1. How many people in your life (actually) listen to you?

2. Safe(r) Space Listen Validate options (ask first) Applaud Reframe (http://sacha.ca/need-support/supporting- someone-you-know) Most of all be HONEST about what you know

3. Listen – be actively engaged (eye contact, nodding, affirmations of your attention) Validate – let people know that they did their best given their experiences and their knowledge on the matter options (ask first) – ask if they would like resources or to problem solve Applaud – applaud ways in which they are resisting (trust me these are easy to find) Reframe – reframe any oppressive talk and self-blame

4. Greet newcomers to the space Moderate the space Facilitate conversation (when needed) Provide resources Be there to accomplish the above ideas, not necessarily to socialize (we do not want cliques)

5. Think of a space where you have felt safe?

6. 3 Separate Spaces Positive space – Pre-emptive – Some issues are taboo to bring up/talk about Safe space – A little more open than a positive space, – The taboo issues can be talked about, based on the comfortability of the individuals Healing space – Open talk, but exclusive as to who can enter

7. Safe(r) Space Rules Operate on the basis of consent Don’t dismiss or derail issues raised by a marginalized group to which you don’t belong Usually what makes you uncomfortable contradicts our knowledge and experiences as a member of a privileged group Recognize your privilege and pay attention to other perspectives

8. Respect Healing Spaces Don’t go into spaces that want to build strength and solidarity within marginalized groups The lived experience of certain marginalized groups cannot be understood by everyone, and there is a lack of spaces in the outside to house these conversations Listen when the marginalized group is telling you that space is not for all students and explain to other students why healing spaces are needed (above)

9. Privilege Participate in conversations that respond to comments, take responsibility for your comments and engage in good faith dialogue Sit in the discomfort of having your privilege pointed out and about how you may benefit from different forms of oppression –This is how you learn Don’t continuously ask a member of a marginalized group to educate you/others based off their lived experience – research online (these resources exist)

10. Trigger Language Language that promotes anti-feminism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, racism, classism, religious discrimination, ageism, fatphobia, ableism, or any other form of discrimination toward any group of people is not permitted When conversations that speak of traumatic experiences come up– it is best to debrief with the group and provide relevant resources afterwards Signage will let students know that there are different ways of disengaging from a conversation in a way that doesn’t “out” them

11. Issues That May Come Up Language and actions that promote anti- feminism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, racism, classism, religious discrimination, ageism, fatphobia, ableism, or any other form of ignorance, discrimination, or hatred toward any group of people Intend to personally attack Blame someone, particularly people sharing their personal stories, for their issues

12. Take care of yourself Get support from your fellow volunteers, there is a contact list being passed around SWC staff SHEC Peer Support PSL Contact the PTM and other exec