1. Parenting - difficult or easy?

2. Parenting is a job to be enjoyed
Parenting is a job to be enjoyed. Learn to play the game of Parenting, and build a Team with your child Whether your child is 2 or 12 years old, the time to start is NOW.

3. Ms. Asha Sidd
Counselor, trainer, and essentially someone who loves children, meets different parents and their children almost every day, now takes you through a journey of being a successful and HAPPY parent.
It just takes some common
sense and patient efforts

4. Four pillars build a good roof for the child to grow up under:
Communication
(spelt: L – I – S – T – E – N)
Be role model.
Do what you expect the child to do
Be consistent and clear
in laying down rules
Build the child’s self-esteem:
Praise more than scold

5. Listening:
Learn to listen actively, not passively. Give full attention
Never dismiss what the child is saying as “childish”
Encourage the child to talk on any topic – nothing is taboo
Do not interrupt when he is speaking
Teach the child to express his emotions: “I am …… happy, angry, jealous, excited, frustrated, confused …….”
Do not bring in studies or results when the
child is talking on some other topic
Accept even wrong actions ….. for the moment.
You can correct him later.

6. Be a role model
“Children are very poor at listening to their parents, but they are very good at mimicking them”
Be aware of your words and actions when the child is around
Don’t make commitments you can’t live up to
Accept your mistakes when you do
something wrong
Discuss your actions, and ask
your child his opinion about them

7. Consistency:
Same rules at all time, do not keep changing
Make rules before a crisis or argument takes place
Explain why rule is being made, and take child’s opinion
Mother and father should follow same rules, and never push the child to each other
Describe punishment in advance, and let it be on an increasing scale for repeated acts
Discuss rules of YOUR family, and explain why you do not follow others’ norms

8. Self Esteem Criticize the action, not the child
Do not compare the child with ANYONE else
Identify good qualities or actions of the child
and repeat them
Give “non-material” rewards
Balance punishment and rewards
Never kill the dreams of a child – allow him to dream, dream, dream

9. Challenges Every parent has to face challenges of a growing child.
Don’t be a source of greater stress to your child
Prepare in advance, do not do “fire-fighting” when something goes wrong
Learn to grow with your child. Yesterday’s rules are not applicable today
Never start a sentence with “When I was your age …..”

10. Punishment: Punishment is necessary, but “HOW” ?
Immediate. Children forget what they did very soon
Punish action, not person. Never put down the child
Describe what he did, affect on others, what you felt, and what punishment is being given (do it in private)
Punishment should be proportionate to the act
Do not threaten unless you mean it
Immediately after punishing,
become normal, give love
Identify “positive-reinforcers”
use rewards and praise
Look for small opportunities
to appreciate the child

11. Respect and Trust
How you treat your spouse decides how your child will treat you
If you want him to respect you, give him respect
Trust the child – even if he’s let you down earlier
Show your commitment to the family at all times. Do not tell outsiders
Be open and frank, never do
anything behind the child’s back

12. All the above are based on real life experiences – they work !
But it takes time to get results. Be patient and consistent
Do not take your role as a parent too seriously
“Don’t be so worried about what your child will become, that you forget what he is TODAY”

13. Ms.Asha DCS, ADFC, Msc (Psy)
for any guidance or help contact:
Banjara Academy
1st Main, 1st Block, RT Nagar, Bangalore 32
Phones:
Website:
Ms.Asha DCS, ADFC, Msc (Psy)
along with a dedicated team of committed counselors
is available
Mon-Sat 9:30 am to 5:30 pm
at the above address 13