1. Erikson’s developmental Stages
Responsible Dating
Erikson’s developmental Stages
For Young Adults is:
Intimacy vs. Isolation

2. Emotional Intellectual Social Recreational Sexual
Types of Intimacy
Emotional
Intellectual
Social
Recreational
Sexual

3. Ways to Establish Intimacy
Sharing Leisure Activities
Effective Communication Skills
Positive Conflict Resolution Skills
Personality Compatibility
Relationship Building Skills
Shared Spiritual Values
Consensus on Roles
Financial Management Skills
Shared Attitudes about Children and Parenting
Sexual Relations

4. Funnels…

5. Comparing the Two Funnels…
The SPEED down each funnel varies.
Girls are usually more interested in pushing down the COMMITMENT funnel, guys control how and how FAST.
Guys are usually more interested in pushing down the INTIMACY funnel, girls control how far and how FAST.

6. …Comparing the Two Funnels
Girls and guys will use one funnel to bargain for the other. Girls give SEX to get LOVE, guys give LOVE to get SEX.
The earlier in age one enters the funnel, the LONGER one is faced with the problem of fighting gravity down the funnel.

7. …Comparing the Two Funnels
The more you DATE one person, the MORE SLIPPERY the funnel becomes.
It is easier to break off a RELATIONSHIP than it is to back up the funnel.

8. …Comparing the Two Funnels
Once you have gone down the funnel, future funnels are more SLIPPERY.
Going down the INTIMACY funnel gives girls a different reputation than guys.

9. Factors that Influence Girls and Guys to have Sex…
Going Steady
Begin dating at an early age
Whether friends are SEXUALLY active or not
Alcohol and/or Drugs

10. Factors that Influence Girls and Guys to have Sex…
Lack of involvement in RELIGION.
Parents and Family:
A. Very PERMISSIVE or very STRICT.
B. Lack of family VALUES.
C. Divorced or SINGLE parents.
D. OPPORTUNITY presented.
7. How you feel about SCHOOL.

11. Factors that Influence Girls and Guys to have Sex…
8. Dating OLDER guys/girls.
Feeling UNLOVED.
10. Media
11. Pressure from your PARENTS.

12. Will it conflict with my: 1) Values
What are some questions you can ask yourself when making decisions about sexual involvement?
Will it conflict with my:
1) Values
2) Standards
3) Religious Beliefs
Do I understand the Risks
1) Pregnancy
2) Sexually Transmitted Disease
Will anyone/thing be hurt?
1) Myself- Reputation, Future
2) My Partner – Reputation, Future
3) Our Families
4) Possible offspring

13. What are some wrong reasons for becoming sexually involved?
To Keep the relationship Together
To Prove You are an Adult
To Rebel
To be Accepted/Popular

14. How will a baby affect my future? (Education, Career)
What questions should you be prepared to answer, should you become a parent because of sexual involvement?
How will a baby affect my future? (Education, Career)
How does my Partner feel about the Pregnancy?
Am I willing to take on the responsibilities of Parenting?
How will parenting affect our relationship?
Do I have the necessary parenting skills?
Can I financially support a child on my own if I have to?

15. Identify some STD’s that may occur because of sexual involvement?
Chlamydia – Most common
P.I.D. – usually from untreated chlamydia
Gonorrhea
Syphilis
Herpes – No Cure
Aids – No Cure

16. Explain your feelings, thoughts and Needs - LISTEN
Let’s say you’ve decided not to have sex. How can you stick to this decision without hurting your partner’s feelings?
Explain your feelings, thoughts and Needs - LISTEN
Don’t send mixed messages
Avoid situations that may set you up for failure