1. Giving Away Psychology (GaP) Project
SHYNESS MANAGEMENT
A Psi Beta Service Learning Project™

2. Welcome PLEASE SIGN IN SET UP A NAME CARD ON YOUR DESK
PRESENTATION TEAM INTRODUCTIONS

3. What would you do?
Present a scenario in which someone’s shyness tendency interfered with their ability to achieve something important to them.
Ask the audience to consider why this happened, and what they would have done if it happened to them.

4. The psychological science on this topic
Distribute the shyness inventory. Have the audience complete it.
When all are done, go through the inventory and have the students answers some of the questions with a show of hands.
Intersperse this exercise by showing some of the research facts about shyness.

5. If you are shy, you are not alone. You are in pretty good company.
How Common is Shyness?
If you are shy, you are not alone. You are in pretty good company.

8. The Most Empowering Piece of Information
Don’t Suffer in Silence

9. A Basic Misconception about Shyness: Is Shyness the Same as Introversion?
The source of confusion: Behavioral similarity but motivational differences “You can’t judge a book by its cover”

10. Where Shy People Say Shyness is a Problem: “Interpersonal life”
Making Contact: Meeting and approaching others
Making Friends: Fostering relationships
Becoming Lovers: Developing intimacy

13. What Shy People Say They Do to Deal with Their Shyness
Forced extroversion: Self-induced proximity
Mental extroversion: Self-induced cognitive modification
Educational extroversion: Read self-help books
Assisted extroversion: Seek professional help/therapy
Liquid extroversion: Self-medication

20. Here’s an important shyness control strategy: Learn Conversational Intelligence To do what you want to do—Be Social

22. Initiate conversations Keep conversations going
Conversational Intelligence: The ability to engage others in a verbal exchange for the purpose of developing a social relationship
How to…
Initiate conversations
Keep conversations going
Bring others in to on-going conversations
End conversations skillfully while creating future opportunities to reconnect

23. Why is conversational intelligence important?
Every great relationship, be it personal, professional, or romantic, begins with a conversation. The key to conversing successful is learning how to connect with others, not just talk to them.

24. A Crash Course in Conversational Intelligence: A Step-By-Step Approach

25. Some Basics of Conversational Intelligence
Know this Myth: People are not born with the “gift of gab”
Basic Purpose: Letting others know you are willing to talk
Basic Rule: You don’t have to be brilliant, just be nice
Basic Guideline: Make it easier for others—it’s about them, not about you
Basic Mistake: Alcohol consumption as a substitute for confidence

26. Know the Guidelines for Developing the Skill of Conversational Intelligence
The “Golden Rule” of Successful Conversation: Be other-focused
Know the Structure of Successful Conversation: Knowing and following the guidelines
Practice Making Success Conversation: Providing yourself with opportunities to connect with others

27. A Step-By-Step Approach to Making Successful Conversation: The “Formula” for Connecting with Others  
Begin with “setting talk” that acknowledge “we are here together”

28. A Step-By-Step for Connecting with Others

29. Step 1 – Get it started The Opening Line: Keep it simple
Use the Shared Environment: Look around for “setting” talk
Use the Shared Identity: We are here together
What brought you here? How do you know the host? How did you meet him/her?

30. Step 2: Personal Introduction: Who you are and something about you
Plan Ahead: Know thy self
Providing Hints for Topics: Make it easy for others
Forgetting a Name: The recall remedy

31. Step 3: Pretopical Exploration: Fishing Around for Common Ground
Build on the Beginning: Moving forward by looking back
The Rule: Support the topic or offer an alternative topic
A Word About Silences: Taking time to think

32. Step 4: Posttopical Elaboration: Keeping the Conversation Going
The Role of Divergent Thinking: making links
The Role of Anxiety and Alcohol: Damaging divergent thinking
Avoid Favorite Topic: Conversation domination

33. Step 5: Conversation Termination: Ending
Step 5: Conversation Termination: Ending
Successfully
Signal the End is Near: Time to go
Show Appreciation: It’s been nice
Demonstrate Active Listening: Summarize & highlight the conversation
Establish Future Contact: Making the connection

34. Make Opportunities to Practice Connecting with Others
Create Connecting Opportunities
Join a college club or society and have shared experiences
Get a part-time job to engage in semi-structured social settings
Become a Volunteer—Meet those who share your beliefs on the same cause
Gradually expand your personal and social comfort zone

35. Continuing the Conversational Connection: A Day By-Day Approach
Engage in “quick talk”
Engage in common courtesies
Respond to the small-talk efforts of others
Take a chance
Be A host to humanity: The real solution to connecting with others is in the heart

36. Think of a time
Think of a time that you or someone you knew behaved in a shy manner – where the shyness was a barrier for the person.
Ask if anyone would like to share their experience. But first, the presenter(s) should provide a personal example (of themselves or someone they know).

37. Video clips
Suggestions for small talk topics (advanced) – Seven minutes
More on small talk -
Humor -
How to talk to strangers -
Body language of attraction -
Body language tips for introverts

38. Decide for yourself
Ask the audience, “Are you interested in being part of our study? We are research the effectiveness of different strategies for helping people to better manage their shyness.:
If you agree to participate, we will ask you to complete a follow up survey or interview a few weeks from now. OK?

39. Make a plan

40. Reflect on what you have learned (OR RELEARNED)

41. SPREAD THE WORD