1. FRIENDSHIP FRIENDSHIP OF LOVERS Question of permanence (time)
Immeasurability of love?
Conflict of desire/ motive (telos):
enjoyment vs. gain
Complains: excess of love is not met (though nothing is lovable about her)
Loving for the sake of pleasure/ utility
Non-possession of qualities expected of someone.

2. GREEK WORDS FOR LOVE EROS PHILIA AGAPE
Intense desire for something: beauty (Platonic)
To love is to love the platonic form of beauty
Not the person but the element present in the person
Sexual desire (erotic)
Present in the desire of the animals
Enduring?
PHILIA
Family, state: appreciation (qualities) of others
Loyalty: job or discipline
Love is being useful and pleasing
AGAPE
Complete vs utility & pleasure
Reciprocity: subj-obj

3. FRIENDSHIP IMPORTANT: PERSON OR QUALITIES?
Loving the person rather than the qualities
One who wishes the good
Love starts in attraction (goodwill)
Similar tastes
Loving oneself first
we cannot give that which we don’t have
Something is desirable in us/ something is good in us
Wicked man = duty vs. actions
What he does clashes with what he ought to do
Good man:
what he ought to do, he does
Obeys his reason

4. PROBLEMS WITH RELATIONSHIP & HAPPINESS
DESTINY AND FREEWILL (pre- determinism)
PASSION VS REASON
MOVE ON, LET GO
SOCIETY

5. DESTINY & FREEWILL
Belief: soul mates
STOICISM
IRRATIONAL

6. PASSION VS REASON

7. MOVE ON, LET GO ADVANTAGE + PLEASURE CONSEQUENCES
Ok: if friendship is based on pleasure or utility.
Pretending to love us
If a friend appears to be wicked?
Attempt: Capacity for reformation (change)
Transformation: intellect of a child – intellect of an adult
We can only love what is “good”
“so how are we to know that it just isn’t so… that we just have to let each other go…”
“If loving you is all that means to me, when being happy is all I hope you’d be… then loving you must mean I really have to set you free.”

8. SOCIETY GUARANTOR: virtue and happiness
Possible to be of great friend to many people?
One cannot live with many people and divide oneself up among them.
Girl bestfriend and a girlfriend
Muslim culture
Birthday party
“sana dalawa ang puso ko”

9. COMPLETE FRIENDSHIP Reason Mutual: dignity as a person
Reciprocity = return made should be fair to both parties
Similarities/ partnership
Sense of living/ sharing together
Pursuit to improve each other = marriage
Not fair to return the equivalent of what one has received?
To render to each class what is appropriate and becoming.
Equal Rights = democracy = polis

10. Common?
Same sex marriage?
Is there an honor in Suicides?