1. Desiree Alexander www.educatoralexander.com
Parental Pitfalls
Desiree Alexander

2. Welcome
PARENTS/GUARDIANS/FAMILY MEMBERS
It takes ALL of us working together to keep our children/pre-teens/teens/young adults safe.
Some of us are first-generation and some of us are second-generation raised with the Internet as a part of their everyday lives.
The worst technology they will see is what exists right now.
Our children know more about the Internet than we do; however, we cannot assume they know how to use it safely!

3. Goals To understand what our children are doing online
To keep our children safe when they’re online
To teach our children to make smart choices when they’re online
To start a discussion about Internet safety that we continue with our families and others beyond tonight

4. How Children Get Online
Mobile devices, including cell phones
Laptops and personal computers
Tablets, such as iPads
Video game consoles
Their own device or a friend’s device
At other’s houses
Free WiFi

5. What Children Do Online
SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!!
Visit virtual worlds
Play multiuser games
Text or instant message
View and post videos
Download music, movies, and more
Create and upload art
Do research/homework, etc.

6. YOU KNOW NOTHING!!!!!

7. THEY KNOW EVERYTHING!!!!!

8. Social Media Popular social networking sites: Facebook (D.E.A.D.)
Twitter (social media platform)
Instagram and Tumblr (picture sharing)
SnapChat and Poke (self-destructing images)
Burn Note (self-destructing messages)
Tender (dating app…rate and “hook up” in your area)
Blendr
Calculator% (private photos) ---a bunch of these
Vaulty. (private photos and snaps pic)
Omegle (talk to strangers)
Kik Messenger (messenger app known for sexting)
Yik Yak (post messages anonymously using GPS location--CB)
Ask.fm (post questions and get answers--CB)
Vine (post videos)
Whisper (anonymous app that shows location)

9. Words to know Sexting Netflix and Chill Sext Buddy Kik Buddy
Jailbreaking (iPhone)
Rooting (android)
Cydia, Poof and SBSettings (after jailbreaking/rooting..to hide information)
# (hashtag)
@ (at)
Trending
Feed
Viral
Handle

10. Online Concerns Cyberbullying Disturbing content (and online porn)
Viruses and spyware
Sexual predators (online grooming)
Too much screen time
Privacy and Identity Theft
Online reputation
Self Harm
Online Radicalization

11. NOT MY CHILD

14. What Can We Do

15. Teach Them To

16. Keep Personal Information Private
Never reveal:
Name (may be hard to do)
Address
Phone number
School name
Don’t post or send photographs of yourself. (realistic? inappropriate…)
Choose a nondescript screen name.
Ask to see communication and point out what you can learn from it.

17. Learn How To Use Privacy Settings
Become familiar with the websites your child visits.
Visit them regularly yourself.
Read privacy policies.
Settings should be “private.”

18. If a Stranger Contacts Your Child
Make sure your child knows:
Don’t respond
Contact an adult right away
Block the offender
Notify the authorities, if warranted.
Notify CyberTipline

19. Basic Ways To Keep Your Child Safe
Talk and Discuss…don’t be afraid of this
Learn as much as you can
Sign an “Internet Safety Contract.”
Keep the computer in a public area of your home.
Set a time limit for computer use.
Become familiar with the sites your child visits.
Know your child’s online “friends.”
Know your child’s passwords.
Keep your security software up to date.
Keep aware of what is popular and visit those sites.

20. Basic Internet Rules for Children
Never give out identifying information.
Never write or post anything you wouldn’t be comfortable with the whole world seeing.
Treat others online as you would treat them in person.
Never share your password.
Never open an or click on a link from someone you don’t know.
Never download or click on anything without checking with a trusted adult first.
If you make a mistake, COME TELL ME! I will
not be mad at you!

21. Resources
ConnectSafely Tips, advice, and the latest news on online safety.
AllSafeSites A child-safe Internet search engine.
Common Sense Media Reviews and rates websites and other media for children according to age-appropriateness.
Trend Micro Lots of information on Internet safety for families from Trend Micro, the sponsor of this Internet Safety Night presentation.
Used in the Presentation
School Family Media Inc.