1. Bullying is A Pain in the Brain

2. What is bullying?
Bullying is any mean word, look, sign, or act that hurts a person’s body, feelings, or things. (Repeated over time)
It is a conscious desire to hurt another and put them under stress.
An aggressive or violent behavior in which one person or group has more power than another verbally, physically or emotionally.
Bullying is peer abuse.

3. Bullying Behaviors What does it look like
Bullying Behaviors What does it look like? It can be verbal or nonverbal.
Name calling, teasing,
Mimicking, eye rolling, threatening
Indifference and exclusion
Hitting, Kicking, Pushing, Shoving
Invasion of Personal Space
Writing mean notes, spreading rumors

4. Types of Bullying
Verbal: Taunting, teasing, name-calling, threatening, put downs, sighs, whispering
Emotional: Exclusion, Spreading rumors, pointing, laughing inappropriately, private clubs – hurting someone’s feelings
Physical: Hitting, Pushing, Spitting, Biting, hurting someone’s body
Sexual: obscene gestures, inappropriate touching, using names like gay, or saying
Cyber bullying: using the computer to say hurtful or mean things

5. Bullies can get power by…
Using a code of silence
Fear
Size
I’m popular and cool and you’re not
Mean looks and gestures
Better than you attitude
Athletic ability
Jealousy
Has lots of things like toys, nice clothes or money
I’m smarter than you

6. Bullying Terms Victim – person who is the target of the bully
Ringleader Bully – person who plays the main role in bullying
Assistant bullies – person who joins in the bullying
Reinforcers – person who laughs with or encourages the bully
Outsiders – they stay away and don’t take sides
Defenders/Bystanders – they step in and/or stick up for the victim

7. Bullies – Just a few kids
Bystanders – Most kids
Targets – Just a few kids

8. Where does bullying happen?
School
At home
On the playground
On the computer
Over the phone
In the lunchroom
In the bathroom
In the hallway
On the bus
Just about anywhere

9. How does it feel when someone gets bullied
Sad
Mad
Frustrated
Devastated
Want Revenge
Hurt
All alone
Embarrassed
Inferior
Small
Not important
Like you don’t want to come to school
It can turn to rage and anger in a person if it doesn’t stop

10. Why do kids get bullied? Differences Power Jealousy Family Background
Not cool - social
Intelligence
Physical Feature
To get a reaction

11. What is your shield if you get bullied?
Take a deep breath and get calm.
Give yourself a positive message.
Use an “I” message. Use a strong voice and body language.
Ignore the person teasing you.
Walk away and get help from an adult.
Use a sense of humor.
Move to a group of supportive friends.
One liners “You have a funny way of making friends” “Thanks for noticing” “Sorry you feel that way”
Tell an adult.

12. Empathy
Empathy refers to the ability to understand how others feel, feel what they are feeling, and care about their feelings.
We can experience empathy even if we haven’t had the exact same experience because we can experience similar emotions like anger, hurt or sadness.
Everyone can learn to be empathetic.
Close your eyes and try to get into someone else's shoes and try to imagine how they feel.

13. What can you do if you see someone getting bullied?
Tell an adult.
Invite them to play with you.
Stick up for them.
Refuse to join in.
Don’t rush over and take them on – it might not be safe.
If you report a bullying behavior it is NOT tattling!!!

14. Bully Riddles What do you say to a bully who is bothering you?
Knock, Knock.
Who’s there?
Leaf.
Leaf Who?
Leaf me alone!
What is a bully’s favorite food?
Bully-loney sandwiches
What happened to the bully who swallowed a frog?
He became a bully frog.

15. Stand Up Against Bullies
Don’t sit down.
Face the situation.
Let’s begin the crackdown.
Working together,
We can all find peace.
We can end bully power.
And the hurting will cease.
Let’s all do our part.
To make sure the message is clear.
We won‘t put up with bullies!
Only friends allowed here!

16. Kids who have empathy do not bully others because they put themselves in other peoples’ shoes

17. Liberty View Elementary Consequences for Bullying
Write a plan of action
Loss of recess
Parent Contact
Office visit
Quiet time in a safe place
Loss of special school privileges
Suspension from school
It is your responsibility to report bullying!!! We want our school to be safe so kids can learn and have fun.

18. What to do if someone bullies you?
Step 1: Talk Friendly
Use a friendly voice, face, and body language
“I don’t like it when you do that, please stop”
“I don’t like when you talk to me that way, please stop”
Step 2: Talk Firmly
Use a firm voice, a firm face, and body language
“Stop it. I don’t like that”
“I said stop”
Step 3: Get Help
Ask for help to solve the problem.
Don’t ask an adult to solve your problem for you
To an adult: “I need your help solving a problem. This person is bothering me by using unkind words. I asked them to stop in a friendly way, I asked them to stop in a firm way and they keep bothering me. Can you help us solve this problem?”