1. Chapter 7 Conflict Resolution

2. Health Inventory 1. When I am involved in a conflict, I try to listen to what the other person has to say. a)alwaysb)sometimesc)never 2. I walk away from conflicts that are not worth my time and energy. a)alwaysb)sometimesc)never 3. I seek help when I cannot resolve a conflict on my own. a)alwaysb)sometimesc)never

3. Lesson 1 I CAN: -Explain some reasons why conflicts occur. -Describe different kinds of conflict. -Develop healthy and effective ways to deal with bullying.

4. Words to Know ~conflict~bully ~labeling ~prejudice ~escalate~revenge ~mob mentality~conflict resolution ~win-win solution~mediation ~neutral~compromise

5. Conflict

6. Lesson 1 ~ The Nature of Conflict What is Conflict? ~a disagreement between people with opposing viewpoints, ideas, or goals WHY DO CONFLICTS OCCUR? Conflicts can be caused by a difference of opinion over just about anything. They can occur over relationships, space or property. They can also be about power, rewards, or privelages.

7. Where do you think kids your age encounter conflict the most?

8. Kinds of Conflict Interpersonal & Internal Interpersonal- between two or more people Internal- take place inside your own mind (Examples??)

9. Conflicts at Home What kinds of conflict occur at home? Conflicts with parents or guardians usually occur over limits, responsibilities, and expectations. When conflicts like these come up, try to remember that parents set limits to ensure their children’s well being. They are responsible for keeping you safe and healthy.

10. Conflicts Outside the Home What kinds of conflict occur at school? You spend much of your day at school. As a result, many of the conflicts you have outside the home relate to school, friends, and peers.

11. Conflict vs Bullying What is the difference?

12. Bullying Imbalance of POWER -walking away takes the bully’s power Labeling - name-calling Prejudice - a negative and unjustly formed opinion, usually against people of a different racial, religious, or cultural group **Words should be used to build people up, not to tear them down.

13. Lesson 2 I CAN: ~identify factors that build conflicts ~prevent conflicts from becoming serious ~develop stress-management techniques to release anger

14. Lesson 2 ~ Preventing Conflict Why Conflicts Build ~Many conflicts do not go beyond an exchange of words. Others escalate, or become more serious.

15. THE WARNING SIGNS The Warning Signs of Building Conflict PHYSICAL SIGNSEMOTIONAL SIGNS A knot in the stomachFeeling concerned Faster heart rateGetting defensive A lump in the throatWanting to cry Balled up fistsNot feeling valued Cold or sweaty palmsWanting to lash out A sudden surge of energyWanting to escape

16. Conflict MOB MENTALITY-this is acting or behaving in a certain and often negative manner because others are doing it Conflict Causes Anger Jealousy Alcohol & Other Drugs Group Pressure

17. Conflict Revenge - punishment, injury, or insult to the person seen as the cause of the strong emotion, “payback” Talking about feelings of jealousy or anger with a trusted adult is a better idea than seeking revenge. **You could end up hurting someone or getting hurt your self.

18. Preventing Conflicts from Building Learn to understand your feelings. Keep your conflicts private. Avoid using alcohol or other drugs. Show respect for yourself and for others. Learn to accept others. Try putting yourself in the other person’s situation.

19. Exit Slip 1. Evaluate Andy and his best friend, Jake, tried out for the concert band. Jake made it, but Andy did not. Now Andy can not bring himself to congratulate Jake, but he is not sure why. Tell what Andy may be feeling and what he can do about it. 2. Name two ways to prevent conflicts from building.

21. Lesson 3: Resolving Conflicts I can… Demonstrate effective skills for resolving conflict Recall the steps of the mediation process Identify traits of a good mediator

22. Resolving Conflicts conflict resolution win-win solution mediation compromise

23. Resolving Conflicts Quick Write Activity Write two ways of communicating that could lead to conflict. Next to each, write how the same idea could be expressed in a more positive way.

24. Finding Constructive Solutions Conflict Resolution means solving a disagreement in a way that satisfies both sides

25. Conflict Resolution Conflict Resolution is a skill Remember the acronym T.A.L.K T ake a time-out: Wait at least 30 minutes before you discuss the situation with the other person This will give you a chance to calm down and think clearly.

26. Conflict Resolution A llow each person to tell his or her side. Each person should have a chance to explain his or her feelings without interruption.

27. Conflict Resolution L et each person ask questions. Each person should have the chance to question the other. Stay calm and respectful.

28. Conflict Resolution K eep brainstorming. Be open to trying different solutions that will satisfy you both.

29. Conflict Resolution Winners or Losers? When one person gets their way, it doesn’t mean that they have ‘won’ and you have ‘lost.’ When the T.A.L.K. strategy is used, a win-win situation is possible.

30. A Need for Mediation If you can not reach a solution, a third person, or