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3-5-7 MODEL© Engaging Families in their Work Using the Model© Guided Practice Approach k Sponsored by Pennsylvania Family Group Decision Making Statewide Conference
Presented by Darla L Henry, PhD, MSW, MRS Stephanie Hodge Wolfe, LSW, SFW, LSFW
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3. LEARNING OBJECTIVES
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Describe how the Model© can be used as a foundation for understanding engagement
2. Use the 3 Tasks and 5 Questions of the Model© to better understand and support family members throughout child welfare and court involvement
3. Name the 7 Skills of the Model© and describe ways these skills can be used to support engagement
4. Understand our role in responding to the emotions expressed by those involved in
the case planning and court processes
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3-5-7 MODEL©
Evidence-informed relational practice approach that supports the work of children, youth, and their families
To grieve losses resulting from their traumas
To rebuild relationships established in the perception of safety
To empower individuals
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5. FOUNDATIONAL THEORIES that SUPPORT the 3-5-7 MODEL©
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FOUNDATIONAL THEORIES that SUPPORT the MODEL©
CHILD & ADOLESCENT DEVELOPMENT
ABUSE/NEGLECT IMPACT
SEPARATION AND LOSS EXPERIENCES
GRIEF CYCLE
ATTACHMENT & CYCLE of NEED
TRAUMA INFORMED CARE
FAMILY DYNAMICS/SYSTEMS
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3-5-7 MODEL
3 TASKS: to frame engagement strategies to support the work of children, youth, and families
5 QUESTIONS: conceptual questions to support the work of the 3 tasks and address the issues that are the results of relationship and family traumas
7 SKILLS: are the abilities, knowledge and philosophical perspectives of professionals and caregivers who work with children, youth and families
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7. 3 TASKS—FAMILY WORK 3 Clarification Integration Actualization
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3 TASKS—FAMILY WORK
Clarification
Full Disclosure
Integration
Understanding impacts of past events on relationships
Using strengths to move forward
Actualization
Achieving goals and moving toward reunification 3
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8. 5 CONCEPTUAL QUESTIONS—FAMILY WORK
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5 CONCEPTUAL QUESTIONS—FAMILY WORK 5
Who Am I?
Family/parental identity
What Happened to Me?
Child loss through placement
Where Am I Going?
Attachment/Claiming—Service Plan goals
How Will I Get There?
Family Strengths and Supportive Relationships
When Will I Know I Belong?
Reunification or redefined relationship
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7 SKILL ELEMENTS
Establishing the perception of SAFETY through authentic listening, physical location and continuity of time spent with child/youth/family
Providing OPPORTUNITIES to EXPLORE feelings and understanding of life events
BEING PRESENT to the exploration
LISTENING to the stories
AFFIRMING current perceptions
BRIEFLY SPEAKING in response to questions, comments, and reactions of child/youth
RECOGNIZING and ACCEPTING that current BEHAVIORS reflect GRIEF RESPONSES 7
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10. 7 SKILLS are the KEYS TO ENGAGEMENT
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WE CANNOT “FIX” KIDS AND FAMILIES; IT IS THEIR WORK TO DO
Excerpted from Henry, D. L. (2010). The Model: A practice approach to permanency. Stories of hope & healing for children, youth and families. Kearney, NE: Morris Publishing.)
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11. Needs of Parents Opportunities to explore loss experiences
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Needs of Parents
Opportunities to explore loss experiences
To be heard, listened to, affirmed
To feel successful as a parent
To have support with parenting challenges
To be connected to resources that support parenting needs
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12. Needs of Children/Adolescents
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Needs of Children/Adolescents
Protection by adults
Assurance of parental love; balanced with parenting capacity
Support and comfort from safe adults
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13. ATTACHMENT CYCLE Behavioral Response Behavior stops or changes
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Physical or
Psychological
Need
SECURITY
TRUST
ATTACHMENT
Behavioral
Response
Behavior stops
or changes
Continuity
Stability
Mutuality
Satisfaction Of
Need
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14. THEMES OF LOSS Loss of control Loss of dignity Loss of security
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THEMES OF LOSS
Loss of control
Loss of dignity
Embarrassment, shame, guilt
Loss of security
Loss of identity
Loss of belongingness in family
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15. Impact of Child Placement on Parents
Pervasive and painful feelings of loss
Threats to:
Self-Esteem
Parental and Family Identity
Sense of Belonging/togetherness
Security
Lacking of a sense of purpose
Criticism and Blame
Field Guide to Child Welfare: Placement and Permanence,
Child Welfare League of America, 1998
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16. Impact for other Relatives
Helplessness/frustration/confusion
Concern (fear) for both the child and the parent
Embarrassment/Shame/Guilt
Anger/Resentment
Realignment of Relationships
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17. Role of the System in Supporting Grief
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ENHANCING OUR APPROACHES RECOGNIZING AND SUPPORTING EXPRESSIONS OF GRIEF AND SUPPORTING RELATIONSHIP BUILDING
Role of the System in Supporting Grief
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18. Engagement Using the 3-5-7 Model© Supports Decision Making
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Engagement Using the Model© Supports Decision Making
Based on the identified proven foundational theories, the concepts of the Model© provide a guided approach to support grief work and relationship building activities.
Emotional well-being is enhanced through the healing of past hurts that can be resolved through the applications of this model.
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19. Reunification Decision
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Reunification Decision
“When reasonable efforts have been made to reunify the child with the parents but the child has remained in care and reunification is not viable or imminent, the court must consider changing the goal from reunification to another permanency goal. In many cases, this means a change to adoption.”
Excerpted from: Pennsylvania Children’s Roundtable Initiative. Pennsylvania Dependency Benchbook. Harrisburg, PA: Office of Children and Families in the Courts, 2010, p. 117.
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20. Legal relationship and emotional relationship issues
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Legal relationship and emotional relationship issues
Understanding birth parent’s readiness for voluntary relinquishment decisions
Contact and visitation following TPR
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21. Who Decides? Parental Capacity
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Who Decides?
Parental Capacity
Legal Status of Parent/Child Relationship
Meaning of Relationship
Ongoing Contact
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22. Parenting Capacity TERMINATING PARENTAL RIGHTS DOES NOT TERMINATE LOVE
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TERMINATING PARENTAL RIGHTS DOES NOT TERMINATE LOVE
Excerpted from Henry, D. L. (2010). The Model: A practice approach to permanency. Stories of hope & healing for children, youth and families. Kearney, NE: Morris Publishing.)
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23. Relinquishment Decisions Parent Perspective
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Clarification, Integration, Actualization process
Parent explores:
Who Am I
What Happened to Me
Where Am I Going
How Will I Get There
When Will I Know I Belong
Those who support this work must use the 7 Skills
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“A birthmother’s continued sense of loss and weakened ability to adjust are in part related to her lack of knowledge about the child’s development, and her inability to let the child know that she still cares and thinks about him or her. That the child continues to exist and is growing up without her, and she is forbidden to know anything about what is happening, means that her ability to grieve in any normal fashion is greatly impaired.”
Excerpted from Half a Million Women: Mothers Who Lose Their Children by Adoption. By David Howe, Phillida Sawbridge and Diana Hinings London: Penguin Books.
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25. Maintaining Connections
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CHILDREN LOVE THEIR PARENTS, PARENTS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN
Excerpted from Henry, D. L. (2010). The Model: A practice approach to permanency. Stories of hope & healing for children, youth and families. Kearney, NE: Morris Publishing.)
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26. Benefits to Maintaining Relationships
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Maintaining the parent-child relationship has many benefits for both the child and the parent. These benefits include:
Reducing a child’s sense of abandonment,
Protecting child and family identity,
Helping to maintain engagement with the parent, and
Providing opportunities to re-build the parent-child relationship.
TERMINATION OF RIGHTS DOES NOT NEGATE THESE POTENTIAL BENEFITS
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27. FINAL THOUGHTS Better Outcomes Impacted Decision Making
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FINAL THOUGHTS
Understanding Grief and Relationship Building Process
Impacted Decision Making
Better Outcomes
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