1. 6th Grade Bullying Presentation
Mrs. Kole – School Counselor
Mr. Swartz - Dean

2. Statistics on Bullying
Approximately 25 – 30% of students say they have been bullied at school.
Most bullying happens in middle school. The most common types are verbal and social bullying.
Young people who are perceived as different from their peers are often at risk for being bullied.
When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time
The Effects of bullying can be carried into adulthood.
Source: Stopbullying.gov

3. What is Bullying?
Bullying is repeated, chronic infliction of physical hurt or psychological distress on another person.
Bullying is aggressive and unwanted behavior with the intention to harm, intimidate or humiliate the victim.
Bullying is real or perceived imbalance of power between the aggressor & victim.
* LCPS Policy Student Conduct Code 8-41

4. Bullying; Mistreatment; Conflict
Bullying – intentional, repeated, hurtful, imbalance, consequential
Mistreatment - treat someone badly, limited, meanness, hurtful, consequential
Conflict – difference of opinion, disagreement
A conflict between equals is not bullying. (arguments, peer dispute, ordinary teasing, horseplay).

5. Are you a Bully? Learned Behavior Seeks Power Hurtful Aggressive Angry
Seeks Power
Hurtful
Aggressive
Angry
Reject Rules
Use Others
Learned Behavior

6. FORMS OF BULLYING Physical hitting, shoving, grabbing Verbal
repeated harmful teasing, name-calling

7. Social
spreading rumors, shunning or excluding
Sexual Harassment inappropriate comments and touching

8. Cyberbullying Use of the Internet or Phone: Instagram Finsta Kik
Snap Chat
Twitter
Texting/ Sexting
(Both boys and girls engage in this type of bullying)

10. Are you a Target/Victim?
Not fitting in
Stands out
Weaker
Scared
Angry
Picked on
Low Self-Esteem
Isolated
Sensitive
Insecure

11. The Target/Victim
Targets are chosen because of their reaction to a situation.
You can learn strategies to combat bullying behaviors

12. What happens to kids who are bullied?
Grades drop
Attendance declines
Avoid school or classes
Physical symptoms
stomachache, headache
Anger
Sad, isolated, alone
Depression
Suicide

13. Are you an Instigator? Spread rumors Gossip Keeps things going
Thinks it’s fun
Watch like a bystander
___________________
Afraid of the bully
Aligns with the bully
Need for belonging -
Insecure

14. Are you a Bystander? What is a bystander?: Bystanders can:
Not directly involved but may observe it on a continual and repeated basis.
Bystanders can:
Feel powerless
Scared
Unsure what to do
Align with bully

15. Why don’t bystanders do something?:
They are not aware of the distress the bully is causing the victim
Fear they might be the next target
Previous experiences of telling an adult and nothing happened
They begin to believe what the bully says about the victim (i.e. blaming the victim)
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Someone continues to get bullied because bystanders didn’t help

16. Why is this a problem?
If you stand by and watch it happen and do nothing…its as if you are participating in the bullying.
If you are not part of the solution, you may become part of the problem.

17. Tattling vs.Telling Tattling (snitching):
informing on someone for personal gain (ex: “if I tell on Johnny then it will make me look better to the teacher”)
Telling (Seeking Help):
attempting to stop someone from getting hurt (ex: “I am going to tell an adult that Johnny is planning on beating up Bobby after school today at the bus stop”)
Virginia Youth Violence Project, UVA, Guidelines for Responding to Student Threats of Violence. Peter L. Sheras, Ph.D and Dewey G. Cornell, Ph.D.

19. What Bystanders Can Do STOP BULLYING Befriend the victim
Don’t make fun of the situation or students
Be an UPSTANDER:
Tell the bully to
STOP BULLYING
Befriend the victim
Report – give details of what you know

20. Remember: If a bystander intervenes the bullying will stop over 50% of the time within 10 seconds!

21. What Targets/Victims Can Do
Stay Away
Stay away from places bullies hang out
Walk Away
Avoid the bully by walking away with dignity

22. Assertiveness Be Assertive Look Assertive Act Assertive
State your position clearly and firmly.
“I don’t let people push me around”
“ Look, don’t say that stuff about me anymore”
“Leave me alone”
“Back off and keep your hands to yourself”
“Why are you still teasing me when I told you to stop.”
“I’ve said to quit saying that. What’s your problem?” “

23. appropriate to deflect attention.
Humor Responses
Humor
Use humor when
appropriate to deflect attention.
Example: Bully: “That’s an ugly shirt.”
Target: “Thanks, I got it at the ugly shirt store.”
Example: Bully: “ You have a brain like a jelly fish.”
Target: “ Thanks, I love to eat fish for dinner and put jelly on
my toast.”

24. Repeating your answer over and over again “
Broken Record
Repeating your answer over and over again “
Example: “No, I won’t give you my money, No I won’t give you my money….”
Example: I’m not going to listen to you, I’m not going to listen to you . . .

25. Talk to people you trust parents, counselors, teachers, deans, friends
Use Your Allies
walk in groups or pairs
Talk to people you trust
parents, counselors, teachers, deans, friends

26. Talk to a trusted adult, usually doing this makes things better
Tell An Adult
Talk to a trusted adult, usually doing this makes things better

27. Participate & Socialize
Participate – choose activities you are likely to excel or enjoy. Focus on what you do well and an area of interest.
Socialize – mix in rather than be left out.

28. What to do when Cyberbullied

30. The Bottom Line!
Bullying is NOT tolerated at Harper Park Middle School.
If you are caught bullying someone, there will be serious consequences!
Reporting bullying to an adult is NOT the same as being a tattle tail!
Finding an adult or getting help makes you a good person and a great friend!

31. Bullying True or False? 1. Bullying is just teasing. T F
2. Some people deserve to be bullied T F
3. Only boys are bullies T F
4. Victims and bullies are never the same T F
5. Bullying is a normal part of growing up T F

32. Bullying True or False?
6. Bullies will go away if you ignore them T F
7. Bullies are insecure and have low self-esteem. That’s why they pick on other people T F
8. It’s tattling to tell an adult when you’re being bullied T F
9. The best way to deal with a bully is by fighting or trying to get even T F
10. People who are bullied might hurt for a while but they’ll get over it T F

33. Be There,
Be Ready,
Be Kind