1. And the roots of violence
POWER
Focus today is HEALTHY relationships and violence prevention
It is a given that healthy relationships are free from violence
But we might not have had the opportunity to talk about WHY violence happens
It is not enough to just say to people “DON”T BE VIOLENT”
It doesn’t work
So we will start the day by looking deeper into HOW and WHY violence happens, what behaviours or words count as violent, and how we can recognize violence in our own relationships
And the roots of violence

2. Violence Power Over & Control Using children and loved ones
Coercion & Threats
Minimizing,
Denying,
Blaming
Intimidation
Power Over & Control
Power over & Control
Unhealthy relationships are often characterized by violence
= People used to put violence at the centre of these diagrams – however violence is the result of other factors – violence occurs because of power imbalances and controlling others
What this means is that violence is a symptom of a bigger issue
People who enact violence on others are asserting their control and exerting power
These are some of the violent ways that power and control are used:
Coercion & Threats, Intimidation, Emotional abuse, Isolation, Financial abuse, Minimizing, denying or blaming others, Using children or loved ones against another person
Sue will talk more about these forms of violence in the second workshop Ties that Bind
DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY QUESTIONS ABOUT THIS?
BUT not all POWER is bad – there are different types of power
Financial
Abuse
Isolation

3. Different types of POWER
Power Over
Power With
Power To
Power Within
Discrimination
Oppression
Coercion
Collaboration
Solidarity
Shape your life
Create opportunities
Imagine
Self-worth
Self-knowledge
There are different types of power and they have different effects and consequences.
At the centre of our violence wheel is POWER OVER – the results of this type of power are violent – they include lots of different things including discrimination, oppression, coercion, abuse
Power OVER diminishes people’s other forms of power

4. What are some of the ways we can get POWER? When do we feel EMPOWERED
Sources of Power
What are some of the ways we can get POWER?
When do we feel EMPOWERED
When do we feel DISEMPOWERED?
Sources of Power:
Control Money/wealth Position Knowledge/info Force/might Abuse of others Ability to inspire fear or joy Humour Solidarity/togetherness Promoting justice Planning/organization actions Personal experiences Commitment/dedication Numbers- being the majority
When do we feel empowered?
When we overcome something When we are recognized for something positive
When we find good solution Doing something on our own
Doing something really well Caring for someone, or empowering others
Joining a group that shares my interests/ideas
When do we feel disempowered?
Being disrespected/put down Being ignored Being stereotyped Being denied opportunity Being isolated Not having any control Feeling shame Feeling ignorant

5. Non-violence Healthy Equality Safety & Comfort RESPECT Sharing
Responsibility
Equality
Honesty &
Accountability
Consent &
Communication
Think before you post
Knowing about the different types of power can help us understand how violence happens in relationships, but also how we can prevent violence
Preventing violence begins with equality
At the root of healthy relationships is not power over and control, but EQUALITY
Fostering another persons sense of power
Equality means that there is a balance of power
In equal relationships there is:
Safety and Comfort
Honesty and Accountability
Respect for each other including our ideas, bodies, beliefs, possessions
Trust and Support
Financial partnerships
Sharing responsibilities
Negotiation and Fairness
Consent and Communication
Financial
Partnership
Trust &
Support
Healthy

6. Equality+Power in Relationships
Power Over
Power With
Power To
Power Within
Discrimination
Oppression
Coercion
Collaboration
Solidarity
Shape your life
Create opportunities
Imagine
Self-worth
Self-knowledge
There is power in healthy, equal relationships – they are the power with, power to and power within
Sculpture activity – find a partner
One person closes their eyes – which give the other person considerable power – but we are going to utilize power WITH to create freeze-frames
The open-eyed person is going to put their partner in pose that illustrates power WITH, TO or WITHIN
The open-eyed partner should ask if it is ok to touch and move their partners body while their eyes are closed – if not, then verbally direct them on what you would like them to do. BUT DO NOT TELL THEM WHAT KIND OF POWER you want to illustrate
Pick on type of power and create a human sculpture that illustrates that power.
Then the statues should open their eyes, but keep their pose and talk about what kind of power they think they are and why

7. POWER STATUES
Find a partner – one person is the sculptor, one is the statue
Sculptors should ask for their statue’s consent to touch them, or verbally direct them into a pose
SCULPTORS – secretly pick one type of power [POWER WITH, POWER TO, POWER WITHIN]
Create a statue pose that represents it
STATUES – move into the pose as directed (as long as you are comfortable and consenting)
Try to guess what kind of power you are
Discuss!