1. Consent and Healthy Relationships
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Consent and Healthy Relationships

2. Statistics
Among college women, 9 out of 10 victims of rape and sexual assault know their offender.
For about every 1000 women attending college/university, there are 35 incidents of rape each academic year.
(Fisher, B.S., Cullen, F.T., & Turner, M.G. (2000))
1 in 20 women (almost 5%) reported being reported being raped in college since the beginning of the year (about 7 months).
72% of those rapes happened while the victims were so intoxicated they were unable to consent or refuse.
(Mohler-Kuo, M., Dowdall, G., Koss, M., & Wechsler, H. (2004))
1 in 5 women are survivors of rape. 1 in 2 women and 1 in 5 men were victims of some form of sexual assault in their lifetime.
(National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. (2010))

3. What is sexual assault?
Sexual assault is forced or coerced sexual contact without consent.
(No More Campaign, 2015)
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4. What is consent? Consent is… Consent isn’t… Not Sure? Ask!
Enthusiastic Ongoing Clearly Given
Coerced Forced Under the Influence
Not Sure?
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5. What defines a healthy relationship?
A healthy functional intimate relationship is based on equality and respect, not power and control. Think about how you treat (and want to be treated by) someone you care about.
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6. Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
Honesty Communication Fairness Economic Partnership Shared Responsibility Shared Power Respect Trust Intimacy Personal Affection Integrity Non-threatening Behavior
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7. Characteristics of a Unhealthy Relationship
Coercion and Threats Intimidation Emotional Abuse Isolation Denying and Blaming Using Family and Loved Ones Abusing Authority Using Economics Abuse
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8. What questions should you ask yourself to know if you have a healthy relationship?
Do I treat the other person as if he/she is of value?
To what degree am I able to allow myself to be open to what he/she feels?
Do I try to understand the other person, what they say or do?
Is the relationship built on truthfulness, or are there games involved?
Can we talk freely about issues that are important to the relationship? Do we know how to talk so we each are understood and sharing is safe?
Am I mindful of the other person’s needs as well as my own?
To what extent do we like and value the same things? In areas of disagreement, are we able to agree to disagree?
Am I able to maintain my beliefs and sense of self as well as offer my time and attention to the relationship?
To what degree can I let down my barriers and allow the other person to see my perceived weaknesses, without fear of negative reactions from them?
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9. How to get out of a bad relationship:
Part 1: Identifying a bad relationship
Be your true self
Listen to concerns from family and friends
Make decisions for yourself
Watch out for controlling behavior
Measure the trust in the relationship
Notice how critical you partner is of you

10. How to get out of a bad relationship:
Part 2: Preparing for a break-up
Admit you’re in a bad relationship
Arrange a place to go after a break-up
Create a plan of action

11. How to get out of a bad relationship:
Part 3: Ending the relationship
Plan a time to talk with your partner
Tell your partner the relationship is over
Put distance between yourself and your new ex

12. How to get out of a bad relationship:
Part 4: Moving on
Surround yourself with positive people
Release your regrets
Forgive yourself
Remember who you were before the relationship
Ask for help
Contact local authorities for protective services
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13. Questions?