1. Chapter 9 Sexual Values and Relationships Sexual Values Alternative Sexual Values Sources of Sexual Values Sexual Behaviors Sexuality in Relationships Sexual Fulfillment: Some Prerequisites

2. Sources of Sexual Values Society Family Religion Peer

3. Sources of Sexual Values Media: Sex in the media is common but discussion of contraception is rare. Social movements: Women’s movement encouraged women to be assertive about sexual needs. Internet: 3/4 of 191 undergraduates reported having visited a sexually explicit site.

4. Sexual Behaviors Masturbation Oral Sex Vaginal Intercourse Anal Intercourse Outercourse

5. Sexual Behavior: Gender Differences 19% of women vs. 54% of men report thinking about sex several times a day. Men have sex for pleasure, conquest, and relief. Women have sex for emotional closeness and affection.

6. Sexuality in Relationships Never-married Highest number of sexual partners annually. Longest interval between intercourse experiences. Report the lowest emotional and physical satisfaction.

7. Sexuality in Relationships Married Report higher emotional and physical satisfaction. Intercourse frequency declines across time. 1% percent of husbands and 3% of wives report no intercourse in the last year.

8. Sexuality in Relationships Divorced Divorced individuals have intercourse within a year after the end of their marriage. Sex is used to repair self-esteem, test sexual adequacy and to enjoy freedom.

9. Prerequisites to Sexual Fulfillment Self-knowledge, self and health A good relationship Open sexual communication Addressing Safer-sex issues Realistic expectations Avoid spectatoring

10. Common Sexual Myths Masturbation is sick. Sex education makes children promiscuous. Sex ends after 60. Extramarital sex always destroys a marriage. Extramarital sex will strengthen a marriage.

11. Common Sexual Myths A man cannot have an orgasm unless he has an erection. Using a condom ensures you won’t get HIV. Simultaneous orgasm is the ultimate sexual experience.

12. Deciding When to Have Intercourse with a New Partner Personal consequences: how will you feel? Relationship consequences: 1/3 of college students report “no change” in a relationship as a consequence of intercourse. Contraception: 30% of 1,500 women reported they did not use condom at first intercourse.