1. HOW TO TEACH RESILIENCE TO YOUNG CHILDREN

2. hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS:
Confidence
Competence
Relationships

3. The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY!
What IS Resilience?
The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY!
What do we know?
Bad things happen.
There are always choices to be made.
Feelings change over time.
Recovery requires tools and experience.
What do they need?
PRACTICE.

4. Stepping back helps kids.
Take One Step
The Myth:
“Getting involved will make us both feel better!”
The Truth:
Stepping back helps kids.

5. GUILT. Why do adults step in? Love Fear Empathy Helpfulness
Greater resources
Experience
Habit
Genuine enjoyment
Fear
Responsibility
Overwhelming
Deteriorating
Future consequences
Risking the relationship
GUILT.

6. Building resilience requires trust.
Finding Resilience
Building resilience requires trust.
What doesn’t work?
“Stop crying!” “Calm down.” “Just relax!”
Why not?
Can I tell you how to feel?
Strong emotion is a sign of fight or flight.
What does work?
Communication and repetition.

7. Look for chances to take one step back.
How do we teach it?
Doing = learning. Doing builds resilience!
Home skills
Relationship skills
Problem-solving!
Look for chances to take one step back.

8. Home Skills Clothing Food Homework Cleaning Transportation
Appointments
Budgeting/Buying

9. Relationship Skills Siblings Friendships Strangers Teachers/Coaches
Bosses
Romantic relationships

10. Problem-Solving Let life teach the lesson! Praise the process.
Play “What if?”
Read a book or watch a show.
What would you tell a friend?
“I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”

11. “I’ll be interested to see what you do!”
resilience
Mistakes
Praise
Life lessons
Choices
Risk-taking
Resources!
“I’ll be interested to see what you do!”

12. RESILIENCE “I’ll be interested to see what you do!” Mistakes Praise
Life lessons
Choices
Risk-taking
Resources!
“I’ll be interested to see what you do!”

13. Empathy
without intervention.

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