1. Faith is Not a Strategy

2. This is the first generation having to deal with the issue of pornography to this intensity and scale

3. We need to understand the landscape our young people are living in

4. Pornified ideology has been seamlessly absorbed into pop culture
What’s happened, without our even noticing, is that the

5. Pornography has been normalized and sanitized in the public eye, so it seems fun, edgy and cool
– constantly referred to in sitcoms and movies

6. Our culture has become so sexualized that we have become immune to the constant and toxic messages and images
We’ve become immune

7. When we do notice, we can turn away or turn it off – our young people can’t

8. They have been inundated with them since they were born

9. Magazines at the checkout counter of the supermarket

10. The video games that are played everyday by young people everywhere
The video games that are played everyday by young people everywhere. And I am not showing you the really bad stuff!

11. Pushing the envelope of what is acceptable - Normalizing violent and abusive sexuality

12. Public outcry because of the sado-masochism portrayed as normal in the movie

13. And then there’s music

14. Things have changed

16. A new survey commissioned by Plan Australia and Our Watch gathered responses from 600 young women aged 15-19

17. Girls and young women describe boys pressuring them to provide acts inspired by the porn they consume routinely

18. When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you
When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you?,” an 8th grade girl replied: “He still wants to talk to you after you [give him oral sex].”

19. A generation of young men being raised on porn that reduces women to body parts and playthings
What this means is…

20. Young women being taught that they need to be hot and sexy to have value

21. Porn has become sex education for a whole generation – including our children!
What they’re seeing has nothing to do with real love, or even healthy sexuality. Its sexist, degrading, selfish and violent.

22. What kids see on first exposure is hard porn

23. rape

24. 90% of it is violent and mysogynistic

25. The norm is 3 on 1

26. The world fills in the void that we leave by not talking to our kids

27. There are no parents who want to talk to their kids about sex and porn: So we minimize the problem
One of the biggest problems for parents is that they

28. The internet has changed parenting

29. Like any new generation of parents, it’s taking some time to understand how to adapt to the new realities

30. First, we have to get our heads out of the sand and look educate ourselves about the situation – we need to know our enemy

31. We owe it to our kids to understand this issue and to support them if they need help

32. We will have to get better at both listening and speaking

33. We may have to deal with our fear and discomfort first!

34. When it comes to listening, parents’ attitudes and reactions matter!

35. It’s not okay to freak out!
Parents’ attitudes and reactions matter = we owe it to our kids to understand this issue and to support them if they need help. Eg told dad, he said, yea, that’s hard
It’s not okay
to freak out!

36. Faith is not a strategy and prayer and avoidance can no longer be our only defense
Praying and hoping is no longer enough

37. We need to replace fear, shame and avoidance with knowledge and support
Let’s get help if we need it – it starts with us

38. We will need to have ongoing conversations, not just a one-time ‘talk’ with our kids about sexuality and pornography  

39. Where do we begin?

40. Preparing to Talk About Porn
Do our homework
Talk it through with our spouses
Pray about it
Remember that tone is everything
Really listen
Our attitude as parents is crucial – we have to deal with our shame, our fear, our judgment, our discomfort first!

41. We’ve got some homework to do!

42. Part of our homework is to learn how to explain the dangers of pornography simply and clearly

43. It’s no longer enough to say that porn is bad - we need to explain why
Close eyes

44. Why is Porn Bad? Porn turns people into objects to buy and consume.
Porn reduces people to their parts which can be altered, “perfected” and pimped.
Porn teaches users to dehumanize others as they buy into its degrading objectification.
With each pornographic picture, porn denies the dignity, and many would say the divinity, of each human soul.

45. Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids
“Watching pornography can lead you to believe that people are objects to use instead of real human beings with feelings. We know that everyone has feelings and wants to be treated with kindness, so that’s one more way pornography lies to people who look at it.”
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids 

46. We will need to figure out what to say in any and every situation that may come up

47. We will need to immunize our younger kids against porn

48. How do we Immunize kids against Pourn How Do We Immunize Kids Against Porn?
The same way we protect them from other dangers
First we warn them that the danger exists
Then we teach them what to do if they confront that danger

49. The Benefits of Early Warning
Our kids will suddenly have an ally (us!)
Our kids will feel comfortable coming and talking with us whenever they have questions. 
Their confidence will increase as we trust our kids with important information about internet safety and the dangers in their world.
Our children will have a plan. They’ll know exactly how to protect themselves in any exposure situation 

50.  If parents don't step up to the plate, teens are going to get information that's unedited, without context, and often incorrect — from wherever they can find it, and they will have no coping strategies 

51. Bottom Line use will interfere with their ability to love their
 We need to tell our sons that pornography
use will interfere with their ability to love their
wives wholeheartedly and enjoy conjugal love

52. Bottom Line
We need to tell our daughters that they never have to put up with abuse and degradation and they deserve to be respected and cherished

53. We need to start talking about healthy, God-centered sexuality

54. We need to tell our kids why marital sexuality is so powerful and beautiful

55. What is Sex Meant to be Like?
Healthy sex is always relational: Physical intimacy was created to draw husbands and wives closer together
Healthy sex supports a relationship rather than being the relationship
Healthy sex is about mutually shared pleasure; not numbing the pain with selfish indulgence
Gary Thomas – Sacred Marriage

56. Healthy sex isn’t just about excitement or reaching a climax—it’s about spouses relating, connecting, knowing, and authentically being there for each other.
In a healthy sexual relationship, you feel that the sexual experience affirms who you are, your sense of worth, and your sense of being valued.

57. In the age of unlimited access to Internet porn, we need to take our position as the best educators of the heart for our children

58. educateempowerkids.org

61. protectyoungminds.org The Quick Start Guide for Proactive Parents
The Smart Plan Guide for Parents
Share and Speak Up Guide: Inculcating Kids Against the Pandemic of Pornography

62. Good Pictures Bad Pictures is a comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it’s dangerous, and how to reject it.

63. Faith is not a Strategy

64. We have to fight for real lovek
We have to fight for real love
Story in Seattle - The ideal world is built one person at a time, one couple at a time, one family at a time. So let/s recognize the ways satan is working to jeopardize our efforts, and let’s fight with all we’ve got – let’s win the fight for love and purity!

65. Gail Dines g Pornland: How Pornography is Hijacking our Sexuality
Gail Danes – Growing up in a pornified culture
Pornland: How Pornography is Hijacking our Sexuality