1. Managing the Rollercoaster Ride of Your Student’s First Year Dr. Christina Spearman Assistant Dean of Students and Director of Student Life

2. Do you like rollercoasters? Changes in the first semester of college can feel like an emotional rollercoaster ride for students and parents/guardians. This session will explore developmental changes first year college students experience, particularly with today’s cultural influences, and discuss ways parents/guardians and University administrators can partner to help students manage the ride.

4. Question: How many parents/guardians are sending their first child to college? Of those who have sent other children, how many of you noticed changes in their first year?

5. Who are they? Are college students children or adults? Do they consider themselves children or adults? New term-Emerging Adulthood (Arnett, 2000) ◦ 18-25 ◦ Become more independent and explore various life possibilities ◦ Can last until 30

6. Factors that can Have an Impact on Emerging Adulthood “World’s Longest Umbilical Cord” –Dr. Richard Mullendore

7. Helicopter versus Snow Plow Learned Helplessness Lack of Self Efficacy Cluttered Nest versus Empty Nest Factors that can Have an Impact on Emerging Adulthood

8. Developing Competence Intellectual/Academic ◦ Reading a syllabus ◦ Establishing a relationship with faculty ◦ Study habits and time management Academic Resources ◦ Tutoring at the Study in Jenkins Hall (shift from being the tutor) ◦ Workshops on time management, note taking, and course management ◦ Writing Center in Maryland Hall to help with critical writing skills

9. Interpersonal/Social Competence Question-How many of your students had their own rooms at home? Difference between siblings and roommates Adjustment to communal living away from home Successful communal living requires Civility, Communication, and Compromise Cleanliness is also important

10. Interpersonal/Social Competence Need to establish a new friend group and support network Many are leaving long-term friendships behind “Get in where you fit in” Need to balance free time and get involved in productive ways Identity development and “sense of belonging”

11. Managing Emotions One of the primary factors that leads to the conduct process Still growing into emotional maturity May look “grown up” but looks can be deceiving Reminder of emerging adulthood Venting versus asking for help

12. Managing Emotions Brain is still developing well into 20s Need to understand, accept, and express emotions Difficulty of face-to-face communication and impact of technology ◦ Stream of consciousness for the whole Internet Dealing with anxiety, depression, and/or other mental health concerns

13. Moving Through Autonomy Toward Interdependence They are now in charge of their schedule full time For many of you, this used to be your job

14. Moving Through Autonomy Toward Interdependence They have to begin navigating their own challenges with your support and guidance Total independence is not the goal-Interdependence is key What do you do when they call you with a problem?

16. How to Support Your Student Help them brainstorm resources Parents/guardians are powerful referral agents Help them practice conversations Resist the urge to immediately step in Remind them of the resources in the Loyola community

17. Shared Goals We want to partner with you We often want the same things We may have different methods What is most beneficial for emerging adults? Who is the best person to help this emerging adult? Students have to begin to take ownership for their Loyola experience and learn to problem solve

18. Trust the Process!

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