1. principles of good parenting practice
Dr. Ketan Bharadva MD DCH

2. Oscar wilde…….
Children begin by loving their parents after a time they judge them rarely, if ever, do they forgive them.

4. Characteristic of children
Children absorb what is happening around them whether we intend for them or not.
Children don’t wait to learn. They learn all the time and they begin early.
Each child is unique
Children learn from experiences
Children experiment
Children are continuously developing. They develop at different rates
They think differently
They have feelings like adults- they can sense yours as well
They need to be taught about how to behave (not physical punishment)
They need limits/structure
They need adults to guide them
They need you to keep them safe
They need you to understand them

5. Unconditional love The greatest gift to the child
Give: child gives what he receives
Show:
Never waste a chance to say “I love you”, “I value you”
Hug generously: “pyar ki zappi”
Do not forge
Consistency
Accept
his limitations and emotions
Understand child’s limitation, act accordingly
Be forgiving

6. Nurture child's self-esteem.
Appreciate
Actively participate and involve in child’s activities
Treat your child with respect.
Reward desirable behavior.
Catch kids being good
Allow them a sense of mastery
Foster your child's independence.
Do not compare
Do not criticize
Do not label
Non judgemental : If you judge them, you will have no time left to love them ….. Mother Teresa
Make them overhear nice things about them you say to others

7. Communication Make communication a priority Healthy Verbal Nonverbal
Recognize your child’s feelings.
They will forget what to tell but will remember how you made them feel
Listen to your child.
Listening is more than hearing, it is sensing what is not said
Listening is loving.
Fundamental need of humans
Undivided attention
One to one basis
Relate with the children:
Stop trying to perfect the child but try perfecting relation with them

8. Be flexible Be flexible and willing to adjust your parenting style
Expect what is reasonable.
Apologizing
Does not mean that you are wrong and the other is right but means that you value relation more than ego
Learn from proper sources

9. Spare time Best thing to spare on child is time Quality
Quantity time for your kids.
Child appreciates your presence more than your presents
Be involved in your child's life.
You have lifetime to work but child is a child only once

10. role model
Child are never good listener to adults but never fail to imitate them. So don’t worry if they do not listen you but worry that they always watch you.
Be a good role model
Be self disciplined
What you do matters
Give them strong roots of values to hold
encourage to seek knowledge
let them fly high with wings of confidence to explore the world
Instill values:
patience, humor and kindness
Goals of life, way of living life

11. Discipline matters
A behavior rewarded is the behavior repeated regardless of type of reward
A child gives what he receives
Establishes inner guidance system to choose right and wrong
Age appropriate explanations
Proper time (immediacy)
Explain your rules and decisions.
Set limits and be consistent with your discipline.
Separate the child from the behavior.
Consistency
No physical punishment
No emotional punishment
No subtle violence

12. Know yourself Know your own needs and limitations as a parent.
Take time to recharge.

13. Provide Safety-Security
Physical
Emotional
Social

14. Maintain health Nutrition Exercise Vaccination