1. Week 7 Agenda Review of last week’s lessons Homework Review
Lesson 16-Introduction to Problem Solving
Lesson 17-Problem Solving Skill 1: Stop and Think
Break
Lesson 18-Problem Solving Skill 2: State the Problem
Homework Distribution

2. Lesson 16 –
Introduction to
Problem Solving

3. Group Rules

4. Negotiating
1. Decide if you and the other person are having a difference of opinion
2. Tell the other person what you think about the situation
3. Ask the other person what he/she thinks about the situation
4. Listen objectively to his/her answer
5. Think about why the other person might feel this way
6. Suggest a compromise

5. Dealing with an Accusation
1. Think about what the other person has accused you of
2. Think about why the other person might have accused you
3. Think about ways to answer the person’s accusations
4. Choose the best way to do it 5

6. Homework Review

7. 3 Key Types of Skills
Cognitive Self Change - Paying attention to the thoughts and feelings that go on inside of us to avoid the kinds of thoughts and feelings that lead us to trouble
Social Skills – Behaviors or abilities we use in situations that involve other people
Problem Solving Skills – Skills to help us make better choices 7

8. Conflict Cycle
Problem
Consequences
Feelings and
Thoughts
Action

9. Problem Solving Skills
Skill 1 – Stop and Think
Skill 2 – State the Problem
Skill 3 – Set a Goal and Gather
Information
Skill 4 – Think of Choices and
Consequences
Skill 5 – Make a Plan
Skill 6 – Do and Evaluate

10. Skill 1: Stop and Think
Step 1: Stop: Pay attention to your warning signs – Bodily Sensations; Risk thoughts; Risk feelings
Step 2: Think: Reduce your risk –
Be quiet; Get space; Calm down

11. Skill 2: State the Problem
Step 1: Identify a Warning Sign
Step 2: Describe the situation
objectively
Step 3: Identify a Risk Reaction

12. Skill 3: Set a Goal and Gather Information
Step 1: Identify and set a positive and realistic goal
Step 2: Gather Information:
1. Facts
2. The other person’s
thoughts and feelings

13. Skill 4: Think of Choices and Consequences
Step 1: Brainstorm choices
Step 2: Think about consequences
Step 3: Pick a choice to get to your goal

14. Skill 5: Make a Plan Step 1: Identify who, where and when
Step 2: Choose key Social Skills that
can help you
Step 3: Identify what you will do or say
Step 4: Identify how you will do and say it
Step 5: Decide on a thought that will get
you started

15. Skill 6: Do and Evaluate
Step 1: Do it
Step 2: Ask questions
Step 3: Decide what to do next

16. Lesson 17 –
Problem Solving
Skill 1: Stop and Think

17. Types of Problems
In your face problems -Situations where you have to act immediately
Time to think problems - Situations where you do not have to take immediate action 17

18. Problem Situations “Time to think” “In your face”
A report from a father when he finds his daughter doing drugs
I walked into the room and saw her using. I felt like waves of heat were flaming around me and my insides started shaking.
I clenched my
jaw and my fists
“I read the list of people who made the team and my name wasn’t there. I felt my head start to throb, my mouth got dry and my muscles got tight 18

19. Feeling and Thinking Skills – Their Temperature
Feelings
Thinking 19

20. Problem Solving – Skill 1: Stop and Think
Step 1: Stop!
Pay attention to your warning signs
Bodily Sensations
Risk thoughts
Risk feelings
Step 2: Think! Reduce your risk
Be quiet
Get space
Calm down

21. Stop and Think Skill Step 1: Stop! Pay attention to your warning signs21

22. Problem Solving – Skill 1: Stop and Think
Step 1: Stop! Pay attention to your
warning signs
Bodily Sensations
Risk thoughts
Risk feelings 22

23. Problem Solving – Skill 1: Stop and Think
Step 2: Think! Reduce your risk
Be quiet
Get some space
Calm down 23

24. Calm Down Thoughts I can handle this Chill ! Take time to think
Stop and think
This is a problem
Life is crazy, but I am calm
I will decide what happens next
Just count to 10
What is happening here? 24

25. Lesson 18 –
Problem Solving
Skill 2: State the Problem

26. Problem Solving – Skill 2: State the Problem
Step 1: Identify a warning sign
Step 2: Describe what happened
objectively
Step 3: Identify a risk reaction 26

27. State the Problem
1. Start with “I” 2. Objective description of situation 3. Identify reaction
I (think or feel) ________ because _________ , and my risk is to react by ______. 27

28. Reaction to Roster
I read the list of people who made the team and my name wasn’t there. I felt angry, embarrassed and disappointed. I felt my head start to throb, my mouth got dry and my muscles got tight 28

29. Father’s Reaction to Daughter
I walked into the room and saw her using. I felt like waves of heat were flaming around me and my insides started shaking. I clenched my jaw and my fists. I thought, “My daughter is wasting her life.” “She must be selling to have money to do this” 29

30. Which steps are missing?
“You give me a hard time
and I’ll give you a hard
time”
Supervisor example – Statement 1 30

31. Identify the steps
“I think my supervisor likes to put me down because he told me to redo the last job he gave me in front of the other workers, and my risk is to react by telling him off”
Supervisor example – Statement 2 31

32. What steps are missing?
“My friend is no longer my friend and he will certainly figure that out the next time I see him”
Friend example – Statement 1 32

33. Identify the steps
“I feel disrespected because my friend did not show up at the time we set for the meeting, and my risk is to make fun of him next time I see him”
Friend example – Statement 2 33

34. What steps are missing? “Stores charge way too much money
for what things are
worth so you gotta’
do what you gotta’ do”
Money example – Statement 1 34

35. Identify the steps
“I feel frustrated because I don’t have enough money to buy something I want, and my risk is to steal it”
Money example – Statement 2 35

36. Mental Toolbox
Stop and Think
State the Problem 36

37. Homework 37