1. God’s Recipe for a Happy Marriage [Pt 2]
Ephesians 5:22-33

4. God’s Recipe for a Happy Marriage [Pt 2]
How do I know ‘Desire’ (Gen 3v16) = control?
Answer: Look at the context
Before: It’s a curse not a blessing!
After: ‘Sin is crouching at your door, it desires you’. Gen 4:6
How can ‘submit’ not be negative!?
Submit – ‘Hupotasso’ = to put things in the right order so they worked properly
Nothing to do with not importance, pre-eminence or dominance

5. In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. 
Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.
John 1:1-3

6. ‘Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.’ Philippians 2

7. I have brought you glory by completing the work you gave me to do’
John 14::4

8. God’s Recipe for a Happy Marriage [Pt 2]
‘Husband is head of the wife’ - v23
This is about leadership
‘Submit in everything’ – v24 – Really?
Only as far as where he leads is in will of God and is loving, kind and thoughtful for his wife.
What about those with unsaved husbands?
As a believer your #1 allegiance is to God
Don’t follow his lead if it’s away from God!

9. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
1 Cor 7:

10. Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives
1 Peter 3:1-2