1. Defence Mechanism

2. Refers to unconscious processes that defend a person against anxiety by distorting reality in some way.
Some of this are:

3. Denial – when an external reality is too unpleasant to face, an individual may deny that it exist. Denying facts may be better than facing them.
Ex.
When a much-loved child of a parent may pretend that child is still very much alive.
Or where the child is very sick, the parent may pretend that nothing is wrong.

4. 2. Repression- this is a defense against internal threat.
Ex:
cases of amnesia.
forgetting the name of the person you dislike

5. 3. Rationalization- it is the assignment of logical motives to what we do, so that we seem to have acted properly.
Ex:
We reach for a “good” reason rather than a “true” reason, making up excuses that are usually plausible but do not tell the whole story.

6. 4. Projection- this protects is from recognizing our own unbdesirable qualities by assigning them to other people.
Ex:
You cheat because other people do so.
You are cruel to other people because people around you are cruel and unkind.

7. Stress is an event that produces tension or worry.
Stress is also related to heart failure. Pressure to achieve, combined with an underlying general hostility, are considered to be the characteristics most likely to contribute to heart disease.

8. The personality characteristics of stress-resistant is summarized by the commitment, control and challenge.
Commitment- to relationships with other people provides social support in times of stress.
Sense of control- control of life's event reflects feelings of competency and also influences the way by which stressful events are appraised.
Challenge- forceful challenge to achieve more in life.

9. Stress affects not only the actual functioning of body systems but also the more subtle process of aging. We can control the effects of stress through relaxation exercise (mental and physical) which help to unwind the tension.

10. Stress Busting
1. Make list- using a support network is a great way to manage the stress.
2. Breathe Deeply- activities that involve deep breathing can help you achieve a state profound rest.
3. Blow off steam-laughter, exercise ,music ,massage ,sleep and even crying are all ways to relive stress.
4. Confront your stressors- talk and think through what you're feeling or you'll end up treating the symptoms , not their cause.
5. Ease your spine- one of the great stress-relieving yoga poses is the simple child pose.

11. 6. Use visualization- if anxiety attack comes on, picture a simple image such as that of tranquil ocean. Focus on it until you can perceive the details completely .
7. Count it out- close your eyes, focus on your breathing and tap each finger from one to ten.
8. Be a diplomat- criticism and controlling advice from relatives and friends can lead to guild, resentment, or anger.
9. Get your zzzs- anxiety leads to insomnia , which leads to further anxiety. Avoid stimulants such as coffee, chocolate, tea, sugar and exercise within 3 hours of bedtime.
10. Take it in stride- don’t expect perfection on the big day. Have helpers on hand to deal with and problems and try to go with the flow.

12. Exercise for inner beauty
Relaxation- find a position in which you can be relaxed and alert at the same time. Close your eyes. Take three deep breaths and let them out slowly, breathing out all tightness and worry, breathing in peace and well-being
Receptivity- now that your active mind is becoming still, you can contact your inner voice that place within you can suggest answers to your questions with honesty and wisdom.
Usually it speaks images or impression may be fleeting, it is wise to note the answer as soon as you receive it, either by making a brief sketch or by jotting down a word or phrase that will later call it to mind.
3. Reflection- In these cases serenity and inspiration will be your goals. Follow step one and two for relaxation and insight and the focus on something of beauty. If nothing at hand satisfies, study a candle in your mind ‘s eye. Imagine the changing size and color of the flame . Gradually, wonderful, loving, and serene thoughts will come to you- such as an experience is an inner beauty treatment that will not long remain hidden inside.

13. 4. Responsibility- as you continue to increase your intuitive ability by practicing relaxation, receptivity and reflection you will develop inner qualities that will help you achieve goals that, in the past, may have been difficult or impossible to attain.
As the first step in this process, make a commitment to do something specific-something you know you can do and commit yourself to it for a limited amount of time.
Once you have made the commitment, record it and pin it up as a reminder.
You may wish to include a sketch of one of the images you have received on your “ reminder card” to inspire you and strengthen your resolve as you accept the responsibility of fulfilling it.