1. What Makes a
Great Relationship ?

2. Deepening and Developing Relationship
Pyramid
Mature Love
Deepening and Developing Relationship
Positive Starters

3. Sex

4. Meant something only to one person
One-Sided
Meant something only to one person
Sex

5. Meant something only to one person
Communication
Not so great
One-
Sided
Meant something only to one person
Sex

6. Time Together Not Much Fun Meant something only to one person
Few Common Interests,
Time Together Not Much Fun
Not much
there
Communication
Not so great
One-
Sided
Meant something only to one person
Sex

7. Time Together Not Much Fun Meant something only to one person
really
Doesn’t Feels Like a Friend
Few Common Interests,
Time Together Not Much Fun
Not much
there
Communication
Not so great
One-
Sided
Meant something only to one person
Sex

8. Time Together Not Much Fun Meant something only to one person
You Have No Commitment/Trust
None
Not
really
Doesn’t Feels Like a Friend
Few Common Interests
Time Together Not Much Fun
Not much
there
Communication
Not so great
One-
Sided
Meant something only to one person
Sex

9. Inverted Relationship Pyramid
YOU HAVE NO COMMITMENT, NO TRUST!
Not Really
Mature
Doesn’t Feel Like a Friend
Few Common Interests; Time Together Not Much Fun
No Development
Communication
Not Great
No Foundation
One-Sided
Relationship
No Positive Starters
SEX

10. Information All Teens Should Know:
Most first-time sexual relationships are romantic but short-lived. 8 out of 10 first-time sexual relationships last six months or less. ¼ are one time occurrences.
Surveys of sexually active teens reveal that the majority wish they’d waited. More than 7 out of 10 girls and more than 5 out of 10 boys surveyed say this.
The Centers for Disease Control collects data on teens every two years on sexual and other behaviors. The number of teens who have had sexual intercourse has declined 14% in the last decade. 47% percent of 15 to 19-year-old teens report they have had sexual intercourse. These are averages and obviously there are significant differences among different teens.

11. Information All Teens Should Know:
More than half of all teens (ages years) have NOT had sexual intercourse, and of the half that have, most wish they had waited.
Unfortunately, the half who have not had sexual intercourse sometimes think they are out of it because they believe “everybody’s doing it.” In reality, “everybody is not doing it.”
Moreover, some teens—especially boys because of social pressures—lie about having had sex. Even those who brag about how many people they have had sex with often are not having sex at all.

12. Information All Teens Should Know:
We also know from surveys that boys show significant respect—though often unspoken—for girls who resist pressure to have sex and remain virgins. And, girls have respect for guys who are not “players.”
Many teens believe it is okay for a couple to have sex if they feel they are in love. The problem here is that the “feelings” of love may not yet be real love. The “love chemicals” could be surging, it could be more about lust and less about love. Further, one could have an unrealistic concept of what real love really is.

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Attracted to Someone...
Falling in Love...
How Do You Feel?
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14. The Brain Chemistry of Love
Slide 3.21
The Brain Chemistry of Love
For weeks or months you get a big shot of the “love chemicals.” Those chemicals make it easy to slide into risky or poor relationship and sexual choices.

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Problem Behaviors
Lies
Controls people
Uses people
Takes advantage
Sees self as victim
Very negative
Extremely moody
Blames others always
Changes just to please others.
Angry & aggressive
Abuses substances
Cheats, untrustworthy
Not committed to school
In trouble with the law
Or, you’re just not in sync; you’ve changed your mind…
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17. The Brain Chemistry of Love
Tip: Enjoy the great feelings….but remember you won’t see clearly until those chemicals settle down a bit. Make the focus be on getting to know the person, having fun. Go slow—go smart!

18. Is it LOVE or is it …
U A T I O N?
I N
F A T