1. Healthy Relationships: Dating & Friendships
8th grade Part One

2. Discussion What do unhealthy relationships look like?
What are characteristics of a healthy relationship?

3. Objectives
To create awareness of student’s own view of a healthy and unhealthy relationships
To inform students of the current dating violence issue
To develop a course of action to take when personal boundaries are crossed

4. Quiz

5. Relationships are Everywhere
Parents
Boyfriends
Girlfriends
Friends
Teachers
Coaches
Other parents/adults
Co-workers
A relationship is a connection

6. Define the Relationship (DTR)
What does it mean to have a boyfriend or girlfriend?
What does dating look like?
Expectations
Boundaries

7. Dating Violence Stats
Stats from

8. What is Dating Violence?
“Teen dating abuse is a pattern of physically, sexually, verbally, and/or emotionally abusive or controlling behavior in a dating relationship. It can involve digital communications and technologies or real world communications and physical interactions.” (From Break the Cycle Curriculum High School)
Verbal
Physical
Sexual
Digital
Sexting

9. Healthy relationships
PAIR/SHARE
Find a partner sitting next to you and discuss the following questions

10. What is a healthy relationship?
Who are people in your life that make you feel good about being yourself and why?
What are the characteristics or qualities you look for in a friend?
Does it matter if the friend is a guy or girl?
Should you look for the same qualities in a boyfriend or girlfriend as in a friend?
How should you treat a boyfriend or girlfriend?
How do you want to be treated by a girlfriend or boyfriend?
Can you choose how you want to be treated in a dating relationship?

11. Graffiti Activity Divide into 4 groups
30 seconds to draw/write on each poster
Posters around room
Healthy Relationships Look like
Healthy Relationships Sound like
Healthy Relationships feel like
Unhealthy relationships look like/sound like

12. Warning Signs of Abusive Behavior Check yourself
If I…
feel jealous often. I am jealous of other people in my partner’s life. I want them to only be with me
constantly question them about whereabouts, phone calls, conversations
feel I have the right to tell my partner what to do, who to talk to, where to go, what to wear
give my partner ultimatums - I make them choose between me and other things
take my anger out on things in front of the person I’m dating (i.e. I have broken, punched or thrown things when I’m angry
have grabbed, pushed, slapped, or hit my partner when I’m angry
blame others for my problems or my feelings
If I hurt my partner, I blame them
I make excuses for my reactions, especially if others are hurt by them
believe I should be in control of the relationship
I believe my partner is inferior to me – if I believe my partner is like my property

13. Healthy Relationships
8th grade Part Two

14. Objectives
To create awareness of social/cultural influences on the student’s own view of a healthy relationship
To develop a standard of personal boundaries based on values
To identify appropriate responses to scenarios when personal boundaries are crossed
To identify effective communication and refusal skills to use when confronted with an unhealthy or unsafe situation

15. https://thatsnotcool.com/cyberbullying-online-abuse-callout- cards/
Shout out Activity
cards/

16. Who & What influences you?
Family
Friends
Media
Experiences

17. What are your values?
Family values
Personal values
Dating

18. Stick it/Solve it Activity
3 Scenarios, 3 post-it notes (Have them put initials in corner before explaining the activity)
Read aloud scenario, have students run up and place answer on board
There can be more than one right solution
#1 Hannah
#2 Will
#3 Marissa

19. Communication/Refusal skills
Being Assertive
Verbals and non-verbals
Refusal – be your own boss
Helping others – don’t be a bystander

20. Role-play activity When the person I’m dating…
calls me names, embarrasses me or makes me feel stupid
continually questions my whereabouts, who I talk to, and/or why I want to be with my friends
asks about or checks my phone to see if other people call me
keeps making excuses for why they are mistreating me
is really nice sometimes and really mean at other times
blames me, says I provoked them, claims I know about their short temper, or says they have anger problem when we fight
tells me that I am “making too big a deal” out of things or dismisses me when I try to talk about things
pressures or forces me into being intimate
makes promises to change
When I am afraid or scared of him/her

21. Wrap-up
Websites hand-out
Any questions?