1. LEARNING ABOUT
L.I.F.E.
A family-based program on relationships and abuse prevention
By Sister Kieran Sawyer, SSND and Kathie Amidei
Copyright Proud to Protect, LLC

2. L I F E LOVE (family love, commitment) INFATUATION (falling-in-love)
FRIENDSHIP (peers) E
EXPLOITATION (using)

3. INFATUATION
SEXUAL ATTRACTION
(FALLING – IN – LOVE)

4. Early adolescence –
a time of change
Body
Thoughts
Interests
Desires
Feelings

5. N T HH H+K PK ST SI

6. LOVE
FRIENDSHIP-
N T HH H+K PK ST SI
MARRIAGE

7. N T HH H+K PK ST SI

8. N >>>>>T >>>>>>HH>>>>

9. L O V E EXPLOITATION SEXUAL ABUSE
N >> T>> HH>> H+K>> PK>> ST>> SI
EXPLOITATION
SEXUAL ABUSE

10. Why teach you about sexual exploitation and sexual abuse?

11. So you will know how to avoid being abused
So you will know what to do if you are
(or have been) abused
So you can help a friend who is being
(or has been) abused

12. So you will never be a sexual abuser
So you will never falsely accuse
someone of sexual abuse

13. What is a pedophile ?

14. An adult who uses a child or teen for sexual pleasure is called a This serious disorder is called PEDOPHILIA.
PEDOPHILE.

15. Who might be a sexual abuser?

16. Relative aunt uncle grandparent cousin
Stranger internet user truck driver bus driver shopper
Adult Leader teacher coach scout leader priest nun
Friend teenager friend of parents neighbor babysitter
Family Member father mother brother sister

17. How does a pedophile operate?
How can you get pulled into his/her web?

18. GROOMING Builds trust yours and your parents’ Gets you alone
Gives you alcohol or drugs

19. Makes promises
Gives you presents
Plays on your natural
curiosity about sex

20. Shows sexual movies,
videos, or pictures
Takes sexual pictures
Touches you in sexual ways

21. Forces you to do sexual
things
Swears you to SECRECY

22. Threatens to hurt you or
someone else if you tell
Blames you for what
happened

23. who has been abused sexually?
How would a person
FEEL
who has been abused sexually?

24. CONFUSED

25. Good Feelings Bad Feelings
Special
Excited
Loved
Grown up
Accepted
Cared for
Scared
Embarrassed
Ashamed, guilty
Hurt
Dirty
Used

26. One of the worst side effects of sexual abuse.
CONFUSION
Good Feelings
about sex
Bad Feelings
about sex
One of the worst side effects of sexual abuse.

27. What does a person who has been (or is being) sexually abused
NEED TO KNOW?

28. Sexual abuse is not your fault.
God loves you!
You are good The abuse is bad.
Sexual abuse is not your fault.

29. The wound won’t go away. It will fester if you don’t deal with it.
Sexual abuse is like a serious wound that needs to be healed.
The wound won’t go away It will fester if you don’t deal with it.

30. Talk to someone you trust.
Keep talking until you find someone who can help you heal.

31. What if a friend tells you he or she has been abused?

32. Support your friend with love and prayer.
Help him or her find an ADULT who can help.

33. Sexual exploitation
by young people
your age

34. Young people like you sometimes get involved in sex because of:
Curiosity
Peer pressure
To act grown up
To feel powerful
Excitement

35. Some ways young people abuse sex:
Making fun of the sexual areas of someone’s body
Touching, grabbing, or groping someone’s body
Bullying in a sexual way
Pressuring someone into doing sexual things
Sexting
Playing sex games at parties
Watching x-rated movies or videos
Gossiping about sexual activity; bragging about sex
Leading a person along – past their control point
Sexual kissing
Sexual touching; oral sex
Sexual intercourse

36. Serious personal decisions

37. Be strong and independent
Learn to give and receive love truly and honestly
Show respect – for yourself and for others
Avoid temptation, exploitation
Pray for grace and guidance

38. PROMISE GOD
that you will use the gift of sex
ONLY
according to God’s plan --
to create and maintain
a loving FAMILY.

39. Parent-child dialogue
Review the content of the PowerPoint session:
What did your child already know?
What new things did he/she learn?
What difference will this session make?

40. Family Love
Friendship
Infatuation

41. Developmental tasks of adolescence:
Belonging in your family
Belonging in your friendship group
Being yourself
Puberty – a whole new task:
Learning to deal
with sexual attraction !!!

42. Your task NOW as a young adolescent is. is to become
Your task NOW as a young adolescent is is to become a Person of Character
A person of character
> KNOWS WHAT IS GOOD (virtue)
> WANTS TO DO WHAT IS GOOD
> DOES WHAT IS GOOD

43. Building strong character
Family Virtues
Respect
Sharing
Obedience
Caring
Patience
Forgiveness
Gratitude
Helpfulness

44. Building strong character
Peer-group Virtues
Cooperation
Compromise
Leadership
Fair play
Wholesome fun
Trust
Kindness
Honesty

45. Building strong character
Personal Virtues
Independence
Responsibility
Integrity, honesty
Confidence
Courage
Self-control
Freedom
Competence
Initiative