1. Relationship Violence
Teens
College students

2. Relationship violence
Domestic violence
Domestic abuse
Intimate partner violence or battering
Motivation of abusive relationships are power and control, not anger.

3. Recognizing abuse Know the signs
You may be a victim of abuse if you’re in a relationship with someone who:
Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
Acts jealous or possessive
Accuses you of being unfaithful
Tries to control how you spend your time
Tries to control who you talk to or where you go

4. Recognizing abuse Know the signs con’t
Tries to control what you wear
Wants you to get permission to make everyday decisions
Gets angry when using drugs or alcohol
Scares you by driving recklessly
Threatens to kill him or herself/you

5. Characteristics of an abusive relationship include:
Someone who hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, or chokes you
Threatens you with violence or a weapon
Forces you to have sexual intercourse
Forces you to engage in sexual acts against your will
Calls you names, puts you down, insults you

6. Characteristics of an abusive relationship include con’t
Stops you from seeing family or friends
Destroys your property
Blames you for his/her violent behavior and tells you that you deserve it.
Denies the abusive behavior
Tries to force you to drop charges
Tries to prevent you from calling the police or seek medical care

7. Think of leaving an abusive relationship?
Create a safety plan-
Arrange a safety signal with a friend
Call the police if necessary

8. Think of leaving an abusive relationship?
Keep communications private-
Telephone- be cautious when using a cell phone. Abuser can intercept calls using a scanner. Use a land line when relaying sensitive information to friends and family.
Be aware of controlling use of cell phone- Abuser may use frequent cell phone conversations or text as a way to monitor or control activities

9. Think of leaving an abusive relationship?
Computer use-
Use a Web-based program for
Gmail, Hotmail, and Yahoo mail offer private accounts.
Outlook express, Netscape Mail and Eudora store sent and received s on your computer.
Store files on the internet (IBackup and Hyperoffice) Also, store documents as attachments on private programs.

10. Think of leaving an abusive relationship
Change your password often
Clear your web browser history
Clear your document history

11. Where to find help! National Domestic Violence Hotline
safe or
Provides crisis intervention
Doctor or hospital emergency room
Books and online resources