1. Oliver Goldsmith Primary School “Inspiring a love of learning”
Parent Time
Promoting
Anti-Bullying
22nd November 2016

2. Welcome & Organisation
Mr Simmons Headteacher
Miss Dean Deputy Head
Miss Beck Class Teacher & PSHE and Wellbeing Leader
Evacuation if alarm sounds (not planned) JS

3. What is bullying?
What do you think children think bullying is? What do you think parents think bullying is? AM

5. Anti-bullying Week
Anti-Bullying week highlights and focuses on bullying, and encourages all children, teachers and parents to take action against bullying, not just this week but throughout the year.
The theme of Anti-Bullying week this year is 'Power For Good' and there are three key aims:

7. 1. To support children and young people to use their Power for Good, by understanding the ways in which they are powerful. Also to encourage individuals and groups to act so they are able to stop bullying and create the best world possible.

8. 2. To help parents and carers to use their Power for Good and to support children with problems relating to bullying and to work together with schools to stop bullying.
3. To encourage all teachers, school support staff and other agency workers to use their Power for Good, by valuing the difference they can make in a child’s life, and acting to prevent bullying and create safe environments where children can be safe and achieve their best.

9. What did you think? Is this bullying or not?
Julie and her friends are hanging out together in the playground. Natasha, a close friend from class comes along, and takes Julie’s hat off her head. Julie and the other friends laugh as they run after Natasha. Julie shouts out: ‘Hey give it back!’, and they run around for a while. All of them are laughing at the end as the friend gives the hat back to Julie.
No. This is teasing because Julie is close friends with the teaser, and she is feeling happy and not threatened. Julie and Natasha both know that it is a joke and are having fun together. AM

10. What did you think? Is this bullying or not?
Julie is by herself in the playground. Two other children from her class are standing nearby. One child, Taylor, walks up to her, snatches her hat from her head and runs away. Julie runs after Taylor to get her hat back, but they throw it to the other child. This child then puts the hat on the grounds and steps on it. Both children laugh, while Julie looks shocked and upset. The same thing happens for the next few days.
Yes, this is bullying because the children are upsetting Julie on purpose. They know that she is feeling hurt and they keep it up anyway. It happens on more than one occasion. Am

11. What did you think? Is this bullying or not?
Jamal’s sister works at his school. He has been receiving text messages about his sister from other children. Jamal thought that the first message was funny, but now he gets messages every few hours ad they are becoming mean.
If it was a one-off, it could be seen just as teasing. If it keeps happening and is upsetting Jamal, then it becomes bullying. Am

12. What did you think? Is this bullying or not?
Every time Jon gets his hair cut, Solomon and Shayla says he looks stupid. Jon feels really embarrassed and turns red when it happens. Solomon and Shayla think that it is funny. Jon said to his parents he doesn't want to get his hair cut again.
This is bullying because Solomon and Shayla know that this behaviour makes Jon feel embarrassed and upset. It is not appropriate and should not be repeated. Am

13. RECOGNISING BULLYING

14. If someone says or does something that is unintentionally hurtful, and they only do it once, they are being RUDE.

15. If someone says or does something that is intentionally hurtful, and they only do it once, they are being MEAN.

16. If someone says or does something that is intentionally hurtful, and they keep on doing it, even if you ask them to stop, that is BULLYING.

17. Non-Bullying VS Bullying
Non-Bullying Behaviour…
Bullying Behaviour…
Involves a playful back-and-forth between all those involved.
Is considered to be one-sided teasing.
Is accompanied by a friendly tone of voice and laughter.
May be accompanied by an angry tone of voice.
Is accompanied by affectionate gestures or expressions.
May be accompanied by angry body language, such as clenched fists.
Brings people closer and encourages friendships.
Continues even when the person being teased shows distress.
Sometimes helps to lighten a tense or angry situations.
Continues even when the person teasing knows the topic is upsetting to others.
Does not lead to physical confrontations.
Is sometimes accompanied by showing off in front of others. AM

18. Non-Bullying VS Bullying
Non-Bullying Behaviour…
Bullying…
When someone does not want to be friends with you.
Behaviour that is wrong which is aimed at somebody else.
When you and your close friend have an argument.
When someone has the power over another person or group or people.
Telling a teacher or another adult about someone who you see bullying.
When someone keeps upsetting you on purpose.
When someone steps on your foot because they are not looking where they are going.
Peer pressure which gets others disciplined by a teacher or another adult AM

19. ? ? What now? Walk away Talk to a teacher Stand Up for your friends
Try not to say anything back
Try not to say anything back ?
Stand Up for your friends
Don’t keep it to yourself
Don’t keep it to yourself
Tell an adult that you trust
Speak to your parent / carer
Speak to your parent / carer ?
Ignore as best you can

20. What is bullying – Official Definitions!
Anti-Bullying Alliance defines Bullying as:
The repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power.
NSPCC defines Bullying as:
Behaviour that hurts someone else, it is usually repeated over a long period of time and can hurt a child both physically and emotionally. AM

21. What is bullying – Official Definitions!
Kidscape defines Bullying as:
Deliberate, repetitive and involves imbalance of power.
Stopbullying.gov defines Bullying as:
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behaviour which is repeated over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumours, excluding someone from a group on purpose. AM

22. Our aims at OGPS…
Help all children to feel safe and secure in the school environment.
Raise awareness of Anti-Bullying and agree on a clear definition of what bullying behaviour is.
Help children know what they can do if they feel they are being bullied to make the situation better.
Make sure all children know it is our shared responsibility to help stop bullying when they see it happening.
Share the importance of the role of the bystander and ways they can get involved safely to stop bullying.
Selecting Anti-Bullying Ambassadors to represent classes and address or report any issues; keeping anti-bullying alive ALL YEAR! AM

23. Key Findings: National Data
• 1.5 million young people (50%) have been bullied within the past year. • 145,800 (19%) of these were bullied EVERY DAY. • People who have been bullied are almost twice as likely to bully others • Twice as many boys as girls bully (66% of males vs. 31% females) • 57% of females and 44% of males have been bullied.
• 24% of those who have been bullied go on to bully. • Based on their own definition 14% of young people admit to bullying somebody, 12% say they bully people daily. • Twice as many boys as girls bully (66% of males vs. 31% females). • 20% of all young people have physically attacked somebody. JS

24. There are always reasons bullies bully?
Bullies may be jealous of others.
They may be scared, think nobody likes them and don’t have friends.
They may feel bad inside and want others to feel bad as well.
They may have been bullied by others and so repeat the behaviour.
They may think it is their only way to have control or been seen as clever by others.
Some bullies just enjoy being unkind because that is what has been modelled to them.
They may bully people so no one will bully them, they have low self confidence and low self esteem. JS

25. What are the types of bullying?
Physical
Deliberate pushing, shoving and hitting. Taking belongings. Making people do things they do not want to do.
Emotional
Leaving people out. Humiliating. Setting people up. Spreading nasty rumours.
Verbal
Name-calling. Nasty teasing. Taunting. Abuse based on being different.
Cyber
Bullying texts or s. Abuse on social media sites or apps. Abuse over online games. Sending embarrassing videos or photos. JS

26. What makes us different?
At OGPS, we believe that we are all unique!
No one should be bullied for the things that
make them different!
What we are good at
Our likes and Dislikes
How we look
Where we come from
Our families AM

27. How might bullying make someone feel?
Sad or depressed
Afraid
They don’t want to
go to school
That there is something
wrong with them
They want to hurt
themselves or
others
They can’t concentrate
on their school work
Lonely or that
they don’t have friends AM

28. Key Terms:
Ringleader – those leading the bullying, but not always the person ‘doing’ the bullying.
Assistant(s) – those involved in ‘doing’ the bullying.
Reinforcer(s) - support the bullying by laughing or encouraging other people to join in or laugh at with what is going on.
Bystander(s) - ignore any bullying and doesn’t want to get involved.
Defender(s) - stand up for someone being bullied. Know that bullying is wrong. Feel confident enough to do something about it. They use their “Power for Good” AM

29. Be part of the solution, not the problem!
The 3Rs
Rights-You have the right not be bullied.
Respect-Respect other people in the way you talk and behave. Encourage others; don’t put them down!
Responsibility-To help stop bullying behaviour whenever, wherever you see it!
Be part of the solution, not the problem! AM

30. Bullying and Responsibilities (UNICEF)
It’s every child’s right to not be bullied.
It’s every child’s responsibility not to bully.
We aim to protect and safeguard children and young people from bullying behaviour. AM

31. What to do if your child is being bullied?AM

32. Talk to your child about what bullying is.
So, what can parents do to support their child and how does the school respond to dealing with anti-bullying?
Talk to your child about what bullying is.
If they feel they are being bullied, have they told someone?
Are they aware of who they can tell?
We want children to build confidence and to take responsibility to bring Bullying to an end.
Children are up skilled to tell the teacher and empower children to help solve the problem.
Together we can reach a positive solution. AM

33. How does the school respond to dealing with anti-bullying?
Once a child has reported an incident, the member
of staff will record it immediately.
Schools behaviour/anti-bullying policy will be in place to address pupil’s behaviour.
Peer Mentors/Anti-Bullying Ambassadors.
Investigate the situation further and any allegations are dealt with.
Speak to the children involved and the necessary strategies are put into place. JS
Contact parents/carers as appropriate. Monitor and follow up.
If incident still continues, meeting with Head Teacher/external agencies.

35. JS
Thank you for coming!

36. Bullying UK Advice for Parents Kidscape https://www.kidscape.org.uk/
References
Annual Bullying Survey
Anti-Bullying Alliance
Bullying UK Advice for Parents
Kidscape
NSPCC JS

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