1. Berhanu Nigussie (Asst. Prof.)
Review Responsive and Positive Parenting during Childhood: Proven Techniques for Our Children’s Bright Future.
   
Berhanu Nigussie (Asst. Prof.)
Feb. 2015 JU

2. Review Research Questions:
Which parenting style could benefit children
How parents need to support their children’s Independence & Assertiveness?
What influences the way we parent our children?
What is the most important gift a parent can give to one’s children?

3. Methods To address the review,
the reviewer reviewed related literature and reflected his professional view.
He investigated internationally & nationally published literature related to parenting.
He has also made his own professional reflection on the issue.

4. The Four Major Parenting Styles
Authoritarian: rigid, controlling, punitive, demanding, unreasonable-expectation, little affection, encouragement and praise...
Authoritative: democratic, affectionate, reasonable- expectations, appropriate responsibilities, mutual respect, healthy role modeling, encourages independence & firm guidelines…
Permissive: few expectations, few demands, few rules, inconsistent, high level of nurturing, parent avoids control, behaves as a friend, easily frustrated…
Uninvolved: Parents don’t care about the day-to-day activities & overall wellbeing of their children

5. 1. Authoritarian Parenting

18. Authoritarian: Negative Consequences
Rebellious or submissive
Distrustful
Manipulative
Power struggles with parents
Difficulty making decisions
Only follows rules when parent is present

19. Negative Consequences…
Poor social skills
Low self-confidence & esteem
Always struggles to satisfy parents
Leads depressive & stressful life
Poor academic performance

20. 2. Authoritative Parenting

35. Authoritative: Positive Consequences
Optimum self-confidence & esteem
Assertive, honest, trustworthy
Respectful to self & others
Responsible, law abiding
Ethical & disciplined
Intrinsically motivated
Good relationship with parents
Healthy, drug free & has good social skills
Has self-control, happy & well-adjusted
Excellent academic performances & successful in life

39. 3. Permissive Parenting

42. Permissive Parenting Friends to their child
Instead of giving their children time & attention, they overwhelm them with gifts
Shows their children inconsistent behavior
Over-indulge their children
Offering whatever a child requests without questioning
They do all these to compensate the way they were parented
የዝህ ሁሉ ድርጊታቸው፡ ምክንያት ደግሞ እነሱ ያሳለፉት የልጅነት ዘመን በልጆቻቸው ፡ ላይ እንዳይደገም ነው

43. Impacts of such parenting on the Children:

45. Thinking that they are always the boss-no one else
Immaturity in all aspects (including social skills)
Emotional: lack self-control
Not knowing the limits of things
Not respecting the respectable: with age, status…
Perceiving that this word is free of problems & full of happiness
Inability to take responsibility
Not following rules & regulations
Not visualizing the consequences of things
Low motivation & poor academic achievements

46. 4. Uninvolved Parenting

47. በአካል ከልጆቻቸው ጋር ልሆኑ ይችላሉ ፡ ነገር ጊን በሀሳባቸው ና በስመታቸው ሌላ ቦታ ናቸው
Uninvolved Parents
Thinks that children do not need especial attention and guidance
Have low expectation from their children
Are extremely selfish
Their children parent themselves
Give little attention & respect for their children & others
በአካል ከልጆቻቸው ጋር ልሆኑ ይችላሉ ፡ ነገር ጊን በሀሳባቸው ና በስመታቸው ሌላ ቦታ ናቸው

50. Possible Consequences on the Children:
Low self-esteem & self-confidence
Low respect for others & self
Emotionally instable: stressed & depressed
Lack of personal & social skills
Not following established rules
Not able to discharge any kind of responsibility
Experience poor academic participation & results

51. So, Which of the 4 Parenting is effective in Shaping the Personalities of Our Children?
Authoritative
Children benefit best with authoritative approach to parenting, which combines affection & firm boundaries with an encouragement of children’s independence

52. How parents need to support their children’s Independence & Assertiveness ?
By learning how to listen to their children
Modeling the behavior they want to see in them
Learn how to forgive
By being consistent, fair, firm and fun
Teach & guide rather than punish & control
Rewarding good behavior
Showing love & affection to them
By enforcing limits that are fair & build on trust

53. What Influences the Way We Parent ?
Many local & global findings revealed the ff:
The way we were parented
What we feel is right
How someone has told us to parent
What the research says
What healthy adults say
What unhealthy adults say…

54. Conclusion & Suggestions
Effective parenting skills are important to learn
Authoritative parenting approach works best
Parents ought to show their children that they come first, that they are the most important ones in their life
As the saying goes, “ To the world you might be one person, but to one person, you might be the world!!”

55. One More Thing:
“ Children go where there is excitement & stay where there is Love !!”

56. Thanks !!!
Thanks !!!