1. Bullying What is it? How do we stop it at Vineyard?

2. What is Bullying?
A bully is someone who repeatedly hurts, teases, or frightens other people.
A bully’s behavior is intentional –
they purposely do unkind things to be mean.
A bully looks for an imbalance of power – they want to overpower the victim in some way such as being bigger, older, or causing someone to feel helpless.

3. Bullying has many names
Gossiping
Rejection
Teasing/taunting
Assault/hitting
Harassment
Stealing/extortion
Threatening
Profanity
Cyberbullying
Indirect: Intentionally excluding someone making them feel isolated

4. Reason for this Presentation
Bullying has become a major problem in our school.
Students need to understand what it means to bully someone.
Students need to know what to do when they are bullied.
Students need to know ways to help others who are being bullied.

5. FACTS Bullying interferes with learning.
In recent studies, it has been reported that 88% of junior high school students have experienced being victimized by bullying in school.
160,000 students miss school every day due to fear of attack or intimidation by a bully.

6. FACTS
In 2007, about 32% of students aged 12 to 18 reported being bullied at school.
More common in younger kids:
43% of 6th graders
24% of 12th graders
In all:
21% reported that they had been teased
11% were physically bullied
4% cyber bullied
6% threatened bodily harm

7. Bullies Bullies are more likely to drop out of school.
Bullies are more likely to be associated with delinquency.
Bullies are more likely to be become criminals.
Bullies tend to develop violent traits.

8. Bullies Are more likely to: Be physically aggressive/fight Vandalize
Steal
Drink and smoke
Skip school
Drop out
Carry Weapons

9. Bullies are Cowards
Bullies tend to bully others when teachers and adults are not watching.
Bullies tend to bully and intimidate others when they have an audience of “friends.”
Bullies tend to look for weakness in their victims.

10. VICTIMS
Fear of being bullied leads to higher rates of absence and truancy.
Victims develop a loss of self-esteem, depression, and isolation.
As students and later as adults, victims may be hesitant to take social, intellectual, and emotional risks.

11. VICTIMS
Victims are more likely than non-victims to grow up feeling insecure.
Grades may suffer because attention is drawn away from learning.
Fear going to school, using the school restroom, riding the bus

12. BYSTANDERS
They are afraid of associating with the victim because they fear retribution or becoming “victimized” themselves.
They fear reporting bullying incidents because they may be termed as a “snitch,” “tattletale,” “rat,” etc.
Are sometimes drawn into bullying behavior by group pressure
Feel unsafe, unable to take action or a sense of a loss of control

13. FORMS OF BULLYING! Verbal/name calling Physical/hitting Threatening
Sexual
Electronic/cyberbullying

14. Sexual Harassment a form of Bullying
Verbal
Physical
Written
Gestures

15. Examples of Sexual Harassment
Sexual comments, jokes, gestures, or looks
Showing, giving, or leaving sexual pictures, photos, notes, etc.
Writing sexual messages about another student on bathroom walls, etc.
Saying another student is gay or lesbian
Spying on another student when dressing at school in locker rooms

16. More examples of Sexual Harassment
Touching or grabbing or pinching another student in a sexual way
Intentionally brushing up against another student in a sexual way
Pulling at clothing (pulling off or pulling down clothing - pantsing)
Blocking another student or cornering them in a sexual way

17. Electronic/Cyberbullying a form of bullying
when the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person

18. Electronic/Cyberbullying
Cyber-bullying can be as simple as continuing to send to someone who has said they want no further contact with the sender, but it may also include threats, sexual remarks, pejorative labels (i.e., hate speech), ganging up on victims by making them the subject of ridicule in forums, and posting false statements as fact aimed at humiliation.

19. Electronic/Cyberbullying
Sending “mean, vulgar, or threatening messages or images
Posting information that is personal, sensitive, or untrue
Posting untrue information as if one was that person
Exclusion from online groups
Threats
Rumors/Gossip
Damaging Information
Altering/Disseminating Photos
Stealing passwords and user names
Recording conversations

21. True or False ? ?
If a girl wears tight jeans or a short shirt, she is asking to be sexually harassed.
False
Boys don’t usually get sexually harassed.
Spreading rumors around school can be a form of sexual harassment.
True

22. / True or False ? ? Bullying makes kids feel good about themselves.
Bullying is a way of showing you have power over someone else.
True
Calling someone “gay” or “queer” is a form of sexual harassment.

23. True or False ? ? You can go to jail for sexually harassing someone.
Sexual harassment isn’t a problem at this school.
False
If you see someone you don’t know very well being sexually harassed, you should mind your own business.

24. RIGHTS !
All children have a right to a school environment where they feel safe and can learn to the best of their abilities.

25. Difference Between Bullying and a Conflict
Bullying is when someone is repeatedly and intentionally causing the victim to feel uncomfortable or afraid.
A conflict is part of everyday living and can be resolved.

26. What can happen?
Students can now be suspended or expelled for bullying, including cyber bullying.

27. So
Take a stand.
Lend a hand.
Stop bullying now !!!!

28. What Can You Do ???? Seek adult help.
Do not participate in the harassment of the victim.
Offer kind words to the victim.
Do not become involved in rumors and gossip.
Do not become involved in physical or verbal fights with a bully.

29. What Can You Do ????? Remind the victim to walk away.
If you can effectively communicate with the bully, tell the bully that he/she is doing inappropriate things or tell the bully to “leave the victim alone.”
Invite the victim to hang out with you.

30. What Can You Do ????? Purple Slip Bully Box (Front office and Library)
Safe School Ambassadors
Teachers
Staff

31. Education Code Suspension 48900 (a.1) 48900 (i) 48900 (n) 48900 (o)
(q)
(.2)
(.3)
(.4)
Expulsion
(b)
(e)