1. Developing Empathy in Children
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2. What is Empathy?
Empathy is the ability for one person to perceive the emotions, needs, and desires of another person. It is the ability of one person to be in the shoes of another person and feel what that is like.
As it relates to nurturing parenting, empathy is the ability to perceive the emotions, needs and desires of a child; and to be able to respond in a nurturing way, keeping the positive welfare of the child the focus.
Empathy, simply, is the ability to care.

3. Three Components of Empathy in Nurturing Parenting
The way parents discipline their children. The way children are treated shapes the way children will respond to others in distress.
The way parents respond to the emotions of a child. Empathetic responses honor the feelings and let the child know their feelings are accepted.
Ability of parents to be aware of child’s needs. Parents should help children get their needs met.

4. Violence like hitting, shaking, spanking, and verbal abuse are not acts of empathy.

5. Meeting Our Own Needs and the Needs of Our Children
Needs: The basic elements of human beings and all forms of life that dictate and influence behavior.
Behavior: Observable responses to specific situations.

6. Meeting Our Own Needs and the Needs of Our Children
Needs can be thought of in six general categories- we have different needs at different times, but they fall into one of the six categories.
Social
Physical
Intellectual
Creative
Emotional
Spiritual

7. The need for friendship and companionship.
Social
The need for friendship and companionship.

8. Physical
The need for food, sleep, exercise, sex, air, and water

9. Intellectual
The need for stimulation of new ideas or thoughts.

10. Creative
The need to express one’s inner self. Creative needs are expressed in areas like a person’s appearance, dress, dance, poetry, and cooking.

11. Emotional
The need for love, praise, security, trust, and other basic emotions.

12. Spiritual
The need for belonging and membership. The need to believe in the power of goodness. Membership in a family is a spiritual experience.

13. Interdependence
Behavior
Needs

14. Meeting Our Needs and the Needs of Our Children
All behavior is purposeful.
If needs go unmet it can influence our behavior
Children whose needs are routinely unmet suffer the effects throughout their life.

15. Spoiled Child
One who constantly demands, whines, shows unreasonableness, hoards things, is clingy and generally is a pain to be with.
Spoiled children develop as a result of the inability to trust their environment; inconsistent wishy-washy expectations from parents; and a lack of structure.

16. Overly Dependent Children
One who has been smothered with love
Parents do everything for them and their incompetence in getting their own needs met forces their dependence on others.

17. Aggressive Child Has to fend for his/her self
Often lacks warmth; generally has received harshness and aggression from parent interactions

18. Empathy is the fuel for this Journey.
Developing empathy
Empathy is not only the ability of a parent to be aware of the child’s needs, but also to help children get their needs met appropriately.
If parents provide proper care, then children will grow up trusting others and their ability to get their own needs met.
Children go from a natural state of dependency to a state of gradual independency.
Empathy is the fuel for this Journey.

19. Empathy is the cornerstone of nurturing parenting.
Nurture Yourselves!!! 
The ability to being aware of someone else’s needs is being aware and meeting your own needs.
Getting your own needs met is the best way to nurture yourself.
Empathy is the cornerstone of nurturing parenting.