1. BECOMING an EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PARENT
Parent Resource Centre (PRC)
Workshop #1
Tuesday 28 September 2010

2. All You Can Eat

4. RELAXED AWARENESS BRAIN GYM
Free Flow
Make mirror-image patterns with both hands simultaneously
Move hands in opposing directions
Cross over occasionally
Pretend to conduct music
REED
3 minutes

5. CONNECT - PAST EMOEMOTIONS
INTELLECT vs EMOTIONS
CONNECT - PAST EMOEMOTIONS

6. RESEARCH Emotions & intellect are connected
Emotions affect learning & memory
Contagious

7. CONNECT - PAST
ISPP (1997)
Parent suggestion

8. CONNECT - PAST Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
Daniel Goleman

9. DEFINITION Emotional intelligence
Ability to manage and use our emotions to increase success
EQ (Emotional Quotient)

10. CONNECT - FUTURE
ADVANTAGE
Master Aptitude

12. BIG PICTURE 2 Minds (CONNECTED) Thinks (Head) Feels (Heart) High EQ
Personal happiness
(+) communication/interactions with others

13. BIG PICTURE Parents Need to know yourselves Need to develop our EQ
Serve as an EMOTION COACH for your children

14. CHILDREN WILL LISTEN How do you say to your child in the night
Nothing's all black but then nothing's all white?
How do you say it will all be alright
When you know that it mightn't be true?
What do you do?

15. CHILDREN WILL LISTEN Careful the things you say, Children will listen.
Careful the things you do,
Children will see.
And learn.

16. CHILDREN WILL LISTEN Children may not obey, But children will listen.
Children will look to you
For which way to turn,
To learn what to be.
Careful before you say,
"Listen to me."
Children will listen.

17. GOALS List 5 parts of EQ model Evaluate your EQ using 5-part model
Explore 1 way to act as an emotion coach for your children

18. INFORMATION

19. CULTURE
Differences among cultures

21. KNOW OWN EMOTIONS EMOTION = feeling thoughts biological states
impulses to act
Evolutionary value
Function

22. FAMILIES A S L F D E

23. FAMILIES
Anger
Sadness
Love
Fear
Disgust
Enjoyment
Shame
Surprise

24. MOODS Last longer than emotions Not related to a particular event
Can cause emotions
Affect how we “see” things

25. RELAXED AWARENESS BRAIN GYM
Grip shoulder and look over it as you breathe in
Turn head slowly to the other shoulder as you breathe out
Change hands
Owl
3 minutes

26. MANAGE OWN EMOTIONS Anger Stress Sadness IMPULSE CONTROL
Delay gratification
Anticipate consequences

27. IMPULSE CONTROL Marshmallow challenge 4-year-olds 18-year-olds
> social/emotional competence
> academic competence
>200 points higher on SAT

28. “STOP” THE SPARK BEFORE THE FLAME
Self-management allows us to be social
Evolutionary necessity
Some emotions overwhelm us before we know it

29. CHOOSING OUR EMOTIONS Facial expressions, voices, and body posture
can cause corresponding emotions

30. MOTIVATE SELF
(+) Thinking
1/2 full/empty
Resilience
16 Desires

31. KNOW OTHERS’ EMOTIONS
Empathy
Mindsight

32. HANDLE RELATIONSHIPS Social skills Conflict resolution Listening
Rapport
Eye contact
Conflict resolution

33. RELAXED AWARENESS BRAIN GYM
Names in the Air
Make large movements with your preferred hand
Write from L to R crossing your midline
Do it with each hand, then both hands simultaneously
3 minutes

34. KNOWLEDGE
Declarative
What
Procedural
How

35. EMOTION COACH What NOT to do: Treat lightly Disapprove What to do:
Recognize
Develop EQ

36. RULES
All emotions are allowed
All behaviour is NOT allowed

37. STEPS Recognize child’s emotion Opportunity for teaching
Listen to child
Paraphrase & help label the emotion
Set limits on behavior & explore strategies

38. ACTIVITY In which area(s) of the EQ model do you need to improve?
What is 1 way that you can become an emotion coach for your children?

39. REVIEW

41. BECOMING . . .
Direction
Not a destination

43. CONTACT INFORMATION
William Reed Rhodes, Ph.D.
ES Learning Support Teacher
Beijing City International School
77 Baiziwan Nan Er Road
Beijing
(ext 1218)