1. ÅLESUND

3. What do children need in order to have a safe childhood and adolescence?
Love
Respect
Safe limits
Unconditional love
Time
Predictability
Care
Responsibility
Accept
All feelings/emotions permitted
How are these tings in an alcoholic family???

4. 4 COMMON RULES WHICH
ARREST LIFE
Don’t talk about it!
Don’t feel!
Don’t trust!
Walk on your toes
(Be aware of the sleeping bear)!

5. “My mother handed me a problem, I didn’t know what to do with it so I passed it on to my children.”

10. The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study
Vincent J. Felitti MD, FACP , Robert F. Anda MD, MS , Dale Nordenberg MD , David F. Williamson MS, PhD , Alison M. Spitz MS, MPH , Valerie Edwards BA , Mary P. Koss PhD and James S. Marks MD, MPH

11. Our basis is that: Parents are the most significant
persons in the children's lives
Children are loyal to their parents
All parents want only the best for their children
In spite of this the reality is sometimes different

12. In an educational based group the
Participants will have the opportunity to:
Learn about dependency on alcohol, tablets and drugs
Learn about how abuse and addiction affect the whole family
The to meet another person with similar experiences
Recognise and accept their own feelings and needs
Learn how to get a better self- esteem, draw personal boundaries, make one self be heard and being able to express personal opinions

13. Referring to the problem list mentioned above, the most important methods in such an educational approach are:
LISTENING
EDUCATION
STORYTELLING
TALKING
SHARING EXPERIENCES
NAMING EMOTIONS

14. What may we do to in order to help?
Accept that the problem do exist
Get information about the problem
Be aware of the children's behaviour
Make the problem visible
Don’t be afraid to make contact
Speak openly about the problem
Be brave enough to listen
Tell the child that you will be there if needed
Be a ”trouble maker”. Challenge politicians, the help system, the society
You may be the difference that makes the difference!