1. Self Awareness and Self Regulation

2. “Knowing others is wisdom, Knowing yourself is Enlightenment” - Lao Tzu

3. Conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires. Oxford Dictionary Self awareness: Definition

4. Ability to recognize and understand one’s emotions and how these affect others and one’s own self Capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals Ability to assess one’s personality, behaviors & skills accurately First step in creating what we want and mastering ourself What is Self-Awareness?

5. Self awareness is about learning to better understand why we feel what we feel and why we behave in a particular way Having clarity about who we are and what we want can be empowering, giving usu the confidence to make changes Who am I??...

6. To have a better understanding of ourselves To be able to experience ourselves as unique and separate individuals. To empower ourselves to make changes and to build on our areas of strength as well as identify areas where we would like to make improvements. To set appropriate goals. To be able to admit mistakes. To see where our thoughts and emotions are taking us To improve performance To develop intrapersonal skills and interpersonal skills Why to become self aware?

7.  By Observing one’s own thoughts, behaviors, skills, using validated, structured questionnaires  By Comparing observations to an external source (e.g., a standard or known other or first impression of other)  By Incorporating comparison into self observation & subsequent behavior How to become self aware??

8. Think about describing yourself to another person without mentioning anything about the external things that are in your life, your friends, family, studying etc. Concentrate only on yourself, how you feel and behave, perhaps recognizing some of your strengths and weaknesses. Try this challenge

9. The Johari Window can be looked at from many angles and provides four basic forms of the Self (the Known, Hidden, Blind, and Unknown Self). The Johari Window Known Self Things we know about ourselves and others know about us. Hidden Self Things we know about ourselves that others do not know. Blind Self Things others know about us that we do not know. Unknown Self Things neither we nor others know about us.

10. Is what you and others see in you. This is the part that you are able to discuss freely with others. Most of the time you agree with this view you have and others have of you. The Known Self

11. The Hidden Self is what you see in yourself but others don’t. In this part you hide things that are very private about yourself. You do not want this information to be disclosed for the reason of protection. It could also be that you may be ashamed of these areas and feel a vulnerability to having your faults and weaknesses exposed. This area equally applies to your good qualities that you don’t want to advertise to the world due to modesty. The Hidden Self

12. The Blind Self is what you don’t see in yourself but others see in you. You might see yourself as an open-minded person when, in reality, people around you don’t agree. This area also works the other way. You might see yourself as a “dumb” person while others might consider you incredibly bright. Sometimes those around you might not tell you what they see because they fear offending you. It is in this area that people sometimes detect that what you say and what you do don’t match and sometimes body-language shows this mismatch. The Blind Self

13. Is the self that you cannot see, others can’t see it either. In this category there might be good and bad things that are out of the awareness of others and you. This refers to untapped potential talents and skills that have yet to be explored by you, your friends, colleagues or managers. The Unknown Self

14. Self Awareness Values Clarification Personal Strengths and Weaknesses Interpersonal Awareness Expansion Individual Self Awareness Interpersonal Self Awareness Professional Self Awareness

15. What do I believe my strengths are? What do I believe my weaknesses are? What do I believe my leadership style is? What do I believe my prejudices, biases and preferences are? How do these affect my leadership style and success? Creating Self-Awareness

16. Personality Values Habits Needs Key Areas of Self Awareness

17. Analytical Abilities Communication Skills Decision Making Skills Inter Personal Skills Discretion Positive Thinking Problem Solving Skills Personality = Qualities + Abilities + Weaknesses Risk Solving Skills Team Building Skills Leadership skills Presentation Skills Innovative Abilities Willing to Learn

18. Honesty Sincerity Commitment Loyalty Comparison Co-ordination Values – Help creating a value for yourself

19. Concern for Time Sticking to schedules Planning Organizing Reading before retiring to bed Keeping record in journals Praying T.V. viewing Habits : shape your strengths and abilities

20. Basic Needs – Food, Shelter, Clothing Social Needs – Affection, Belongingness Self Esteem – Power, Control, Status Self Actualisation Needs – Achievement, Recognition, Sense of Fulfilment Needs

21. Living consciously Self-acceptance Self-responsibility Self-assertiveness Living purposefully Personal integrity Daily Practices for the Real You

22. The looking glass self

23. 3 phases of self concept –We imagine how we present ourselves to others –We imagine how others evaluate us –We develop some sorts of feelings about us

26. Self Regulation

27. Ability to control your emotions ability to calm yourself down when you're upset and cheer yourself up when you're down. Ability to control and reduce impulses and reactions. To respond by having the judgment to think before acting ability to act in your long-term best interest, consistent with your deepest values Self Regulation

28. A good place to start is an understanding of the biology and function of emotions in general and specifically feelings. Emotions move us. The word, "emotion," derived from the Latin, literally means "to move." The ancients believed that emotions move behavior; in modern times we say they motivate behavior. They energize us to do things by sending chemical signals to the muscles and organs of the body; they prepare us for action. Self Regulation and emotion

29. Whether subtle or intense, conscious or unconscious, overt or covert, all emotions have one of three motivations: Motivational Emotions Approach AvoidAttack

30. In approach motivation, you want to get more of something, experience more, discover more, learn more, or appreciate more - you increase its value or worthiness of your attention. Typical approach emotions are interest, enjoyment, compassion, trust, and love. Common approach behaviors are learning, encouraging, relating, negotiating, cooperating, pleasing, delighting, influencing, guiding, setting limits, and protecting. Approach motivation

31. In avoid motivation, you want to get away from something - you lower its value or worthiness of your attention. Common avoid behaviors are ignoring, rejecting, withdrawing, looking down on, dismissing Avoid motivation

32. In attack motivation, you want to devalue, insult, criticize, undermine, harm, coerce, dominate, incapacitate, or destroy. Attack emotions are anger, hatred, contempt, and disgust. Characteristic attack behaviors are demanding, manipulating, dominating, coercing, threatening, bullying, harming, and abusing. Attack motivation

33. 5 Core Competencies of self regulation Trustworthiness Innovativeness Adaptability

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