1. Communicating Effectively
A Guide to Building Healthy Relationships
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2. Today’s Presentation:
Presented by:
Barika Bridges
Erika Everett
William Pokorny
Raque’l Smith
Lindsay West
Today’s Target Audience is Young Men
Ages 18-25
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Presentation by:
Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

3. Listening vs. Hearing Listening:
Clarifying what the person is saying and asking how he/she feels. Ask questions to understand more fully what is being said.
Hearing:
The average listener correctly understands and properly retains only 30% of what he or she hears.
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4. The Role of Communication
Communication is:
An essential component of any relationship
Vital for relationship maintenance
A Difficult skill to master
Can lead to conflict
Can also lead to stronger relationships
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Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

5. Men and Communication Most men lack adequate communication skills
Exposed at an early age to society’s masculine image
Encourages men to “hide” emotions
Unable to “open up,” due to the risk of corrupting the “macho” image
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Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

6. Men and Communication Such an ego results in:
Lacking the skills necessary to communicate effectively
Lacking the skills necessary to successfully understand non-verbal messages
Lacking the skills necessary to successfully interpret non-verbal messages
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7. Effective Communication
Men and Communication
Effective Communication
Is employed by sending messages that are interpreted correctly, and correctly interpreting messages that you receive
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8. How To Effectively Communicate
Maintain Realistic Expectations
Try not to project a tough/superior image
Avoid Prejudice
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9. What Not To Do… Chapter 11 Presentation by:
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10. What Not To Do….. Communicative barriers you might encounter:
Antagonistic messages
Jumping to conclusions
Not paying attention
i.e. thinking to yourself while someone is talking
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11. Effective vs. Ineffective Communication
Group Activity #1
Setting the Scene:
Effective vs. Ineffective Communication
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12. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Love
Belongingness
Safety
Security
Value
Recognition
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13. “Agree to Disagree”
It is sometimes difficult to reach agreement during a conversation
Give your partner time to speak
Use “I” messages
Negative consequences:
Blame
Take it personally
Stick to the subject
Keep a friendly tone
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14. Group Activity #2 Are You Listening? Chapter 11 Presentation by:
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15. Verbal Messages Face-to-Face interactions Telephone calls E-mail
Letters
Poetry
Cards
Etc.
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16. Non-Verbal Messages Gestures: Shaking your head
Shrugging your shoulders
Turning your back
Sucking your teeth
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17. Non-Verbal Messages Facial expressions: Disappointment Surprised
Raised eyebrows
Confusion
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18. Non-Verbal Messages Behaviors Isolation Negligence Denial Chapter 11
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19. It's written all over your face!
Group Activity #3
It's written all over your face!
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20. Suitable Situations Effective communication can be applied:
On deciding where to go on a date
On getting to know your partners likes and dislikes
On allowing your partner to maintain friendships with people of the opposite sex
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21. Suitable Situations Effective communication can be applied:
To talk to express what you expect of your partner and vice versa
When discussing sexual history and beliefs of contraceptives
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22. Group Activity #4 Playing the Role Chapter 11 Presentation by:
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23. Discussion…. Any Questions? Chapter 11 Presentation by:
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