1. How To Live With And Help An Alcoholic Wifeby
Jozzy Scott

2. INTRODUCTION
The challenges of living with an alcoholic wife could be quite intimidating. Maybe you had even thought of letting go. I believe you are reading this because you want to know what to do. I will go straight to the tips that can help you not just to live with but also to help an alcoholic wife.

3. Prepare Yourself For The Task
You might not be able to do much if you do not prepare yourself adequately. The reason you have to take care of yourself is because most times, the person who takes the verbal abuse of an alcoholic is sometimes just as mentally and emotionally sick as the alcoholic. You need to give yourself the permission to put your own health first: mentally, spiritually and physically. Understand that you were not the cause for her disease and you should not become a victim of her disease.
Joining an Al-anon group can be helpful in gaining your mental and emotional health, elements you need so much if you must be of help to your alcoholic wife.

4. Stop nagging/shouting at your alcoholic wife
This is where we sometimes get it wrong. We think that shouting at her will make her sober. Nagging will not help at all. In reality, it can even drive her for more bottles.
The alcoholic has adapted to treating all emotions with alcohol. She is happy, she drinks; she has been scolded by her husband and she drinks to calm herself; she is sad, she drinks to feel happy and so on. So when you nag, you practically are giving her a reason to take to the bottles.
When living with an alcoholic wife one of your goals is to help her to reach the state of wanting to make a change and improve her life and that is not achieved by nagging.

5. Detach with love
Detaching from the abuse of your alcoholic wife is one of the best things to do when dealing with her alcoholism.
You can do this if you truly love her and want to help her to possible sobriety. Don’t have any interaction with the alcoholic wife while she is drinking; that includes, talking and arguing with her. Why fuss and fight with someone who has lost the ability to make any sense? Don’t become ensnared in the alcoholic trap with her.

6. Don’t Enable Her
Let her take responsibility for whatever her drinking has caused. If she falls after drinking, it is not your duty to lift her up. If she messes the place up after being drunk, you are not to clean up for her. Stop picking up the pieces after her. Don’t help her to bed after getting drunk. If she gets conscious after drinking and finds everything fine, how would she know that her drinking is causing problems? Let her be responsible for whatever problem her drinking causes. It could be a tough choice to make consciously because you feel responsible and guilty. What makes it harder still is that you love her dearly. However, if you want to help her you have to make her see what her drinking is costing you and the family.

7. Remove ALL the Alcohol From Your House
It is useless to try hiding it. She will find it and that will also in a way be enabling her. You might even consider staying away from alcohol yourself and making your house an alcohol – free zone. Although an alcoholic will most times do anything to get a drink, but perhaps distance could be a good disadvantage, if not a barrier.

8. Find Out What Else You're Currently Doing Which Is Not Helping
Do not detach from the world so make sure you continue to see your friends and have time for yourself. Don’t let your diet, hygiene and social dispositions suffer because of your alcoholic wife’s condition. Be kind to yourself, don’t blame yourself for her condition and give yourself permission to have your own life and to be happy while you are living with her.
I wish you the very best. You will also find helpful tips in this link