1. Social Media for Parents of Children Online
Caitlyn Tengwall
BPS Parent University

2. Popular apps for teens Online concerns How to help Agenda Snapchat
Instagram
Twitter
Texting apps
Hiding apps
Online concerns
Cyberbullying
Self-Esteem
Sexting
How to help

3. Benefits of Social Media
Self Expression
Builds political and social awareness
It is another way to connect with friends and build relationships
Teens are able to find people who share their interests

4. SnapChat
What Makes it unique: Snapchat is a photo messaging app. The feature that makes Snapchat unique is that the images self destruct after 1 to 10 seconds.
Components
Photo messaging
Chats
Stories
Filters, Face swapping, Stickers, Lenses, Slo-mo, Rewind
Replays
Best friends, and Snapstreaks
Location Sharing

5. SnapChat layout

6. Snapchat is hard to track
What to watch out for
Snapchat is hard to track
Sexting
Bullying
Photos may self destruct but screenshots don’t
False sense of impermanence
Seeking popularity

7. Instagram What Makes it unique: Instagram is Photo sharing app.
What teens (among many others) like is the filters and
editing software.
Components
Photo sharing
Photo filters, boarders, edit tools
Tagging
Follow friends
Follow celebrities etc.
Instagram Direct
Photo mapping

8. Instagram Layout

9. Contact with strangers Inappropriate images
What to watch out for
Location sharing
Contact with strangers
Inappropriate images

10. Twitter What Makes it unique: Twitter is a platform for
Microblogs called tweets that are 140 characters or less.
Components
Follow friends and celebrities
Sharing articles, images, links to websites, etc.
Use of #hashtags
Retweeting
Direct messaging
Live tweeting
Location tracking

11. Twitter Layout

12. What to watch out for
Bullying
Access to porn

13. Texting and Texting Apps
Messenger (facebook)
Vine
What’s app
KiK
Yik Yak
Ask.fm

14. Texting too much /compulsively Bullying Self esteem
What to watch out for
Texting too much /compulsively
Bullying
Self esteem
Harms social connection
Not sleeping
Texting while driving
Sexting
*Messages can be deleted

15. Hiding Apps
These are apps that teens can use to hide pictures, videos, messages, even apps. Most are named to look like something innocuous.
Audio Manager
Calculator%
Vaulty

16. Cyber Bullying Who Experiences it: What makes Cyberbullying dangerous:
43% children will experience cyber bullying.
Girls are about twice as likely as boys to be victims and perpetrators of cyber bullying
Only 1 in 10 victims will inform a parent or trusted adult
What makes Cyberbullying dangerous:
There is both a huge audience and the victim is often isolated
Cyber bullying is often anonymous and hard to track
How to Help?
Use privacy settings
Connect only with friends be; able to identify friends’ handles
Keep open communication

17. Self-Esteem Issues
Who Experiences it: Many students, boys and girls, struggle with self esteem and the public platform of social media amplifies negative voices.
Among high school students, 44% of girls and 15% of guys are attempting to lose weight
About 20% of teens will experience depression 7 in 10 girls believe that they are not good enough or don’t measure up in some way,
including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members.

18. Snap Chat
Instagram

19. What makes social media dangerous to self-esteem
Social media quantifies popularity by the number of friends and followers you have and the number of likes a post receives
Teens will compare themselves with others.
Teens feel a pressure to look good and appear in certain way.
Teens will spend time curating the images they post, often obsessing over the way they look in photos and what they say.
These curated images also create a false standard that teens try to meet and maintain.
Teens often see photos of events that they aren’t invited to and can feel excluded. Aka FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)
How to Help?
Set limits on when your teen is using their phone
Encourage teens to interact with friends face to face
Compliment your teens
Keep open communication

20. Sexting
Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photos over a cell phone or the Internet
Who Experiences it:
9% of teens with a cell phone have sent a sext
11% of teen girls ages 13 to 16 have been involved with sending or receiving sexually explicit messages
17% of sexters share the messages they receive with others
71% of teen girls and 67% of teen guys who have sent or posted sexually suggestive content say they have sent/posted this content to a boyfriend/girlfriend.
21% of teen girls and 39% of teen boys say they have sent such content to someone they wanted to date or hook up with.
15% of teens who have sent or posted nude/seminude images of themselves say they have done so to someone they only knew online.

21. Keep open communication Monitor computers and devices your teen uses
What makes sexting dangerous:
Once an image, message or video has been shared, the sender has lost all control of where or how it will be distributed
Peer pressure plays a big part in why teens sext. This is often not something that both parties are fully comfortable with.
It is illegal
To ask for sext -It is illegal for anyone, with lascivious intent, to knowingly encourage, cause, coerce, solicit, or entice a person under 18 years of age to pose or be shown in a state of nudity to photograph them.
To send a sext -It is illegal for anyone, to knowingly send out pictures of a person under 18 in a state of nudity or engaged in a sexual act.
To have a sext- It is illegal for anyone to possess photographs that depict a person under the age of 18 posed with “a lewd exhibition of genitals, buttocks, breasts or engaged in an actual or simulated sexual acts.”
How to Help?
Keep open communication
Monitor computers and devices your teen uses

22. TMI- Too Much Information
What do teens share?
92% Use their real name on their pages
90% Use photo of themselves
82% Use their birthdays
70% School
53% Post their addresses
20% Post their cell phone number
Where they are currently by “Checking in”
What makes sharing information online dangerous:
There is a big audience
Not all “friends” are friends
How to Help?
Keep open communication
Monitor privacy settings

23. Stranger Danger Who Experiences it:
70% of teens online have received a message from someone they don’t know
30% teens have responded to messages from people they don’t know
8% will meet someone they have only met online.
What makes Strangers online dangerous:
It is very easy to be deceptive online
These messages are often sexually explicit
How to Help?
Only be “friends” with people you know IRL (In Real Life)
Report messages with inappropriate content
Change settings to be private

24. Talk is more important than Tools
Monitoring software usually keeps out too much or too little and is fairly easy to workaround, this is especially true of phones
The conversations you have with your teens about the technology use are more impactful than monitoring software in curbing and knowing what teens are doing online
Monitoring your child’s phone in front of them, explaining what concerns you have and where you see dangers shows teens what they need to be on the look out for
This is SOCIAL media it is an aspect of teen’s social lives so talk about it!

25. Need to Know
Know what information you teen includes about themselves on their profile
Know what apps and websites your teen uses
Know what they post and how often they are posting
Know who their friends/followers are and how they know them
Know your child’s password and profile names

26. Favorite Tips Download apps together and know what the app is for
Use a password that your child doesn’t know for apple id and the google play stores
Phones and laptops need bedtimes. Have teens leave cell phones and devices outside of their bedrooms at night
Notice how much time your child spends on their phone, if there is an uptick something maybe going on
Keep profiles private
This is one aspect of a teen’s social life remind your teen or that and yourself

27. Message me: ctengwall@
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