1. Nungua North SDA Church
LOVE
At Home
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Love Summit
Nungua North SDA Church

2. LOVE
Summit

3. LOVE
At Home

4. Theme Song:
SDAH# 652
“Love at Home”
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5. #1 “Love at Home” Stanza ONE There is beauty all around,
When there’s love at home;
There is joy in every sound,
When there’s love home.
Peace and plenty here abide,
Smiling fair on every side;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide;
There is beauty all around,
When there’s love at home;
There is joy in every sound,
When there’s love home.
Peace and plenty here abide,
Smiling fair on every side;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide;

6. Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
”Love at Home”
Refrain R
Love at home,
Love at home;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
When there’s love home.
Love at home,
Love at home;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
When there’s love home.

7. #2 “Love at Home” Stanza TWO Kindly heaven smiles above,
When there’s love home;
All the earth is filled with love;
When there’s love home.
Sweeter sings the brooklet by,
Brighter beams the azure sky;
O, there’s One who smiles on high
Kindly heaven smiles above,
When there’s love home;
All the earth is filled with love;
When there’s love home.
Sweeter sings the brooklet by,
Brighter beams the azure sky;
O, there’s One who smiles on high

8. Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
”Love at Home”
Refrain R
Love at home,
Love at home;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
When there’s love home.
Love at home,
Love at home;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
When there’s love home.

9. #3 “Love at Home” Stanza THREE Jesus, make me wholly Thine,
Then there’s love at home;
May Thy sacrifice be mine,
Then there’s love at home.
Safely from all harm I’ll rest,
With no sinful care distressed,
Thro’ Thy tender mercy blessed,
When there’s love home.
Jesus, make me wholly THine,
Then there’s love at home;
May Thy sacrifice be mine,
Then there’s love at home.
Safely from all harm I’ll rest,
With no sinful care distressed,
Thro’ Thy tender mercy blessed,
When there’s love home.

10. Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
”Love at Home”
Refrain R
Love at home,
Love at home;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
When there’s love home.
Love at home,
Love at home;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide,
When there’s love home.

11. LOVE
At Home

13. Social Media Ministry WhatsApp: +233-208905912
Facebook: Paraklet Love and Life Consultancy
Twitter: Pastorjoe4
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14. LOVE
At Home
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15. Today’s Question
How can we ensure that there is love at home?

17. The “Love at Home” Process
It begins before marriage and never comes to an end

18. Key Points OUTLINE An understanding of Love An understanding of Dating
An understanding of Courtship
An understanding of marriage
An Understanding of Marital Practice

19. An Understanding of LOVE#1

20. LOVE
“The Basis for A Home”

21. The Basis of it all:
What we need to know
Lord Speak

22. ?
What is
LOVE
Choosing a life partner

23. Love is a “passionate attraction and desire.”
Encarta
Love is a “passionate attraction and desire.”

24. Different Expressions of Love
FILEO: (love that fosters companionship and friendship);
EROS: (passionate love that normally exists between a male and a female);
AGAPE: (the highest representation of love which is described in the Bible and expressed unconditionally).
It is important to understand that there are different expressions for love. The words for love in the Greek language are different depending on the type of love one is talking about. We can at least talk about eros (passionate love that normally exists between a male and a female); fileo (love that fosters companionship and friendship); and agape (the highest representation of love which is described in the Bible and expressed unconditionally). At this point I will focus the attention of this article to eros love because that is the type of love that exists between males and females and is normally expressed in sexual action.

25. Love according to the Experts
Children

26. Six –year Old Christy
“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs”

27. Seven-Year old Danny
Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK

28. Seven year old Noelle
Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday

29. Love is when Mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken
Five year old Elaine
Love is when Mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken

30. Seven year old Karen
When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down like stars come out of you

31. Six year old Mark
Love is when mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross

32. Love according to the Experts
Cynics

33. love is “a temporary insanity curable by marriage”.
Ambrose Bierce
love is “a temporary insanity curable by marriage”.
Ambrose Bierce will say that love is “a temporary insanity curable by marriage”.

34. L. E. Alston
Love is like Prison, once you get in, its hard to get out. You stress, you cry, you do things you never thought you would

35. Love is giving someone the power to destroy you
Gretchen Wilson
Love is giving someone the power to destroy you

36. David Arroyo
Love is a pain

37. Love according to the Experts
The Bible

38. 1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.

39. Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all sins.
Proverbs 10:12
Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all sins.

40. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
1 John 4:8
He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

41. 1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 8
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.

42. LOVE: IS NOT UNREASONABLE
True love may be unconditional, but it is not unreasonable. Love looks at all decisions taken carefully and critically. Love always makes an informed decision. Decisions made are not a result of thoughtless actions borne from unreasonable emotions and feelings for someone. Rather, a lot of thinking goes into the choices and decisions that are made. A relationship or marriage that drives you to make avoidable mistakes leading to serious disasters, all in the name of love, should be re-examined. You don't have to take detrimental decisions in the name of love: don't compromise your faith; or eat food that you are allergic to; or sleep in mosquitoes overnight; or sacrifice your dignity; or risk your life, health, and joy; all in the name of love. LOVE IS NOT UNREASONABLE! – Pastor Josiah B. Andor (Director, Paraklet Love and Life Consultancy)

43. LOVE: IS NOT A FEELING!
Normally it becomes difficult to differentiate between true love and infatuation. One point that is worthy of note is that “true love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. On the contrary, it is calm and deep in its nature” (Ellen White, The Adventist Home, p. 51). True, there is a feeling component of love: the passion may be there; you miss a heartbeat when you see him; or your heart beats faster when you see her; you get an erection when you hear her voice; and you just can't stop thinking about him. That feeling may be there, but love can't be reduced to just the feelings, it is deeper. Strange feelings may be part of love, but love goes beyond that. LOVE IS NOT A FEELING! – Pastor Josiah B. Andor (Director, Paraklet Love and Life Consultancy)

44. LOVE: IS NOT BLIND
Many people confuse the fact that love is unconditional to believe that love is blind. Blindness implies that love does not see the bad traits, danger signals, and unreasonable passion displayed in a particular relationship. Instead of advising itself, blind love will remain in a relationship that is heading the wrong path: an abusive relationship, an emotionally draining relationship, a relationship in which a partner possesses very bad habits, a relationship in which you only give but don't receive love back, a relationship that is only about sexual contact, a relationship in which one is being taken for granted, a relationship in which there is no compatibility, a relationship that lacks the approval of significant others (for a good reason), a relationship that has no future, a relationship that poses a danger to life, a relationship not built on trust, etc. True love will see all the bad traits, the danger signals, and the reason to either stay or quit. Watch out, LOVE IS NOT BLIND! – Pastor Josiah B. Andor (Director, Paraklet Love and Life Consultancy)

45. An Understanding of DATING#2

46. DATING
DATING

47. Dating
The activity of going on dates: the activity of going out regularly with somebody as a social or romantic partner.

48. Pinning (beginning of courtship)
Steps in Dating
Group dating
Special dating
Steady dating
Pinning (beginning of courtship)
Steps in dating:
Group dating
Special dating
Steady dating
Pinning (beginning of courtship)

49. Precautions Don’t attempt to jump any of the steps
Don’t become friends with personal gains in mind
Don’t become friends because of attraction at first site
Don’t entertain detailed touchy situations
Don’t spend LONG dates
Don’t pretend to be who you are not
Don’t leave God out
Don’t attempt to jump any of the steps
Don’t become friends with personal gains in mind
Don’t become friends because of attraction at first site
Don’t entertain detailed touchy situations
Don’t spend LONG dates
Don’t pretend to be who you are not
Don’t leave God out

50. An Understanding of COURTSHIP#3

51. COURTSHIP

52. Courtship
Prelude to marriage: the period of a romantic relationship before marriage
Trying to gain somebody's love: the act of paying attention to somebody with a view to developing a more intimate relationship

53. Finding out as much as possible
It is a Period of STUDY
Finding out as much as possible

54. Make sure you know the person very well
KNOWING YOUR PARTNER
Make sure you know the person very well

55. Factors to Consider
Mental: educational level, partners thinking process for decision making, values on time, honesty, money, truth..
Social: How does partner behave and relate to you in public, how do your families think of the relation/ any tribal reservations
Spiritual: what are your spiritual values, what faith do you share, any differences in practices, how do you plan for counseling
Physical: How does partner keep body, health, sexual behavior. Peculiar habits-changeable or not

57. IMPORTANT POINTS TO NOTE
We are only friends now, not yet married, so keep your distance
We have individual plans/dreams that we want to fulfill
Time can effect changes in situation, physiology, mental…
You should not be the cause of someone’s regrets
Keep the Christian principles you believe and practice
IMPORTANT POINTS TO NOTE
1. We are only friends now, not yet married, so keep your distance
2. We have individual plans/dreams that we want to fulfill
3. We are accountable to God, family/parents, society for the investment made
4. Time can effects changes in situation, physiology, mental…
5. Not to be the cause of someone’s regrets
6. Be friends to all and learn from them as they learn from you
7. Pray for your friends good and spiritual well being and maturity to stand strong in all situation
8. Keep the Christian principles you believe and practice

58. Which is the best arrangement?
The Reversal Problem
Sex, Love, Marriage
Marriage, Love, Sex
Sex, Marriage, Love
Love, Sex, Marriage
Which is the best arrangement?
5. Love, Marriage, Sex

59. An Understanding of MARRIAGE#4

61. Biblical Foundation for Marriage
Genesis 1-2
INTRODUCTION
Preparation is a very important key to success in life. It is important to prepare in order to succeed. To prepare according to Encarta Dictionary, is “to take the necessary action to put something into a state where it is fit for use or action or for a particular event or purpose”. For example, before I stood here to speak the technicians had prepared the microphone and the projector. Before you came to church today, you made some preparations. Before you got married, some preparations were put in place.
Preparation is important in life.

62. MARRIAGE “The two shall be ONE” “unequally yoked together”
Josiah B. Andor
Hymns
SDAH 427: No night there
SDAH 428: Sweet by and by
SDAH 632: Until then
SDAH 626: In a little While.

64. An Understanding of MARITAL PRACTICE#5
Conflict Management
Communication
Romance

65. MARITAL PRACTICE “Selfless Love” “unequally yoked together”
Josiah B. Andor
Hymns
SDAH 427: No night there
SDAH 428: Sweet by and by
SDAH 632: Until then
SDAH 626: In a little While.

66. MARITAL PRACTICE “Selfless Love” Three major areas: Managing Conflicts
Effective communication
Romance

67. MANAGING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE
Josiah B. Andor
Hymns
SDAH 427: No night there
SDAH 428: Sweet by and by
SDAH 632: Until then
SDAH 626: In a little While.

69. STYLES OF HANDLING CONFLICT
FOUR major styles of handling Conflict
Must win
INTRODUCTION
Preparation is a very important key to success in life. It is important to prepare in order to succeed. To prepare according to Encarta Dictionary, is “to take the necessary action to put something into a state where it is fit for use or action or for a particular event or purpose”. For example, before I stood here to speak the technicians had prepared the microphone and the projector. Before you came to church today, you made some preparations. Before you got married, some preparations were put in place.
Preparation is important in life.

70. STYLES OF HANDLING CONFLICT
FOUR major styles of handling Conflict
Must win
Withdraw or Yield
INTRODUCTION
Preparation is a very important key to success in life. It is important to prepare in order to succeed. To prepare according to Encarta Dictionary, is “to take the necessary action to put something into a state where it is fit for use or action or for a particular event or purpose”. For example, before I stood here to speak the technicians had prepared the microphone and the projector. Before you came to church today, you made some preparations. Before you got married, some preparations were put in place.
Preparation is important in life.

71. STYLES OF HANDLING CONFLICT
FOUR major styles of handling Conflict
Must win
Withdraw or Yield
Negotiate
INTRODUCTION
Preparation is a very important key to success in life. It is important to prepare in order to succeed. To prepare according to Encarta Dictionary, is “to take the necessary action to put something into a state where it is fit for use or action or for a particular event or purpose”. For example, before I stood here to speak the technicians had prepared the microphone and the projector. Before you came to church today, you made some preparations. Before you got married, some preparations were put in place.
Preparation is important in life.

72. STYLES OF HANDLING CONFLICT
FOUR major styles of handling Conflict
Must win
Withdraw or Yield
Negotiate
Resolve
INTRODUCTION
Preparation is a very important key to success in life. It is important to prepare in order to succeed. To prepare according to Encarta Dictionary, is “to take the necessary action to put something into a state where it is fit for use or action or for a particular event or purpose”. For example, before I stood here to speak the technicians had prepared the microphone and the projector. Before you came to church today, you made some preparations. Before you got married, some preparations were put in place.
Preparation is important in life.

73. EEFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Communication is like “Mortar” putting together all the building blocks/bricks of any marriage or relationship

78. Avoid Accusations/Confrontations

79. Don’t Confuse your Partner

80. KEEPING THE ROMANCE ALIVE
“Let the Love be seen”

89. LOVE AT HOME
“Happiness for life”

90. Questions Comments Thoughts