2. Vocabulary check You must be able to communicate with a relational partner and vice versa. Relationships are built on communication (e.g., establishing relational closeness through nonverbals). You can’t NOT communicate (i.e., you’re always communicating). Romantic relationships are salient to interpersonal communication. Some would define interpersonal communication as communication between a dyad.

3. Overview Different definitions of IPC Situational Developmental Common Misconceptions of IPC Mindfulness What is it? Achieving mindfulness Mindfulness Paper Due a week from today!

4. Take Away Points What are the two different perspectives on how interpersonal communication (IPC) should be defined? *Note, you don’t need to know people’s names What aspects are considered from each approach? What are common misconceptions of IPC? Be able to identify examples (e.g., True or False: The best way to work out any problem in a relationship is to talk about it) From the reading: what are the four ways of thinking about relationships? What is the link between relationships and communication? Concept of mindful vs. mindless 5 Different ways to become mindful

6. By the situational approach, IPC is defined by the number of people.

7. The developmental approach says it’s about the quality of communication.

8. 1. Miller & Steinberg define quality as personal/impersonal communication. Impersonal…………………………………..………..….Interpersonal

9. 1. Miller & Steinberg define quality as personal/impersonal communication. Cultural…………….…..Sociological…..……….....Psychological

10. 2. Buber defines quality as the humanity of the communication. I – It ………..……………………………………….. I - Thou

11. Common Misconceptions of IPC Communication is reversible Communication solves all problems More communication is better Successful communication = complete understanding Knowledge of communication is inherent

12. Take Away Points What are the two different perspectives on how interpersonal communication (IPC) should be defined? *Note, you don’t need to know people’s names What aspects are considered from each approach? What are common misconceptions of IPC? Be able to identify examples (e.g., True or False: The best way to work out any problem in a relationship is to talk about it) From the reading: what are the four ways of thinking about relationships? What is the link between relationships and communication? Concept of mindful vs. mindless 5 Different ways to become mindful

13. YouTube Clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahg6qcgoay4 Stand up http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahg6qcgoay4 Stand on one foot Put hands on your head

14. Also, your first paper assignment (yay!)

15. Langer’s Mindful vs. Mindless Mindful: State of “alert and lively awareness” Active information processing “Break out” of your script Mindless: State of reduced attention

16. Five Ways to Become Mindful Novel situations External factors Scripted behavior that suddenly changes or requires more effort Unexpected outcome Multiple scripts in conflict

17. How can you become mindful?

18. Discussion Question The reading suggests that we all partake in mindless interaction when communicating with others because we use predetermined perceptions about the social world. Why do you think we all utilize these fixed ideas when interacting with someone for the first time? Do you believe that our past experiences are good indicators for how our future experiences will go or should we try and consciously push aside our preconceived notions and start fresh?

19. USU has started a new initiative… Make USU Campus more mindful They loved the compliment guys at Purdue and felt that they exemplified the spirit of “mindfulness” They have hired you to come up with an idea, to be implemented on USU’s campus that will make college students more mindful in a positive way Get in groups of 3/4 You have 3 minutes to brainstorm What do you want them to become mindful of? Which of the 5 different ways to become mindful will you use? How will you do it? What does this have to do with communication? One person needs to write down the components of your idea to turn them in to Lisa

20. Paper Assignment Task: Make yourself and/or another person more mindful in a positive way Paper: Description and assessment of that process Full Description of the paper on Canvas Do you know how to get to and submit the paper on Canvas? Rubric is also on Canvas

21. Take Away Points What are the two different perspectives on how interpersonal communication (IPC) should be defined? *Note, you don’t need to know people’s names What aspects are considered from each approach? What are common misconceptions of IPC? Be able to identify examples (e.g., True or False: The best way to work out any problem in a relationship is to talk about it) From the reading: what are the four ways of thinking about relationships? What is the link between relationships and communication? Concept of mindful vs. mindless 5 Different ways to become mindful