2. Chapter 3
Families Today

3. Healthy Family Development
Lesson 3.1
Healthy Family Development

4. Premarital counseling
Key Terms
Active listening
Body language
Budget
Communication
Cultural diversity
Culture
Family life cycle
Marriage
Multicultural family
Premarital counseling

5. Lesson 3.1 – Guided Notes
Write the questions on your paper and answer as you take notes.
Define marriage and explain its functions and importance in family life.
Explain the difference between nonverbal and verbal communication, and give an example of both.
How is a budget important to a healthy marriage and family?

6. Lesson 3.1 – Guided Notes
4. Name the seven stages of the family life cycle.
5. ________ is a way of life within a group of people that include language, beliefs, attitudes, values, rituals, and skills.
6. Describe some of the unique challenges of being part of a multicultural family.
7. How do societal views of children today differ from societal views of children before and during the Industrial Revolution?

7. The family is the oldest known social group.
Healthy families work on building healthy relationships.
Families, just like individuals, change through the years, but continue to be the basic unit of society.

8. Building a Strong Foundation
The strength of a family's foundation depends on the strength of its inherent (basic) relationships.
Building a strong foundation, whether in marriage or other key relationship, is essential to the satisfaction of family members, the stability of the family unit, and the health and development of any children.

9. Considering Marriage
Marriage is a legal contract and, ideally, an emotional and social union between two partners.
In a healthy marriage, both partners desire to remain together and both partners feel satisfied, even if conflicts and periods of discontentment (unhappiness) occur.

10. A happy marriage can be a source of love and security for two partners, as well as a source of stability and comfort for a couple’s children.

11. Factors to consider before getting married.
Why do I want to get married?
When do I want to get married?
What qualities would each partner bring to a marriage?
Do we have similar life goals and values?

12. Marriage Evaluation Questions
Directions: Answer the following questions on the index card provided.
Why do I want to get married?
When do I want to get married?
What qualities would each partner bring to a marriage?
Do we have similar life goals and values?

13. Communicating Effectively
Communication is the exchange of messages and information between at least two people. It’s the sending and receiving of messages.
Two types of communication are verbal and nonverbal.

14. Nonverbal Communication
Nonverbal communication is a way of sending and receiving messages without using words or in addition to suing words.
Body language is the sending of messages through body movements.

15. Verbal Communication
Verbal communication consists of the words used to deliver and receive messages. It indicates not just what people say, but how they say it, and what specific words they use.
What will saying this sentence achieve?
What is my reason for saying it?
Is the way I am phrasing this harmful or helpful to this relationship?

16. Partners consider each other’s feeling and talk about their problems.
Active listening occurs when the receiver of a message provides feedback to the speaker, indicating that the message is understood.
Partners consider each other’s feeling and talk about their problems.

17. Answer the questions about the video {25 min}
Jan Hargrave: "Understanding Body Language" on LIVING SMART WITH PATRICIA GRAS
Answer the questions about the video {25 min}

18. Managing Money Effectively
Poor money management can spark conflict in any relationship.
A budget is a financial plan for spending and saving money.
Money crisis and conflicts can shake the foundation of any family. Effectively managing money, however, can help prevent financial crises and ensure the financial health of the family.

19. Figure 3.3 Steps in Problem Solving
Step 1-identify the problem
Step 2-look at alternative solutions
Step 3-analyze the alternative solutions
Step 4-select a possible solution
Step 5-implement a solution
Step 6-evaluate the results

20. Preparing for Marriage
Premarital counseling is a type of therapy for couples who are preparing for marriage.
During premarital counseling sessions, a licensed counselor will help both partners consider life goals an values and how they will handle the responsibilities of marriage.

21. The Family Life Cycle The series of stages that many families go through over the years. Many parents and their children go through similar stages called the family life cycle.

22. Single A unmarried person.
A unmarried person.
During this stage, you strive to become fully able to support yourself emotionally, physically, socially, and financially.

23. Beginning Stage The couple is a family of two.
They get to know each other and decide if and when they will become parents an how many children they want.

24. Childbearing The couple start having children.
The stage of parents having multiple children are overlapping.
This stage last until the birth of the last child. Parents learn
their roles in caring for
and guiding children.

25. Parenting
The couple focus on guiding their children through the school-age and teen years.
This stage last until children start to leave home.

26. Launching
The couple’s children begin to leave home to live on their own.

27. Mid Years
The couple focuses on their marriage, planning for their future, and becoming grandparents.
This stage last until the couple retires.

28. Aging The couple retires and adjusts to this change in lifestyle.
This stage lasts through the remainder of life as a couple.

29. Kenny Chesney – There Goes My Life
 KennyChesneyVEVO

30. Cultural Influences on Families
Culture, a way of life within a group of people that includes language, beliefs, attitudes, values, rituals, and skills, greatly affects a family’s life.
Cultural diversity, which means it has more than one culture represented among its people.

31. How Cultures Vary
People often reference a region of origin, specific country, or language to identify their culture because of the customs, traditions, values, and religions that comprise (make up) each culture.
Each culture’s practices support its particular beliefs and customs.

32. Multicultural Families
A multicultural family is a family with members from two or more cultural groups.
Everyone in a multicultural family needs to learn about the cultures of its members.
Expressions of bias (favoring; unequal treatment) or exclusion for others, especially family members.

33. Challenges in Multicultural Families
Verbal and nonverbal communication differences between cultures.
Differing cultural expectations, roles, beliefs, and values.
Differing traditions, including religious beliefs, rituals, and holidays.
Differing views regarding family life and roles.
Expressions of bias or exclusion from others, especially family members.

34. Figure 3.7 What Makes Multicultural Families Strong?
Studies show the strongest multicultural families often have the following in characteristics.
Parents have a strong cultural identities and feel good about their multicultural family.
The family talks about cultural issues in the home.
Parents and children develop creative ways to solve problems that show equal respects for both cultures.

35. Figure 3.7 What Makes Multicultural Families Strong?
The family surrounds itself with supportive family and friends.
Parents work with child care staff and teachers on behalf of their children.
The family celebrates all cultures.
Parents tolerate no biased remarks within their circle of family, friends, and peers.

36. Societal Influences of Families
Industrial revolution (time in history in which society began to focus on industry and manufacturing).
During the Industrial Revolution, many families left their farms and moved into the cities to work in factories, leaving behind relatives and friends.

37. Children were considered an asset to the family because they helped the family earn money.
When children reached four to seven years of age, they were expected to work long days in factories or on farms.
Children now lead lives as children, not as a source of family income (money received for working).

38. Characteristics of a Healthy Family
Marriages built and directed by shared values.
Acceptance of family members differences.
Expectation that family values and structure will change.
Willingness to adjust

39. Characteristics of a Healthy Family
Mutual commitment to family life
Others-centeredness, not self-centeredness
Sharing of responsibilities
Honestly and dependability

40. Family Life Cycle Storybook
Directions…Use the information from the notes to design and create your own storybook about the family life cycle. You must incorporate the six stages of the FLC along with pictures to represent each stage.  

41. Lesson 3.2
Family Types

42. Key Terms Adoption Adoption agency Child support order Closed adoption
Custodial parent
Extended family
Foster family
Guardian

43. Illegal market adoption Independent adoption Joint custody
Noncustodial parent
Nuclear family
Open adoption
Single-parent family
Stepfamily

44. Lesson 3.2 – Guided Notes
List disadvantages and advantages of the nuclear family.
A(n) ________ is a judgment of the court that states how much a noncustodial parent must pay toward a child’s expenses.
List three reasons people might choose to live in an extended family.
List ways stepparents can help create a family bond.
Compare a closed adoption to an open adoption.
What is the difference between a foster parent and a guardian?

45. The USA population is comprised of many types of families.
The family type describes which people live in the household and how these people are related.

46. Nuclear Families
A father, a mother, an their biological child or children who live together from a nuclear family.

47. In nuclear families children often leave home when they become adults, especially when they marry and have there own families.
Disadvantages:
Grandparents, aunts, uncles do not live in the home.
Families may live too far from relatives to rely on them for support.
Parents can expose children to stress if they don’t get along. Especially if there is abuse.

48. Advantages: Members can share responsibilities
Children may be apt (likely) to learn more flexible home and child care roles in the nuclear family.
Children who see role sharing may be better prepared for the future than those who do not.
Children see how spouses relate to each other.

49. Single Parent Families
Single-parent family is headed by one adult.
These families form when a parent dies, parents divorce or separate, or a single parent adopts children.
These circumstances (situations or conditions) change a nuclear family to a single-parent family.

50. Challenges of Single-Parenting
Financial Concerns
Emotional Concerns
Custodial parent (parent who heads the household and has legal responsibility for care giving)
Noncustodial parent (parent who lives separately from his or her children) also has legal responsibility to contribute financially, but few noncustodial parents actually do.
Child support is a judgment of the court that states how much the noncustodial parent must pay toward the children’s expenses.
Many single parents have strong emotional reactions to the circumstances that made them single parents.
They may feel anger, resentment, depression, fear, or sadness at having to carry so much responsibility alone.
Cope (handle challenges in a healthy manner) with their own feelings as well as help their children cope.

51. Challenges of Single-Parenting
In never-married families, children may have other issues with which they must cope. If both parents are actively involved, these issues are lessened.
When one parent is absent, children may wonder whether they caused the parent to abandon them.
These children may feel a lasting sense of loss, especially if they have never known or no longer have contact with the second parent.
Other sources of support for single parents:
Big Brothers Big Sisters of America
Parents Without Partners

52. Darryl's Story - Big Brothers Big Sisters

53. Rewards of Single-Parenting
Children in well-adjusted single-parent homes are often more stable than children in unhappy two-parent homes.
Children in single-parent families may show independence at an earlier age than those in other family types.
When possible, parents can work together to raise the children even if they do not live in the same house.
Joint custody, which is the shared legal right to provide care for and make decisions about their children’s lives.

54. Extended Families
Extended family is a family that extends past the parent or parents and their children to included other adult relatives who interact within the same household.
Extended families may form as a single parent and his or her children temporarily move in with other family members to save money.
Aging family member who need short-term care move in with their adult children.
When the economy is in recession (economic period with minimal or no growth), we see more extended families.
Sometimes the extended family lives in one home.

55. Step Families
Stepfamilies are formed when a single parent marries another person.
Two single parents marry each other in most cases.
Families in which the children of both spouse will live with the couple are sometimes called a blended family.
Adjustment challenges are common in stepfamilies. Young children under 10 often adjust more easily to new situations than older children.

56. Create a Family Bond
Letting stepchildren set the pace for their relationships with stepparents.
Showing verbal appreciation for stepchildren by telling them how much they are appreciated.
Explaining to children that a stepparent is another person to love and support them.
Encouraging stepchildren to have one-on-one time with both their biological parents.
Planning activities with stepchildren, but avoiding attempts to try to “buy” their love.
Avoiding showing favoritism among children by treating all children equally.
Keeping family communication open and frequent.

57. Steve Harvey Breaks Down Stepfamilies

58. Families with Adopted Children
Adoption occurs when a child of one pair of parents legally becomes the child of another parent or parents.
Adoption legally ends the rights and responsibilities between a child and the birthparents (biological parents).
Adoption give the child a new family.

59. People often want to adopt for the following reasons:
Couple can not give birth or can give birth only with great difficulty.
The couple may want to add to their current family.
The couple knows a child who needs a home.
A single person wants to be a parent and provide a home for children.

60. Our Adoption Story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idOLY3HEPgU

61. Adoption Agencies and Independent Adoptions
Buying or selling a child for adoption, which is called an illegal market adoption, is illegal in all states.
An adoption agency is an agency licensed by the state to handle adoptions. State courts handle the final legal aspects for the adoptions. Adoption agencies are either state-funded or private (managed by a religious or a service organization).

62. Adoption Options & Rights
Adoption rights protect those involved in an adoption. In most states, the birthfather has legal rights.
State laws may permit the birthfather to deny paternity (fathering of a child), give all rights to the birthmother, and give permission along with the birthmother for the child to be adopted.

63. A closed adoption (confidential adoption) is an adoption in which the identity of the birthparents and adopting family are not revealed.
An open adoption is a type of adoption that involves some degree of communication between the birthparent(s) and the adoptive family.

64. For all adoptions, birthparents must sign papers consenting (giving permission) to the adoption.
Waiting period where adoption agency determine “the fit” between the adoptive parents and the child.
Presented to the court then the judge declare the adoption final. The original birth certificate is placed under court seal.
A new birth certificate is issued listing the adoptive parents as the child’s parents.

65. Adoption Issues Do not have the nine months of pregnancy.
May be on a waiting list.
Birthparents may want to see the child or become part of the child’s life.
Older children who lived with their birthparents are then adopted by a new family need time to adjust.
Adoptive parents may also wish to seek counseling to help them guide the children and offer them the support they need to make the adjustment.

66. Meagan’s Story
Gladney Center for Adoption Gladney

67. Foster Families
Foster Families are families in which adults provide temporary homes of children who cannot live with their birthparents.
Foster parents assume the parenting responsibility for the children in their care.
They fill these roles until the children are reunited with their birthparents or placed in adoptive homes.

68. The court may server (end or cut off) the rights of the birthparents.
Some foster children live in institutions oar group homes rather than in family settings.
The court may server (end or cut off) the rights of the birthparents.
Foster children need counseling for the problems they faced in their birth families.

69. Families with Guardians
A guardian is a person who is legally appointed by the court to take responsibility for a child in the event of the birthparents’ death or extended absence.
The guardian assumes parental responsibilities. Some guardian manage the child’s inherited money, while other take full responsibility for childrearing costs.
The court supervises the guardian and may even make some decisions for the child.

70. Grandparents as Head of Household
These family head often do not have legal guardianship, but assume the parenting responsibilities of a guardian.
Not having legal rights as a guardian may present challenges for the children and the guardian.
Parenting grandchildren is high-risk for grandparents.

71. Risk for Grandparents
Vigor (strength and energy) and health decrease as grandparents age.
Less income.
Giving up plans for the retirement years.
Grieving over their grandchildren's’ parents.
Anxiety.
Grandchildren’s special needs.

72. Family Tree Read: All Kinds of Family by Norma Simon
Guided Discussion. :
What kinds of families were there?
Were they all the same?
Who made up these different families?
Did they have grandparents, parents, cousins, brothers, sisters, aunts or uncles?
What makes a family?
Do all families have to be biologically related?
Do all families keep in close touch with each other?
Many students may have a family that isn't traditional.
● Show sample of the Family Tree