1. Nurturing Parenting Program
Week 11
Establishing Nurturing Routines
CONSTRUCTS A&B: Appropriate expectations and Empathy
Facilitator: Alicia
Phone: (916)
Date/time: Monday &Wednesdays 1-3 pm

2. CHECK IN & HOME ASSIGNMENT REVIEW
Something that I am grateful for today _____
Something that I appreciate about myself is ______
Attunement
Rewards
Praise, Touch, Privileges, Objects, and Allowance
Punishments
Time Out, Restitution, Grounded, Parental Disappointment, Loss of Privilege

3. AGREEMENT REVIEW We will respect everyone We will listen and not judge
We will keep the confidentiality of others
We will not crosstalk
Our cell phone will be silent
We will be positive and help each other out

4. WEEK 11 - COMPETENCIES Table of Contents
Parents can identify the important conditions of a nurturing bath time routine
Parents can describe their nurturing bath time routine
Parents can identify the important conditions for a nurturing bedtime routine
Parents can describe their nurturing bedtime routine
Parents have established nurturing bedtime and bath time routines.
Parents can describe the nurturing routine used for diapering and dressing
Parents have established a nurturing diapering and dressing routine
Parents can describe the importance of establishing a nurturing feeding time routine
Parents can demonstrate the nurturing feeding time routine
Parents will increase their understanding of ways to increase the nutritional value of children’s meal time
Table of Contents

5. ESTABLISHING NURTURING PARENTING ROUTINES
What is a Routine?
Introduction Question:
One routine in my life right now is …
One routine from childhood that I can remember is …

6. ESTABLISHING NURTURING PARENTING ROUTINES
A nurturing routine is a consistent way of parenting that empowers children by building their sense of consistency, predictability and success, which in turn enhances their self-concept and self-esteem
Nurturing Routines Help Establish…
Nurturing Routines Consist of…
Feelings of trust and security
Empathy
Personal Power
Positive self-esteem and self-concept
Gentle positive touch
Praise for being and doing
Pleasant expressions and tone of voice
Having a sense of caring
Having fun and a sense of humor
For young children, nurturing routines can be established for…
Diapering and dressing times
Feeding times, Bath times, and Bed times
Question for Reflection:
What is one routine we have in our family now is…
One routine I especially need to establish is…

7. ESTABLISHING NURTURING DIAPERING AND DRESSING ROUTINE
For children, being able to do things for themselves is a big part of their desire to achieve autonomy and independence. The goal of nurturing routines is to allow children to develop their autonomy at the same time they learn to cooperate.
Nurturing routines involve a partnership. That’s where the cooperation comes in, teaching children to cooperate and to view nurturing routines as a partnership is a primary goal to the success of nurturing routines working.
IMPORTANT!
Let your children have input into what they wear for the day
Allow children to do the things they can do by themselves without any help from you
Assist your children in getting dressed but allow them to still have the lead
Take the lead in assisting your children in getting dressed by doing the things they are incapable of doing
Observe your children to see what they’re capable of doing.
Not wanting to do everything for a child will be difficult for some. Sometimes it’s the need to express “I know more” or “I’m in charge” or “I don’t have time.” Remember, the goal here is to help children develop autonomy
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8. ESTABLISHING NURTURING FEEDING TIME ROUTINE; FEEDING YOUR CHILDREN NUTRITIOUS FOODS
Some notes about feeding routines..
We want babies to know when they’ve had enough to eat
Feeding times teach babies a lot about themselves
Babies lose weight immediately after birth and gain back lost pounds in 2-3 days
Around one year, babies begin to be choosy
Teething usually takes away a child’s appetite
Around one year old, children often lose their interest in food because they’re too busy
Steps in Establishing a Nurturing Feeding Time
Provide a comfortable eating environment
Allow your child the opportunity to reject food
Reinforce personal choice in eating
Try to get children to think of food as something they want, not something they need to reject
Encourage your child to begin to feed himself with a spoon around 9-10 months
Don’t worry about table manners
Praise your child
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9. Some Feeding Time Routine Videos
(newborn feeding routine)
(picky eater gerber)
(2-4 year old gerber)
(how to get your kids to eat)

10. ESTABLISHING A NURTURING BATH TIME ROUTINE
WHY IS BATH TIME A BAD TIME?
Baths come at the end of the day when parents and children are anxious
Bed time usually follows bath time and a lot of children don’t like going to bed
Bath time in some families is a chore, not fun
Bath time is an on-again, off- again activity, which only tends to increase anxiety
Some children may have had a bad experience during a bath and associate all bath times with the bad experience
HOW TO MAKE BATH TIME FUN. . .
Make “tubby time” part of a daily routine
Encourage your child to play in the tub
Make it sound like more fun
Let your child help in preparing the bath

11. ESTABLISHING A NURTURING BATH TIME ROUTINE
NEVER LEAVE YOUNG CHILDREN IN THE TUB UNATTENDED
KEEP ALL ELECTRICAL APPLIANCES AWAY FROM WATER
HAVE A SAFE WATER TEMPERATURE
A BABY’S SKIN IS THINNER THAN AN ADULTS AND CAN BURN EASILY
SEAT BABY FACING AWAY FROM THE FACET
ALWAYS KEEP ONE HAND ON YOUR BABY
DON’T LET OLDER SIBLINGS BATHE THE BABY
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12. ESTABLISHING NURTURING BEDTIME ROUTINE
Building a Nurturing Bed Time Routine
Identify a consistent time for bed time
Make bath time a part of the bed time routine
Select clothes children will wear to bed
Help your children put on their bed time clothes in the bedroom, not in other rooms of the house
Brush teeth as part of the bed time routine
Read stories with your children before they go to sleep
Choose pleasant, not scary, books to read
Put children in bed before they fall asleep
Tuck your children in and praise them for being and doing.
If they awaken during the night, investigate to determine child’s needs

13. ESTABLISHING NURTURING BEDTIME ROUTINE
All Children Experience Some Difficulty in Going to Bed
Separation anxiety from their parents
Nighttime hunger, Nighttime fears
Nighttime activities of other family members
Sleeping in a room previously used as a place of punishment
Bedtime Myths and Facts
Fact or Myth?
Paying attention to crying children will spoil them
Fact: Children become spoiled through inconsistent rules and feelings of insecurity
Fact or Myth?
Children who occasionally sleep in their parents’ bed will never want to leave.
Fact: Wanting to sleep with mom and dad is probably a need for the children to feel secure. When feelings of security are felt, the need for sleeping with mom and dad is lessened.

14. Bedtime Routine Videos
(for toddlers)

15. SESSION EVALUATION WEEK 11 - COMPETENCIES
Parents can identify the important conditions of a nurturing bath time routine
Parents can describe their nurturing bath time routine
Parents can identify the important conditions for a nurturing bedtime routine
Parents can describe their nurturing bedtime routine
Parents have established nurturing bedtime and bath time routines.
Parents can describe the nurturing routine used for diapering and dressing
Parents have established a nurturing diapering and dressing routine
Parents can describe the importance of establishing a nurturing feeding time routine
Parents can demonstrate the nurturing feeding time routine
Parents will increase their understanding of ways to increase the nutritional value of children’s meal time
Table of Contents

16. Praise Time!
“You fall, you rise, you make mistakes, you live, you learn. You’re human, not perfect. You’ve been hurt, but you’re alive. Think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, and to chase the things you love. Sometimes there is sadness in our journey, but there is also lots of beauty. You must keep putting one foot in front of the other even when we hurt, for we will never know what is waiting for us just around the bend. -unknown