERGY ? When 2 or more people work together to create a better solution than either could alone. What is your profile? Shunner- afraid of differences Tolerator- everyone has right to be different, but don’t embrace diversity Celebrator- value differences, see them as an advantage Roadblocks to celebrating differences: Ignorance, cliques, prejudice **remember synergy is more than just compromise or cooperation, its creative cooperation

18. F ORMULA FOR S YNERGY Define the problem Their way (understand their pov) My way (have others understand my pov) Brainstorm High way (find the best solution) Attacking problems or issues with a game plan helps to take the emotion out of things and helps you reach an acceptable conclusion.

19. S HARPEN THE SAW Habit 7

20. T AKE CARE OF YOURSELF Body: eat breakfast, exercise, try to get to bed a little earlier Mind: challenge yourself by expanding your reading base, try visiting a new museum or try a different kind of cuisine Heart: try a one on one “date” with a family member, try to build a humor collection and “smile” Soul: watch a sunrise or sunset, keep a journal, meditate/reflect/pray- whatever works for you