1. Bullying Presentation
January 18, 2017
Student Support Center
Gallup McKinley County School District

2. What is Bullying?
Bullying means any repeated and pervasive written, verbal or electronic expression, physical act or gesture or pattern thereof, that is intended to cause distress upon one or more students in the school, on school grounds, in school vehicles, at a designated bus stop or at school activities or sanctioned events. Bullying includes, but is not limited to, hazing, harassment, intimidation or menacing acts of a student which may, but need not be based on student’s race, color, sex, ethnicity, national origin, religion, disability, age or sexual orientation. NM

3. Bullying Definition (cont.)
Occurs when there is an imbalance of power between victim and bully. It is often referred to as a game of “one-upmanship;” the attempt to win while the other person loses. Bully does not see actions as out of line. Victim becomes upset, as bullying is not like normal childhood teasing.

4. Bullying Behaviors Direct Indirect Teasing Taunting Threatening
Hitting
Stealing victim’s belongings
Indirect
Spreading rumors
Causing student to become socially isolated by excluding him or her

5. Preference for Behaviors
Boys tend to engage in Direct Bullying Behaviors
Girls tend to engage in Indirect Bullying Behaviors

6. Bullies: Who are they? The Bully is not necessarily a social outcast
They enjoy average to above average level of popularity

7. Motivation Behind Bullying
Reaction to being bullied by siblings or family members
Dealing with difficulty over loss of loved one
They may be in a struggle for control or power
They may be dealing with self-esteem issues in an attempt to feel better about themselves
They may be clueless as to how little they are liked; they are often out of touch with what their peers think
They either perceive themselves as acceptable or they are confident enough to not care.

8. Bullies and Social Skills
Bullies may often have poor social skills
They may not have the appropriate skills to develop friendships
Bullying becomes a substitute for friendship
These students may not know how to be a friend or how to get their needs met for affection, attention or friendship in a socially acceptable manner, so they use power and domineering behavior to achieve their goals.

9. Bullies do not see the world as it really is…
Perceive provocation where it does not exist
They may have a formidable attitude toward violence and use of violence to solve problems
They may have a lack of empathy; an inability to understand what other people are feeling
They may have no concept of how painful their actions are towards others

10. Learned Behavior
They may have learned their behavior from other bullies
They may be validated by social media
They may be validated by television and movie violence

11. Other Factors involved in Bullying Tendencies
Children who have been abused have a greater chance of being bullied
They may have parents who are uninvolved or lack warmth
They may have a fear of being bullied themselves and respond to situations in self-defense

12. Bullies may seek to gain social status
Bullies may seek to be part of the “in-group” and create their own “in- group”
They may, in time, be more likely to smoke and use alcohol
They may be defiant towards adults
They may be more likely to break school rules
They may not realize what their actions are doing to others

13. Who gets bullied? Characteristics of the victims of bullying:
Someone who does not fit in
Someone who has a different religion or ethnicity
Someone who wears unique or unusual clothes
Someone who has a physical weakness
Someone who is different in appearance

14. And then, there are more Victims usually have few friends
They may have low self-esteem
They usually give in to the demands of the bully, allowing themselves to become a target
They may act submissive, even before being picked on
They may not know how to approach other children
They may not know how to make friends

15. Victims of Bullies They may be targets of the bully repeatedly
They tend to be passive and non-aggressive
They may be insecure
They may not be able or willing to defend themselves
Some feel that they have been rejected by their parents
They may not know how to approach others to play
They are more willing to be compliant and do what others want them to do

16. Victims, also, Lack Social Skills
Victims do not know how to make friends and get along with others
They may be lonely and afraid
They may not have friends they can count on to defend them

17. Being a Loner Invites Rejection
Victims may be more inattentive than their peers in their age group
They may lack enthusiasm
They may appear frightened, passive or shy to others

18. Being Different Invites Bullying
Victims do not fit the mold
They may not look right, dress right or speak right
Obesity invites bullying
Overly intellectual invites bullying
Students with Special Needs are often victims of bullying
Short and non-athletic boys invite bullying

19. Poor Self Image Opens One up to Bullying
Low self-esteem
Low confidence
Victims may see themselves negatively or as “less than”
Victims tend to shy away from confrontation and conflict

20. Having an over-protective family
Victims may have close relationships with their family
Victims may have little or no practice in handling conflicts
Victims may also be perceived as “gay” and when they become teens, the bullying becomes worse

21. Effects of Bullying on Both Victim and Bully
Bullying causes internal anger on the part of the victim
It is the victim, who may respond overtime in a most inappropriate manner and with violence as a way to “get back” at the bully and those who have bullied them and those who failed to stand up for them

22. Short Term Effects on the Victim
May form personality traits that keep them isolated from their peers
Report higher levels of loneliness
May become socially withdrawn

23. Short Term Effects on Victim
Depression
Suicidal Thoughts and Suicidal Attempts
Abnormal fears and worries
Nervous habits
Frequent crying
Bed wetting
Poor appetite or digestive problems
School problems
RAGE

24. Long Term Effects on Victims
Form of personality disorder that keeps them isolated from their peers
High levels of social isolation
Social withdrawal
Built up rage that may result in violence

25. Short Term Effects on Bully
Bullies perceive themselves as being liked when in reality they are not; their very toughness prevents them from being liked
They fail to see the impact of their behavior on others
They are often in the principals office
They are frequently suspended or given detention
They may be frequently punished at home

26. Long Term Effects on Bully
Disliked, dissatisfied and in trouble with the law
Abusive to their spouse and their children—hence the cycle continues
Trouble with the law—60% have one court conviction by the time they are 24 (Hara Estroff Marana, “Big. Bad. Bully.” Psychology Today , September-October, 1995, p.56. A statistic which has been on the rise since Columbine.
Alcoholism
Anti-social personality disorder
Lack of achievement
Limited Education
Limited Experience with Success
Academic Problems
Mental Health Issues including Depression, Suicide Ideation and Narcissism

27. When Girls Bully—what does it look like
Teasing
Not talking to a person
Spreading rumors
Relational Aggression
Back biting
Exclusion
Rumors
Name calling
Manipulation
Fighting with body language and with relationships

28. And then.. Relational bullies focus on: Looks Differences
The “gay” issue
Conceit
Exclusion/isolation/Not being invited
Rumors/telling secrets
“Slut” the nuclear label

29. Tips for Dealing with Bullies
Fighting back physically, but this is the worst defense
Ignoring, walking away
Using humor
Being confident
Talking about it
Finding friends
Changing schools—if all else fails
Taking legal action

30. Scenarios
You have been given nine scenarios that your action in dealing with them is needed. Please complete these with your partner and then discussion as a group will follow.
After large group discussion, we will return to our small groups to work with other scenarios. Discussion with the new scenarios and then large group report out.

31. Review of Lesson Plans
Work in groups to review lesson plans for working with students in Bullying Situations.

32. School Policy in Regard to Bullying
Handout
Bullying Form