1. Parenting in 2016
Tips and Guidelines

4. Parenting is Imperfect
Do as I say/ Not as I Do
Professional advice/ not my own
Only you know your children and circumstances
Trust your judgment
LISTEN
Reflect and Try again
Be mindful

6. LIFE SKILLS DISCIPLINE SCREEN TIME
PRESENTATION
LIFE SKILLS DISCIPLINE SCREEN TIME

7. Dependable/ Reliability Leadership Self Motivated / Initiative
Career Builder national survey of 2200 employers rated these “soft skills as critical to employment:
Strong Work Ethic
Dependable/ Reliability
Leadership
Self Motivated / Initiative
Team oriented
Career Builder 2014
Organized/ Set Priorities
Works well under pressure
Effective communicator
Flexibility
Problem Solving

8. Top Value Parents want for their children- Pew 2014- Study of 3000 parents
Responsibility- regardless of race/ age/ politics- 93% ranked this as first
We want kids who can be relied on and who work hard
Religious faith was stronger among conservatives
Empathy for others- more liberal
Curiosity
Well mannered
Independent
Obedient

12. “Raising Good Kids”- Harvard 6/2015 study
So many choices!

13. “Raising a caring, respectful, ethical child is and always has been hard work. But it’s something all of us can do, And no work is more important or ultimately more rewarding”
HARVARD PARENTING STUDY 2015

14. If it Matters, Say it out Loud Show Your Child How to Work it Out
Harvard 2015 Study
Show them
the Big Picture
Hang with your kids
If it Matters, Say it out Loud
Show Your Child How to Work it Out
Make a Helpfulness and Gratitude Routine
Check your Child’s Destructive Emotions- Why?
Show your Kids the Big Picture
Raising Good Kids

15. RESPECTFUL BEHAVIORS LOOK PEOPLE IN THE EYE ACKNOWLEDGE PEOPLE
SHAKE HANDS
STAND UP
DON’T INTERRUPT
USE MANNERS
THANK YOU/ PLEASE
ADDRESS OTHERS WITH RESPECT

16. RESPECTFUL BEHAVIORS NO AND STOP- MEAN IT!!! DON’T EMBARRASS OTHERS
EVEN IF THEIR WRONG
HELP OTHERS
REMEMBER THE GOLDEN RULE

17. “We need to elevate speaking to the same level as reading and writing”
Communication skills
“We need to elevate speaking to the same level as reading and writing”
Founder of Well Being- a social learning curriculum- 10/2016

20. DISCIPLINE

21. DISCIPLINE NEGOTIATING- WATCH THE BARGAINING
NO MORE MENUS AT MEAL TIME
TEAM CLEANING
NO MORE UNDERNMING TEACHERS AND COACHES
BOSSES/ CO WORKERS/ YOUR 10 YEAR OLD MIGHT BE WRONG
BUS INCIDENT
NO MORE COVERING FOR THEM
FORGOT THEIR HOMEWORK/ SPORTS EQUIPMENT/ LUNCH
BE CONSISTENT
DISCIPLINE

22. JOURNAL OF EXPERIMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY
“LETTING CHILDREN ALWAYS WIN GAMES AND COMPETITIONS MAY GIVE THEM A FALSE SENSE OF CONFIDENCE AND OFTEN INTERFERES WITH DEVELOPING PROBLEM SOLVING STRATEGIES.”
JOURNAL OF EXPERIMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY

26. DAYDREAMING/ UNPLUG!!!

27. Family Media Plan
Children are spending an average of 7 hours a day on entertainment media including Television, computers, phones and other electronic devices
Need to balance media use with other healthy behaviors
Average tween sends over 130 text per day
AAP/ 2016

28. DAYDREAMING
FIVE TIMES MORE INFORMATION COMES AT AN INDIVIDUAL TODAY THAN IT DID IN 1986
HOW DO CHILDREN SHIFT THROUGH THIS OVERWHELMING STIMULI?
SCHOOLS AND PARENTS HAVE A NEW JOB/ TEACHIIG CHILDREN THE LEGITIMACY OF MESSAGES/ WEBSITES/
EXTERNALIZE THE PROCESS- GOOD OLD NOTE CARDS
HAVE DAYDREAMERS AD ORGANIZERS WORK TOGETHER LIKE IN SILICON VALLEY AT GOOGLE!

29. DAYDREAMING MULTITASKING DOES NOT EXIST- NOT AS PRODUCTIVE AS WE THINK
BRAIN ONLY WORKS IN SEQUENTIAL ORDER SO IT WILL KEEP BREAKING DOWN
AND RECEIVING INFORMATION AND WILL HAVE TO CONTINUALLY
BREAK IT DOWN …Daniel Levitin, McGill University
MULTITASKING IS STRESSFUL ON THE BODY
THE BRAIN USES OXYGENATED GLUCOSE FASTER AND RELEASES
THE STRESS HORMONE CORTISOL/ ANXIETY
ONE TASK AT A TIME LEADS TO MORE EFICIENCY/ SET PRIORITIES
TAKE BREAKS- THOSE WHO DO ARE MORE PRODUCTIVE
GIVES THE BRAIN WILL CONSOLIDATE AND PROCESS
CHILDREN NEED SOME SPONTANEITY AND DOWN TIME

30. American Academy of Pediatrics 10/2016
Media is just another environment
Parenting has not changed
Role model
We learn from each other
Set limits
Its ok for teens to be online
Content matters
80,000 apps- Commonsensemedia.org- to review age appropriate apps/ games
Co-engagement counts
Playtime critical
Create tech free zones
Kids will be kids- expect mistakes

31. Healthychildren.org- sets limits – family media use plan
American Academy of Pediatrics Guidelines for Screen time- 10/2016 _________________________________________
Avoid for less than 18 months
18-24 months introduce high quality programming like Sesame Street/ watch it with them
2-5 years old- limit to one hour of high quality programs and co view (speech vs passive communication)
School age- balance all other interactive parts of school life
Healthychildren.org- sets limits – family media use plan
Devices at the table!
Difference between passive and interactive