1. Dealing with Anger How do I do it?

2. Objectives: 1. Define Anger 2. What Causes Anger
3. Anger vs. Aggression
4. Physical symptoms of anger Anger Trigggers and Anger style
6. Dealing with Anger effectively

3. What is Anger?

4. Anger is a basic human emotional response experienced by ALL PEOPLE!
Anger vary
from person to person and
from situation to situation
Anger is typically triggered by a threat, perceived threat (real or imaginary), an injustice, hurt, or frustration when faced with an obstacle.
Anger is a normal human emotion. Everyone feels annoyed, frustrated, irritated, or even very angry from time to time.
Anger is
a feeling in response to frustration, or injury
expressing yourself in an impulsive manner without thought
a mixture of emotional, physiological, and cognitive elements
heart rate and blood pressure go up
levels of energy hormones, adrenaline and nonadrenaline go up
an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage
Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure with someone or something, combined with an urge to fight back!
Anger is a normal feeling that we all experience!

5. Anger is an emotion and it is important that we identify our feelings including anger-
At times we

6. Anger (Feeling) vs. Aggression (Action)
Know the difference between anger and aggression.
Aggression is one negative way in which individuals express anger
Aggression cause damage with words, fists, or weapons, but it is virtually always designed to punish.
Aggression is intended to threaten or injure the victim’s security or self-esteem
Natural ways to express anger is to respond Aggressively. Anger often inspires powerful, often aggressive feelings and behaviors – that allow us to fight and defend ourselves when we are attacked. It is extremely important to recognize the difference between anger and aggression. Although the two are similar and may occur together, anger is an emotion that may result from frustration, fear, stress, annoyance, low-self-esteem disappointment and resentment; aggression is a negative act intended to hurt someone or something. Anger can sometimes feel intense and overwhelming but it does not necessarily lead to violent or aggressive behavior.
“You can express your anger without being verbally or physically abusive.”

7. What are something of the things which make you angry?
Review the worksheet and have young people share some information
Asks students how anger makes them feel physically.

8. TRIGGERS What bugs you?
Different things can make different people angry, but everyone feels angry sometimes.
Different things can make dif

9. Anger – Producing Situations
Specific person (s) or Event
Insults
Stress and Worries
Disappointment / Annoyance
Fears, Resentment, Frustration
Rejection / Hurt / Embarrassment
Having possessions taken or broken
Jealousy
Being teased or talked about
Low-Self Esteem
Grief
Home Life

10. Dealing with Anger
If you know your anger triggers, then you can either:
1. Try to avoid them
2. Learn how to deal with them.
3. Learn how to put your feelings into words, explore and name the emotions (hurt, confused, shame, etc.

11. Poor handled Anger can cause many problems
There are two issues:
Controlling Anger
Reacting to Anger
Some people try to pretend they aren’t angry. Other People feel they anger is out of Control and they can not handle it.
Poor handled Anger can cause many problems

12. Controlling Your Anger
When your anger is triggered, you’re going to react in some way. The way you react is called your ANGER STYLE.
Dumping
Acting Out
Burying

13. Uncontrolled Anger (Out -of Control)
Can trigger a large number of antisocial behaviors
Can trigger Negative consequences
Can hurt Physical Health
You can’t always control the situation you’re in or how it makes you feel, but you can control how you express your anger.

14. Anger is a problem When it harms you When it leads to aggression
When it harms People around you
When it disrupts school or relationships
When it is too frequent, intense and lasts long
When it harms effects your overall quality of life
When chronic, explosive anger spirals out of control
Anger may do more harm than any other emotion. It upsets at least two people – the aggressor and the aggressed against.
The overall effects of anger are enormous: anger is related to violence, crime, spouse and child abuse, divorce, stormy relationships, poor working conditions, poor physical health – headaches, hypertension, GI disturbances, heart attacks, emotional disorders and so on.
Uncontrolled Anger can trigger a large number of anti-social behaviors and negative consequences

15. Consequences of ACTING OUT
Can lead to legal troubles
Can lead to problems at school / home / community
Relationships Problems
Substance Abuse
Physical Problems
Emotional Problems
Low Self Esteem
Others

16. How does anger make you feel physically?
Feeling angry has a physical reaction that is usually unpleasant

17. Your body sends you signals, when you’re getting angry.
ANGER CUES
Clenched fist
Your body sends you signals, when you’re getting angry.
Loud voice
Red face
Racing & pounding heartbeat
Upset stomach
What are your anger cues?
Sweat

18. Warning Signs What warning signs apply to you?
Can not focus
Insult People
Heavy breathing
Argumentative
Pace
Stare
Go quiet and shut down
Throw things
Make an angry face
Become Aggressive
Use Profanity
Cry
Can not stop thinking about the problem or individual.

19. Imagine you are in a peaceful place.
Dealing With Anger
Cool off, stay calm.
Walk away
Count to 10
Take deep breaths
Use calming self-talk: “I can handle this. Chill. It’s not as bad as it seems.”
Imagine you are in a peaceful place.

20. 2. Give yourself some time to sort things out.
Write the problem down on paper.
Think it through. Ask yourself: what really happened? How was I triggered? What were my cues?
Talk it over with a friend or adult you trust.
Look at the situation from a different viewpoint.

21. Turn your angry energy into a change for the better
Channel your angry energy into a physical activity.
Try to solve the problem.
Try to accept situations you can’t change.
Changing our view of a situation can change our reaction to it.
“Don’t let anger control you, take control over it”

22. Exercise Self-Control
Self-Control is the ability to resist
inappropriate behavior, dealing effectively
with emotions, such as anger and developing patience.
Maintaining Self-Control is key to Managing Anger

23. The difference comes in what you do about it.
EVERYBODY GETS ANGRY
That’s just how it is.
The difference comes in what you do about it.
SO:
GET A GRIP!!!

24. DEALING WITH ANGER
When you find yourself angry, REMEMBER the only behavior you can manage is YOUR own!!!
So, pay attention to your anger cues.
And, if you feel like you’re going to lose it…