1. Week 2 Agenda Review of last week’s lessons Homework Review
Lesson 6-Cognitive Self Change-Thinking Controls Behavior
Break
Lesson 7-Step 1: Pay Attention to Our Thinking
Homework Distribution

2. Lesson 6 –
Cognitive Self-Change
Thinking Controls Behavior

3. Group Rules

4. Active Listening 1. Look at the person who is talking
2. Think about what is being said
3. Wait your turn to talk
4. Say what you want to say 4

5. ? Asking Questions 1. Decide what you would like to know more about.
2. Decide whom to ask.
3. Think about different ways to ask your question. Pick one way.
4. Pick the right time and place to ask your question.
5. Ask your question. ? 5

6. Giving Feedback information to someone about his/her
1. Decide if you want to provide objective
information to someone about his/her
behavior, thoughts, or feelings.
2. Decide what kind of information
you wish to provide. 6 6

7. Giving Feedback information. Pick one way. 4. Pick the right time and
3. Think about different ways to give the
information. Pick one way.
4. Pick the right time and
place to give feedback.
5. Give the other person
the information in an objective manner. 7 7

8. Knowing Your Feelings
1. Tune in to what is going on in your body that helps you know what you are feeling
2. Decide what happened to make you feel that way
3. Decide what you could call the feeling

9. Homework Review

10. 3 Key Types of Skills
Cognitive Self Change - Paying attention to the thoughts and feelings that go on inside of us to avoid the kinds of thoughts and feelings that lead us to trouble
Social Skills – Behaviors or abilities we use in situations that involve other people
Problem Solving Skills – Skills to help us make better choices 10

11. Thinking Controls Behavior
Thoughts / feelings control the way we act
We can control how we act by controlling our ways of thinking
We can look at the thoughts and feelings we have in a conflict

12. 3 Steps of Cognitive Self Change
1. Pay Attention to Our Thoughts
2. Recognize Risk
3. Use New Thinking 12

13. Definition of Attitudes and Beliefs
A set of principles, values, or opinions 13

14. Attitudes and Beliefs
General ways of thinking about a lot of different situations
Rules, principles, values, or general opinions about a kind of person or a kind of situation
Can express the values and the principles you live by
Attitudes and beliefs define the things that matter most to us

15. Attitudes and Beliefs
Opinions or general ways of thinking about the people and the situations around us
Express values and the principles we live by – defining what matters most to us
Examples -
My family is the most important thing in my life
You have to stand up for yourself
Examples -
My teachers are unfair
My parents are almost always right

16. Iceberg Analogy
We can think of cognitive structure like an iceberg. What is above the water is what you can see. But danger of the iceberg lies beneath the surface. Cutting off the top won’t significantly alter the mass of the iceburg. Likewise, unless we deal with thinking - the behaviors we can’t see. It is difficult to change the actions that we can. 16

17. Thoughts/Perceptions
Cognitive Restructuring
External Behaviors
Actions
Thoughts/Perceptions
Feelings
Attitudes/Beliefs
Internal Behaviors
Basic Needs
Principles of living
Self worth
Survival

18. The Cognitive Principle - Thinking controls behavior
Learning to control thoughts and feelings can control actions
There is always more than 1 way of thinking about a situation
Control of thinking results
in real power over life
When we think differently,
we act differently

19. Principles Behind Thinking For a Change
There is always more than one way of thinking about any situation
WHEN WE THINK DIFFERENTLY,
WE ACT DIFFERENTLY

20. Goal of Thinking For A Change
Pay Attention To Thinking
Take Control
Change Your Life

21. Lesson 7
Cognitive Self-Change
Step 1:Paying Attention to Our Thinking

22. Cognitive Self-Change
Step 1 - Pay Attention to Our Thoughts
Step 2 - Recognize Risk
Step 3 - Use New Thinking 22

23. Step 1 – Pay Attention to Our Thinking
Treat thoughts and feelings as pure information without judgment or interpretation 23

24. Parts of a Thinking Report
Part 1 - State what happened (stick to the facts).
Part 2 - List every thought you can remember
(words that were in your mind at the time).
Part 3 - List all the feelings you remember
having.
Part 4 - List the beliefs you held in this situation (beliefs are rules, principles, and opinions that you carry into lots of different situations). 24

25. Thinking Report Process
1. Create a brief, objective description of the situation.
2. List a number of thoughts that you had, just as you remember having them.
3. List your feelings
that went along
with those
thoughts. 25

26. Objectivity – Definition
Saying your thoughts
exactly as they go
through your head 26

27. Staying Objective… Remember the thoughts and feelings you had.
Don’t judge your thinking.
Don’t look at thoughts as right or wrong or good or bad.
Look at your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and beliefs as pure information about what was in your mind during a specific situation. 27

28. Thinking Report State the facts of what happened.
Part 1
Situation
State the facts of what happened.
Who was involved and what was said and done?

29. Thinking Report List every thought you can remember.
Situation
Part 2
Thoughts
List every thought you can remember.
Use the exact words that are in your mind at the time.

30. Thinking Report List all the feelings you remember having.
Situation
Thoughts
Part 3
Feelings
List all the feelings you remember having.
Use words that seem right to you.
Feelings can be emotions, bodily sensations, or both.

31. Thinking Report List your attitudes and beliefs.
Situation
Thoughts
Feelings
Part 4
Attitudes/Beliefs
List your attitudes and beliefs.
Attitudes and beliefs are rules, principles, values, or ways of thinking that you carry into lots of different situations.

32. Report Your Thoughts and Feelings Exactly
Helpful Hints for Staying Objective
Don’t judge.
Don’t blame.
Don’t make excuses.
Don’t “second guess” (making suggestions about how you should have or could have thought). 32

33. Mental Toolbox
Pay Attention to Our Thinking

34. Homework