1. Mitch Gordon http://kavanah.wix.com/gesher Mitch.gordon09@gmail.com 508-615-1654 NewCAJE 7 -- Aug 2016

2.  If the only tool you have is a hammer, then all of your problems look like nails.

3.  YOU individually are the YOU  A person should seek to maximize his or her own winnings without regard to how the others in the group do.  Thus each player is an individualist -- neither competitive nor cooperative.  If the others do well, that's fine; if they do poorly, that's fine, too.  A Player realize that the others are equally indifferent to him or her.  Only One Card per player X or Y must be played in each round…and all AT THE SAME TIME

4.  Your personal experience  Observer experience  In Your temple…

6.  Traditional Insight: ◦ “Change doesn’t happen until the status quo is more painful than change.”  Who makes changes at your Temple? ◦ Volunteers, professional staff, clergy, committees ◦ Describe process, length of time, how you feel  Name some “Big” changes:  Name some “Small” changes:

7.  Personal and Psychological impact of change on the individual.  Non linear  Different for everybody  It is the only part of change the each individual can control for themselves

8. Core Concerns Preparation Form General Core Concerns Their Core Concerns My Core Concerns What I Could do to Address Their Core Concerns What I Could do to Address My Core Concerns Appreciation Affiliation Autonomy Status Role

9.  Work to separate the people from the problem  Sometimes the people are the problem

10.  Engage  Disengage  Rule Follower  Rule Breaker

11. I would rather ask forgiveness, than permission.

15. What Happened Diagram of a Conversation Feelings Identity

16.  Gregarious  Leaving/exiting “The outgoing President of the college...”  Its going to cost you  Cut down a tree  Near war escalation  Its free 1976 Korean DMZ Poplar Tree Incident “Schwartz’ cleaners, what do you think, we do clothes for nothing”

17.  Stories from your life/synagogue

20. Preparation

21. A Definition of Mental Illness: To continue to do the same thing and expect a different outcome.

22.  Fill in the gaps  Guess at their stories  Make assumptions