1. Chapter 8: “Choosing to Marry”
Mrs.Karen Swope
Family and Consumer Sciences
Columbian High School

2. Earliest Marriage Unions
Occurred by ____________________
A warrior from a neighboring tribe would ____________________ her to his hut.
The custom of carrying the bride over the ______________ evolved from this.

3. Arranged Marriages Done by the father to______________.
Done to acquire __________________.
The father no longer wanted the _________________ for his daughter.
Arranged marriages still occur today, in some cultures.

4. Customs Stemming from Arranged Marriages
___________ - payment or gifts made by the bride’s family to the groom for taking the girl off the father’s hands. It may be livestock, gold, land.
The modern day _________ evolved from the dowry.
_____________ - gifts paid by the groom to the father of the bride. It may be livestock, gold, or land.

5. Marriage Customs Still in Use Today
White dress: ______
Rice, seeds, petals thrown at the couple: __________
Wedding shower: ____________ the couple with gifts for their new household.

6. Marriage Customs
Floral bouquets: ______________; covers up body odors.

7. Marriage Customs
White linen aisle runner: used to keep the bride’s________________________

8. Qualities to Bring to a Marriage
Ability to give and receive love
Ability to express empathy
Can accept ____________ in a partner
Can accept emotions and control them
Can __________________ without hurting another

9. Qualities to Bring to a Marriage cont.
Flexible and can accept change
Being flexible means being willing to _______________________.
Being flexible also means being accepting and tolerant of certain personality traits.
Finally, being able to think _______________ and share in _____________________ is an important trait to bring to a marriage.

10. Qualities that Hinder a Marriage Relationship
Being __________________________
_____________ to partners needs
Rigid, unwilling to change
Cannot communicate ______________
Reacts in an emotional or unreasonable way.

11. Evaluating a Relationship
Age at marriage: the link between age and marriage success is related to ________________maturity as well as a couples financial stability.
A person is better prepared to make a ______________________________ the teen years.

12. Evaluating a Relationship cont.
_________________: people who have much in common have a more satisfying marriage.
People are attracted to others with __________________, life goals and values, and similar backgrounds.

13. Complementary Qualities
When a person is attracted to another who is _________________ from them.
These differences benefit the relationship.
The ___________________________ of the other.
Examples?

14. Positive Reasons for Marrying
________________ love
_________________
Desire to ___________ throughout life

15. Negative Reasons for Marrying
Total infatuation with each other
To avoid loneliness
For ___________________________
To escape family ___________________
Because all their friends are getting married.
To achieve adult status
Because of __________________________

16. Summary
There are many marriage customs and traditions still in existence today.
Before marriage, couples should consider what qualities are being brought to the marriage.
Homogamous partners tend to experience greater success in a marriage relationship.
There are both positive and negative reasons for marrying.